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Coming Out to your buddies

Mitsukuni

Mitsukuni

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Hey Guys.

I've missed you guys. I was without my laptop for about two weeks. My ac adapter died and had to buy a new one. I've been doing a lot of thinking these past few days. I think its time for me to finally come out to my friends, and then hopefully my family. I've been rehearsing what I'm going to say to them.

I have a group of male friends, I've become close with them. We get together every week to play WoW, and we usually go out for a few beers or play pool. As far as I know they are straight. I am hoping that they will react in a positive manner. I am afraid that they will stop hanging out with me or exclude me from activities. I know what you are thinking if they do act in such manner then they are not truly my friends.

I don't have any openly gay friends. I mean I know of a few but I haven't spoken to them since middle school. I was close to them back then, but I really don't talk to them anymore, save for a comment on facebook or myspace. So I really don't have anybody whom I can talk to or go out with.

I'll end this on a positve note. The reason I've decided to come out is because of five guys I have subscribed on youtube. I am so glad that they post these videos. They have brighten my day, and always put a smile on my face. The internet is such a great tool, where we gay guys can share our emotions, an insecurities. Without further ado here is their link.
http://youtube.com/user/5awesomegays
 
All real freinds will still be yours i have the best freinds in the world as i coudn't tell my mom before she passed as she believed in don't ask don't tell (she knew) just be yourself as that is the only way to live in my opinion.
 
What happens between two persons sexually ought to be personal and very private. This whole"coming out" thing bothers me. Ask yourself, who has a need to know about your sexuality? I have always thought it best for others to draw whatever conclusions their minds might dream up concerning my sexuality. I have been a happy married man and faithful to my marriage vows for many years. But I know who I am and I also had three long-term relationships with males whom I loved then and love still; we just don't have sex with each other any more. I ask: who has to know that part of my journey into the fullness of my sexuality? My circle of friends could always draw their own conclusions; buddies have always done that.
 
Hey Mitsukuni,

I hope you feel really proud about your decision mate... its a very personal and private thing and we each do it our own way, in our own time and for our own reasons. And for you now is obviously the right time... you are ready and you've decided that the freedom that comes with acceptance and honesty is the way to go.

Its funny how we all rehearse for these moments... and yet I can I honestly tell you it will go nothing like you planned!!! Just be you mate... say it the way you would tell someone you cared about anything important. Dont over think it or try too hard to second guess peoples reactions mate... just let them see you, the way you are... and the way you should be. Happy. And open and honest.

And that Mitsukuni will be enough for any of your friends who care about you!
 
Dude, good luck and whatever you do, don't listen to conrad's advice. While that may work for him, an open lifestyle sounds like what would be best for YOU! (*8*)
 
Sorry guys I hadn't posted earlier.

Conrad:
True, it may be nobody's business what whom or what they do in their privacy of their homes or personal life.

Is just I am tired of playing games with myself. When some casual conversation comes and my buddies are "so and so is hot", and everybody is like "yeah I'd do her". I have to go along with the flow. When in reality I don't have the slightest interest in sleeping with a woman. I just wish I could say sorry I don't do vaginas.

Little things like this get to me. Its a little lie here and it just builds up. I'm sure some people may have an idea that I may be gay. I've never been the stereotypical male. I never had a father figure while I was growing up, but I'm not going to blame it on that. I never gave it much thought, and it never really bothered me.

Now that I'm older I realize how much of an important role a father is. I feel jealous when I see the relationship between father and son. I don't know if I'll ever be a parent. That is something that crosses my mind once in a while. But if I do I'll make sure to be there for my kids no matter what.

that is all
 
^ And that mate is more than enough. More power to you and good luck in your journey!
 
Everything you say is so true. I can see you gave it a lot of thought and I can understand that you are tied of pretending.

Follow your heart and let us know how it went.
 
laptop adapters are tooooo expensive

and good luck, I'm sure everything'll be great!
 
tallguy297 said:
Hey Mitsukuni,

I hope you feel really proud about your desicision mate... its a very personal and private thing and we each do it our own way, in our own time and for our own reasons. And for you now is obviously the right time... you are ready and you've decided that the freedom that comes with acceptance and honesty is the way to go.

Its funny how we all rehearse for these moments... and yet I can I honestly tell you it will go nothing like you planned!!! Just be you mate... say it the way you would tell someone you cared about snything important. Dont over think it or try too hard to second guess peoples reactions mate... just let them see you, the way you are... and the way you should be. Happy. And open and honset.

And that Mitsukuni will be enough for any of your friends who care about you!
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Tallguy always hits it dead on. He helped me greatly when I was trying to come out to some of my friends. I was going through the same thing that you are Mitsukuni. Just do it and have faith that your friends will accept you. If they don't, then they aren't worth your time. Trust me, coming out to your friends is a great experience. It really lets you know who your friends truly are. When you do it, good luck.
 
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