Coming out Bi

[HorndogPaul]

When I came out to my Dad as Bisexual he was like, "ok." I expected more but when I asked he said, "I kind of already knew." Was not dating at the time I came out. My friends understood. Now I consider myself just gay though since I am in a serious relationship with a man. My boyfriend did wonder about being "bi" but he understood after the first few weeks once he realized he did not have to compete with everyone. I think that is most people's thought, that you want every guy and girl instead of just being the fact you are attracted to both not all.

 

[blackbeltninja]

My GF took it well at the time.

She stopped taking it well 6 months after we broke up and I started seeing a guy, though... she was a mess after that. Not sure if it was because I had moved on (she hoped we'd get back together, but it was never going to happen) or because the replacement was a he, though.

-d-

 

[DonnieDarko]

Well, when I first told few people around that I might be bisexual, they were like - or maybe you're just gay? I don't think they took me seriously or take bisexual people seriously, in general. I know I like men and women, but it's kinda difficult to understand for others.

 

[str8guy]

Hey bud
Told my gf that I was bi and it went okay she was just really upset tht I didn tell her sooner though! What sux now is she knows I'm bi so it's like computation she can't compete w( or that how she says she feels) never told my friends or rents though neve found a reason anyways good luck dude : )

 

[HunterM]

I had not had sex with guys. But I came out. My girlfriend left me. I started fucking guys. Life is good.

 

[DonnieDarko]

That's what I'm scared of. Don't want people to judge me and not take me seriously. Have you told your partners that your Bi? Does it have any effect on the relationship?

I'm not sure if I felt like being judged, but definitely like people weren't taking me seriously or thought that I'm most probably gay that is not brave enough to come clean (as gay). I've never told my ex girlfriend anything, even though I knew back then that I'm bi. I just didn't feel like it was that important, beacuse I was sure that I would NEVER cheat her with anyone. If I'm with her, then I'm with her - that's what I thought and I still stand by it. Now, if I'm hooking up with a guy or a girl, I tell them that I'm bi.

 

[Trosell12]

I came out to my friends and mom. They all took it well. It's not like they were shocked or anything lol. I agree with you saying that you felt it wasn't important telling her. I feel you should only tell people you want too. Not everyone knows that I'm bi-sexual, and I love it being that way.

 

[str8guy]

Thank you that makes my situation seem a bit better, I really want to tell my gf as I do love her. And Thank you for all your feedback guys makes everything clearer.

Nooo worries dude that's what we are here for ; )

 

[gabug01]

My thought as a gay man: i am gay emotionally and physically with men. Straight men are straight physically and emotionally with women. But every bi man i've met is sexual with a man and emotional with a woman. That's not bi in my book, that's denial. I would think that bi means the full range with either a man or a woman not half and half. Am i wrong?

 

[DramaKing]

The problem is defining bisexual really. Now in my book, you're half right. Speaking as a 'bi-guy' exactly as you describe, you have that bit right from my experience too that is generally the case with bi folk ive met. However in most cases it isnt denial either. I just class myself as a sexual person, sex is fun - does it matter who its with? But yet I'd say I am in essence straight - never been in a relationship with a guy (only had sex with one guy too- though we did it a few times)

My general outlook on sexuality is that people tend to have the deep and burning NEED to label. You are either A or B or in D-nile! Sure the labels make things easier in most cases but why can't we all just accept that everyone likes different things! and that bi-linear opposites are just annoying in this case.

Sexuality is difficult enough without people needing to label everything.

 

[BiMike]

I think your partner's reaction will depend on your future proposed behaviour. Do you intend to pursue some form of relationship with another guy , or is it something in your past? It could have a major efect on your future relationship with your partner. There is no point of raising the subject unless you are quite clear what you intend to do about what is probably a clear desire on your part. I do not think there are many girls who would fully accept a truely Bi relationship.