Keep in mind that most of us grow up ashamed of sexuality. It's dirty etc. If your friends are open accept it. He probably is proud of his cock and wants to show it off. If you spread rumors about his size, he'll benefit. He may be a little bi-sexual, but prefers women. As long as everyone's comfortable, they protect your privacy and you're not hurting anyone else, enjoy it.
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Coming out: is this possible? opinions please!
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On the surface, he (actually both of them) sound like exhibitionists. The thing about exhibitionists is that they sometimes are not real sensitive about the comfort level of the person they're exhibiting for. I sense that is the case with you and them.
You can also tell them that it looks like they need some private time next time they decide to get romantic around you and then excuse yourself. Or, you can stay and watch and direct and participate if you want. But, sooner rather than later, the novelty of this will wear off and they will become as stale as re-wound porn. Then where does this relationship go?
Good luck. There are a lot of minefields here, and I doubt it's as innocent as it seems. I fear your friendship with them is in jeopardy. Let us know what happens.
You can also tell them that it looks like they need some private time next time they decide to get romantic around you and then excuse yourself. Or, you can stay and watch and direct and participate if you want. But, sooner rather than later, the novelty of this will wear off and they will become as stale as re-wound porn. Then where does this relationship go?
Good luck. There are a lot of minefields here, and I doubt it's as innocent as it seems. I fear your friendship with them is in jeopardy. Let us know what happens.
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never had that experience myself, but sounds like fun ?
Yep, sounds like averageguy is right.... again. They sound like they just like showing off in front of others. I've had friends like that... but I just was never comfortable with that environment and so they respected that.
Sounds like both of them knew about you before you told them. That's why no reaction from either. The guy was probably just being nice by not telling you that he knew because he didn't want to offend you/have you think that he thought that you were flamy (b/c he probably doesn't). So I wouldn't worry about that. With time, I've gotten to know who knows that I'm gay and who doesn't. And I don't really tell anybody with the whole dramatic "there's something you need to know" deal anymore. But your story makes me think they knew about you before you told them... I like that.
From the sounds of things, this isn't your sort of scene. I'd bet they'd let you join in if you wanted too. I know it sounds like something that EVERY guy would want to do... but that's not true. And the only important thing is that you're honest with yourself and then with them about what you like and don't like. I wouldn't expect to ever end up dating this guy. If you do, I think you'd be in for a world of dissappointment.
Sounds like both of them knew about you before you told them. That's why no reaction from either. The guy was probably just being nice by not telling you that he knew because he didn't want to offend you/have you think that he thought that you were flamy (b/c he probably doesn't). So I wouldn't worry about that. With time, I've gotten to know who knows that I'm gay and who doesn't. And I don't really tell anybody with the whole dramatic "there's something you need to know" deal anymore. But your story makes me think they knew about you before you told them... I like that.
From the sounds of things, this isn't your sort of scene. I'd bet they'd let you join in if you wanted too. I know it sounds like something that EVERY guy would want to do... but that's not true. And the only important thing is that you're honest with yourself and then with them about what you like and don't like. I wouldn't expect to ever end up dating this guy. If you do, I think you'd be in for a world of dissappointment.
It seems liek they're a relaxed couple both open to the sexual spectrum, though they may not actually want to experiment with homosexuality. A lot of couples are like that.
They're comfortable with you and with the concept of having a voyeaur when they have sex, etc.
I would enjoy it for their great ability to accept you and support you.
The rest is just fun
They're comfortable with you and with the concept of having a voyeaur when they have sex, etc.
I would enjoy it for their great ability to accept you and support you.
The rest is just fun
trawler69
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You are very lucky in having this cool couple who obviously care for you and try to make sure you are comfortable with everything. I'm sure they will be a great help to you in coming out. Just keep it all in perspective and go at a pace you are happy with. It's brilliant you have these two to talk your feelings through with.
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wentworth
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This "cat" stuff though....Hey guys, thanks for the replies, they all ment alot to me.
The situation is wierd, but i love it.
The thing i liked about the whole thing was that they told me the whole time that it would be fine if i was wierd with the sex thing. They told me i could stop them and all will be fine, that they would rather have me say it than think it. Which was really respectfull. My buddy kept on saying that its so cool that he could muff his girl, talk to me, play with her without having to worry that im perfing on her. He said that he cant do that with other people... Lol, they where more scared that i was acting gay than anything else?!?
I think the thing that is bothering me is that to me, coming out to anyone is a big deal, a really big deal. I had a bad experience three years ago and was able to cover the whole thing up... Now all of a sudden i come out and its not "please leave", but "cool, please watch"!!
I also have a feeling that they both knew i was gay, but he denied it, saying that he more than anything thought i was a-sexual...
The problem i have now is that i have this urge to come out of the closet to all my other friends... however, none of them are like this one, they are not so liberal... but i dont know!
lol, funny thing, this friend asked me if i liked anal, so i said i dont think so "im still dealing with being gay myself, so i lie". He tells me to stop worrying what life tells me i should like, and accept what i like. He said his girl went anal on him once and it was wierd, but nice...
I am not too sure about it.
Not always. But the ones you've experienced so far more than outwiegh the bad ones.
For those who are afraid of coming out, I feelt hat it's because they don't know how good it is to come out to someone whoa ccepts you. Once you know how that feels, coming out to people who don't accept you means so much less.
I'm happy for you. You've got some good friends.
For those who are afraid of coming out, I feelt hat it's because they don't know how good it is to come out to someone whoa ccepts you. Once you know how that feels, coming out to people who don't accept you means so much less.
I'm happy for you. You've got some good friends.
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Soilwork
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No they're not.
there are plenty of straight men who are just fine with gay men... especailly the ones who like to show off.
for an exhibitionist.. yes.