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Coming Out Age?

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What age did you start coming out? Who was the fist person you came out to?

For me it was my mom when I was 22. It was a big cry fest as she just does not and maybe will not ever understand. Coming out is an ongoing long process but it is so worth it!!! I am still working of being fully out myself, but over the weekend I came out to one of my best guy friends and he accepted it amazingly and was so supportive I almost cried. lol It's moments like this in the process that makes you feel so much better and feel a huge weight lifted.
 
For me it was a bit complicated, I first came out to a close friend when I was 19, but that was as a "bisexual", I then came out to a few other friends, around 5 or 6 then. But I was still too nervous to explore my sexuality. Then at 22 I fully came out to everyone, including my family.
 
was 27 and wish i had done it sooner since everbody seemed to know anyway.
 
I came out at 19, which for me was a little late. My parents were expecting me to be married by 21-22, even though I had never brought anyone home. They were shocked and a little devastated that the baby-socks they had gotten for my children would have to wait a few years for my sister to be old enough.
 
17. I won't say anymore because well, it wasn't a pleasant experience.
 
I lied and came out as bi to my ex-wife when I was 35. I came out to a good female friend as gay when I was 36.
 
25 to everyone. I was in total denial before that, though I always knew I liked guys. Nobody knew (I don't have any of the physical traits or mannerisms that people associate with being gay, or at least didn't at the time), though some people suspected because I'd never had a girlfriend. But once I said the words to someone, and thus to myself, I was just bursting out of the closet in all directions. Within half a year I'd told all my friends and family, and I was walking around with a rainbow on my wrist.

Good times ^_^
 
I was 13, and come out to a girl friend of mine. I only did it because she came out to me, but because of that I decided to come out to everyone. I waited a year to come out to my parents though. They were totally cool with it, and have always been nothing but supportive.
 
As soon as I came out to myself, I was ready to tell friends - 19. One didn't take it well. I mostly made new friends by going to gay events. Family had mixed reactions. There are some I never told because several years later I realized I was bi and they saw me with men. It didn't seem worth the aggravation to point out I still renewed my license to practice lesbianism. I'm not comfortable being back in the closet that way. I'm tempted to wear my "How dare you presume I'm straight" button when I go out with my guy. Or maybe my JUB t-shirt and really confuse everyone.
 
Came out as bisexual when I was 18 to my former youth group leader, told no one else. But I was just in denial. First came out as gay to my brother last year at 19. Rest is history pretty much.
 
I came out at 25 (within the last year). Like rolyo, once I admitted it to myself it started it went pretty quick. It all happened within the course of a couple months. Best decision of my life.
 
For me it was my mid 20s to my Sister, who didn't have a problem with it. My mother did, as did my brother. Being a Christian too he said it was a mental disease and was all set to arrange for psychiatry for me until my sister stepped him (being a mental health nurse) and put him in his place. Now he just pretends that I'm 'straight' and 'normal'.

I don't often say at work. I used to work in a call centre and was spotted eyeing up a well fit bloke with well toned muslces in more than the obvious place and the women in the section I was in then decided I was gay and therefore not a threat and life got on better, but when I moved on to other work from there I decided to keep it quiet.

About 2 years ago a whole bunch of other friends found out that I socialise with and were actually quite positive and open about it, but I still sometimes get myself in a tiz because their brain obviously works faster than mine and they can think of smarter things to say... but they're still friends and keep me sane.

I wouldn't tell some at work, being a trucker they'd get the wrong idea and I might even get stick for it at work, so I keep that under my hat but most truckers are like me, 6ft with a size 40 waistband. I'm not a spring chicken here mate ;)

Got a few openly gay friends and playing around with them can be 'interesting', but for the most part I'm saner than I am now and not as depressed and withdrawn now that the people around me know and stop trying to palm me off on girls. I still have trouble meeting peoples eyes in conversations though, I just get distracted and thinking of other things... anyway... Where were we? :D
 
I sort of fumbled through coming out all through college. I told a few people, then they told a few people, then i slept with a guy who told everyone in order to win a bet. Despite that it was still somewhat an open secret during most of college. I didn't mind letting people know but i also wasn't particularly involved in the university gay scene so it often didn't come up. If people don't ask I don't bother to tell them. I never really had a big dramatic coming out moment with anyone. My parents aren't really around and we hardly have a relationship so I don't feel compelled to share important details of my life with them.
 
There are places and times where it is easier to do things than others. If you're away at University then you could come out there and keep that bubble mostly hidden from your private life. You can have plenty of these 'bubbles' and not make life too complicated.

So with me most of my friends know. My family knows but half chooses to ignore that information and treat me as if I'm 'confused' and Work don't need to know. The last major company I worked for, one of the trainers was not only openly gay and active but he also rotated around and screwed most new guys coming to the job that were amenable for such things. That included the drivers who were so well hung it was difficult for them to hide their manhood in their work trousers :D :D :D
 
^^^ Right. Complications can be already present, or appear. Or go away! It depends on an individual's circumstances.
 
No lasting complications when you come out, unless you're stupid and fuck up your education/career through it. CONSTANT complications while in the closet.

To me those are not two equal options with pros and cons, but a choice between living your life and faking it.
 
I told of cousin of mine when I was around 15 I think, I can't remember exactly how old I was. Then I really only started telling more people when I was 20 and got a job at a restaurant. I thought to myself, "I don't know any of these people, and don't owe them anything, nor do they me. Why not? The worst that happens is they don't like me and we don't talk much at work."

Best thing I ever did. That gave me the confidence to stop trying to hide as much and just be myself. I never really had to "come out" to anyone since then, it's just be sort of a given.
 
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