I have been stuck with this issue for ages and I decided to tell one of my closest friends I'm gay. I'm really scared but I don't want to chicken out on it. If he would tell others my world is going to collapse in front of me. Should I do it ?
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bigbear13201
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It'll take some time to work up to that during the conversation, I'm sure.
I just came out right after New years, and prefer to do it face to face. I have a very small circle of true friends. One I did tell over the phone (we worked together, and I can't recall the last time I actually saw her). My family / mother was a face to face last Tuesday.
My one buddy I told last Saturday, outside a local diner at 2am. ( We just finished tiling his backsplash for 5 hours and I was hungry). His reaction was a handshake, a hug, then asking when I was planning our next trip to Germany (he is straight, so no harm no foul). We stood against the side of the diner for an hour, talking about life and dreams. So at 3 am I drove 90 minutes home, so glad to have a friend like him.
I'll tell my other close buddy probably Friday night, over a beer or two.
"Those who know but don't care matter; those who know and do care don't matter". Dr. Suess
Good Luck.
I just came out right after New years, and prefer to do it face to face. I have a very small circle of true friends. One I did tell over the phone (we worked together, and I can't recall the last time I actually saw her). My family / mother was a face to face last Tuesday.
My one buddy I told last Saturday, outside a local diner at 2am. ( We just finished tiling his backsplash for 5 hours and I was hungry). His reaction was a handshake, a hug, then asking when I was planning our next trip to Germany (he is straight, so no harm no foul). We stood against the side of the diner for an hour, talking about life and dreams. So at 3 am I drove 90 minutes home, so glad to have a friend like him.
I'll tell my other close buddy probably Friday night, over a beer or two.
"Those who know but don't care matter; those who know and do care don't matter". Dr. Suess
Good Luck.
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You seem to have an inner need in conflict with "what ifs." this is our great hurdle when making major decisions and what can keep people in the closet for a lifetime.
On the one hand, we face risk everytime we open the door and walk outside. On the other hand, no one else but you knows your perceived risk in being outed, or your notion of the integrity of your friend. This part of being gay pisses me off-the fact that we face this critical moment alone, except for moral support.
It would be so easy to tell you to go for it, and that's what I want to do, but I'm not in your shoes, living your life. Maybe, if your inner need to tell isn't greater than your fear of your life crashing down around you, you're not ready. Either way, I offer my moral support and wish you well.
On the one hand, we face risk everytime we open the door and walk outside. On the other hand, no one else but you knows your perceived risk in being outed, or your notion of the integrity of your friend. This part of being gay pisses me off-the fact that we face this critical moment alone, except for moral support.
It would be so easy to tell you to go for it, and that's what I want to do, but I'm not in your shoes, living your life. Maybe, if your inner need to tell isn't greater than your fear of your life crashing down around you, you're not ready. Either way, I offer my moral support and wish you well.
It's been crushing my school prestations. I used to get good grades and I'm just asking myself one question can I trust him for telling him my secret. His little brother is gay so he doesn't really care about the gay part and if he outs me I will deny it. Cause if I get outed my life will be a living hell. And I'm under a lot of pressure
I've had been walking with it for 9 years it needs to go
Ganoderma
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hi Robbert,
Best wishes when you tell one of your best friends something very important about yourself. It is encouraging to read that your brother has a little brother who is also gay, and that your best friend does not care about the gay part of his little brother.
I tend to think that this will mean that your best friend will like it that you will tell him something about yourself. Likely (?) he will have some clues, as you will not have a girlfriend, and it seems likely as well that you avoid all kind of discussions about girlstuff? Does your best friend has a girlfriend?
I was wondering about that little brother of your best friend. Is his life also ruined, and is his world also collapsed?
You don't need to tell this details to us, but how comes you are so scared that you future will collapse when people around you are aware that you are 'not into girls'? How comes you are sure that your life will be ruined when this becomes obvious? What's your age? What's your background? You are having a job, or still schooling? Are you only surrounded by hardcore homophobes?
Please be aware that I don't want to force you to tell more about this, but I am just wondering about it. Especially because you told us that the little brother of your best friend is also a gay, and that your best friend is cool about that.
Take care, good luck, and I really hope all will go well.
It would be nice if you might us inform about the reactions of your friend.
Best wishes when you tell one of your best friends something very important about yourself. It is encouraging to read that your brother has a little brother who is also gay, and that your best friend does not care about the gay part of his little brother.
I tend to think that this will mean that your best friend will like it that you will tell him something about yourself. Likely (?) he will have some clues, as you will not have a girlfriend, and it seems likely as well that you avoid all kind of discussions about girlstuff? Does your best friend has a girlfriend?
I was wondering about that little brother of your best friend. Is his life also ruined, and is his world also collapsed?
You don't need to tell this details to us, but how comes you are so scared that you future will collapse when people around you are aware that you are 'not into girls'? How comes you are sure that your life will be ruined when this becomes obvious? What's your age? What's your background? You are having a job, or still schooling? Are you only surrounded by hardcore homophobes?
Please be aware that I don't want to force you to tell more about this, but I am just wondering about it. Especially because you told us that the little brother of your best friend is also a gay, and that your best friend is cool about that.
Take care, good luck, and I really hope all will go well.
It would be nice if you might us inform about the reactions of your friend.
I did it and he admitted he was bi himself. It was such a relievement to know that he is bi
Ganoderma
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hi Robbert,
Great to hear that you have told your best friend that you are gay, and that he also has admitted something about himself.
I hope you feel relaxed right now and I also hope that your self esteem gets a positive boost as you have opened yourself to your very best friend.
Congratulated, and I hope you will have a wonderful weekend.
Take care
Ahhh Ty so much. I am relieved I said it. And I maybe can get a BF now lol XD
