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Your therapist is there to help you. As long as you're comfortable and if you think telling him or her about it will help you along with yoru anxieties, then I'd say yes.
 
I think it would be a good idea to be as honest as possible with him or her.
 
Therapists should be neutral about information like that. A good therapist will just take it down as another note on the page, so to speak, and take it into consideration when helping you with other issues.

From the therapist's perspective, they believe that more information is always a good thing.
 
i think you should tell him.

i was sent to a few different psychologist-types when i was a wee lad and i regret not sharing my sexuality with them, they probably could have helped me and i definitely needed someone to talk it over with but i could never bring myself to let them into my head.

it's something i regret not doing as i'm sure it would have lessened my anxiety, and maybe my depression, which nearly killed me..
 
Very very few people don't freak out because you are gay, even with mens men type, and with him being a therapist, I am sure he won't freak at all.
 
You didn't say how long you've been seeing him, but don't they usually ask about your sex life at some point? What did you say?
 
Most definitely tell him. You not telling him you're bisexual is like hiding a symptom from your doctor. You want to give your doctor AND your therapist the most honest and accurate picture of where you're at, so they can be best equipped to help you out.

If he's got issues with it, as someone else said, he shouldn't be a therapist, and you can find yourself another one.

Lex
 
So after 72 visits, you think you're ready to tell him you're bisexual? If not, please leave him and find someone you DO feel comfortable telling that to.

Lex
 
It was akward for me to tell mine... of course I came out on the first visit, and that was sorta important to do since family issues with me being gay was the reason I was going to see him. It definitely helped though, and I agree, if you're not ready to tell your therapist that you're bi after all these visits, then it's probably time to start looking for a new one.
 
nycboy,

You live in NYC, where there are dozens of therapists who are in a better position to help you if your present one cannot. Look into your other options -- because if you cannot tell your therapist about your bisexual feelings you're not benefitting from the sessions as much as you should be.
 
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