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College&Coming Out: Peas in a pod?

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For the past month, I have been taking my chances and coming out as a bisexual to people I know. Co-workers, classmates, good friends, roommates and the like. Subsequently, I've become a little ladyboy, fretting my head off at every drop of a hint.(read: my gaydar is stuck on super-sensative). I've had to face rejection a few times

I hung out with a friend over the weekend and I couldn't tell if it was a date or not. we watched a movie, took shots, went to drink wine with ladies, then put some ganj on the burner. I came out to him and he told me then(and re-iterrated the next day) that he loved me anyway. He asked me if I had met anyone, and after I said no, he proceeded to let me know that it would be easier because more people would be coming out since this is college.

After that, he asked what my experience was like in high school and at one point said "ooh, that's not what my experience was like at all" but when I asked him what his preferences were, he said he was straight.

So: Does college really pan out in the end for us gays? or should I just resign myself to waiting until after school?

and obviously: "is he gay?!!oops!?!!!" "could he be into me??:confused:!oops!#-o] "

-fuckin little ladyboy](*,)
 
I have been beating myself over the head a little lately, so thanks for pointing that out.

nothing to do but to do it, i suppose. lady feelings and all.
 
When you hang out with straight people, put yourself in not-here-for-sex mode. Make some non-straight guy friends, go to places where non-straight guys hang out, etc.
 
iiiset that is good advice.. I have somehow managed to do that with all my roommates it is just about the way you see people...
I dont think he was being homophobic when he said that btw... I understand how you came to that conclusions but I think your reading into it.. it was probably just worded wrong.. that being said.. no he is not into you..

It depends where you are I think... I have seen lots of openly gay guys in university..and never had a problem being one myself
 
and wtf is with all this lady bullshit.. I dont know what your talking about but admitting your confusion and fustration is not a bad feminine thing.. you should probably stop thinking like that
 
It's 2010 and I think college is generally a fine place to come out. You will find many (but not all) welcoming people, gay and straight. Pick your friends carefully.

In terms of your friend, well, remember how difficult it was for you to start coming out. Maybe he's straight, maybe he's closeted; it's impossible to tell with what you've told us.

But if he is closeted (best case scenario), he's not as far along his path of accepting himself and coming out as you are. Are you ready to be dragged along on a wild ride of I'm gay, no I'm bi, no I'm straight, no I'm bi, no I'm gay for the right guy, no I'm bi for the right girl.... Again, that's best case scenario. The alternative and equally possible thing is that he's straight. Is he worth the effort?

I think it's best to move on to someone who is already out and accepting of himself.

And use whatever feminine terms you want for yourself. It's funny! It doesn't indicate internalized homophobia or anything. Just have fun with it. (*8*)
 
In fact I'd say that people who are uncomfortable with you calling yourself ladyboy are the ones with the internalized bullshit.

Though I'm quite sure the Lesbians would think that was misogynistic - but then who listens to lesbians?

Anyway, a whole lot of guys come out in college, why? Probably because they are away from parental supervision, and old enough to start dealing with it.

No, your straight friends are probably not gay. There's a chance sure, but as Lube correctly pointed out, unless you want to get on the closet coaster with them, go find some nice, previously out gay boys to perv over.

College is the only time in your life when you get the prerogatives of an adult, with the freedom from responsibility of a kid. Don't waste valuable youth on hangups.

Welcome to Wonderland Alice.
 
I go to college in a very "open" area of the country. I've met so many gay people in so many types and personalities, etc. My next door neighbor in my res hall was gay and my roommate, I just found out, is gay. My general feeling is that, if you are going to a place where your peers are open-minded, things will turn out well and things will get better for everyone. Everyone will be cool with your sexuality and openness.

College is just one of those times, I suppose.
 
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