Commiting to someone.

[Ehalahepl]

Im not sure this is the right word to use but I'm curious for those of you who have been in long commited relationships, how long did it take you to commit to eachother.

I guess what im really asking is when is too soon? I can't use the word marriage (not yet at least) but this is what im comparing it to.

What is even an acceptable way to ask?

Has anyone had a ceremonie like a marriage? Not saying it has to be like the straight institution either, just asking for comparisons.

Any help would be appreciated.

 

[G-Lexington]

I don't know when we both felt really comfortable together. Maybe six months to a year after moving in together? We did have a little ceremony - a strange one. I was eligible for health care through my partner's company if we had this thing notarized. We decided to do that, and consider that notarization to be our "event". Our friend did the honors. We had a little party at her house, a couple guests came, and we got gifts.

Lex

 

[bluedragon4]

people should take time to date and even date others at the same time. When I was single I hated how I would go on one date with someone and it was expected we weren't dating others. I met so many men that moved way to fast. I was all about fun and not being married by the 3rd date. Nothing is more of a turn off than desperation. I think that's why I always had a date. I was fun and light about dating. You know when the time is right to commit. But I think 3 months is a healthy amount of time.

 

[mojoe54]

My partner and I were both involved with other people when we met. I had been in a relationship for almost four years, but it just wasn't working out. When I met my guy,it really was love at first sight, but we tried not to rush it. I left my other bf and got my own apartment. My new guy and I decided we should be free to date other people, but that didn't last for long,because we really only wanted to be with each other. After about six months I moved in with him, and we have been together ever since. That was 30 years ago!! This year we are celebrating our anniversary by finally having a ceremony. We will speak our vows of marriage in front of friends and family. How the world has changed in 30 years! Best wishes to you and your partner.bb

 

[tonyboy]

My partner and I were both involved with other people when we met. I had been in a relationship for almost four years, but it just wasn't working out. When I met my guy,it really was love at first sight, but we tried not to rush it. I left my other bf and got my own apartment. My new guy and I decided we should be free to date other people, but that didn't last for long,because we really only wanted to be with each other. After about six months I moved in with him, and we have been together ever since. That was 30 years ago!! This year we are celebrating our anniversary by finally having a ceremony. We will speak our vows of marriage in front of friends and family. How the world has changed in 30 years! Best wishes to you and your partner.bb

What a great story.... I love to read stuff like that.
It makes me very sad gay guys, generally, have a tough time finding what you and you mate have found.
My best to you both.
Sincerely friend....... that is so damn nice.

 

[Ehalahepl]

thanks for the responses guys, appreciate it

 

[Shepherd 2]

It was a period of about fifteen months.
With the commitment we made several living changes.
Shep+