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Common cause for a relationship breakup

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I know there are many, just curious to know how common is jealousy? What was the most common causes in your life? personality, boredom, found a new guy?
How painful was it?
 
Shrug.

I get bored easily. I've broken up with 2 people because of this. 8 months to a year is a healthy relationship length for me. Past that I start to fall out of love and just want to be single again (not to whore around, just to be unattached).

I've been broken up with by a girl for "lack of drama" though. She wanted more sparks and for me to be more jealous. I just really don't get in that frame of mind.

My last boyfriend couldn't handle the whole 'bi' thing and broke up with me because I wouldn't "come out completely".

That's about it. Anything less than 2 months isn't a relationship for me.
 
virgoboy said:
I know there are many, just curious to know how common is jealousy? What was the most common causes in your life? personality, boredom, found a new guy?
How painful was it?
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This hasn't happened in any of my relationships, but I have seen many others go through break-ups and I would say the most common reason is a lack of communication. Lack of communication can lead to jealousy sometimes.
 
I think the problem is getting into a rut or growing apart.

With my first ex, I found that the longer we were together the less we had in common. Actually, we had nothing in common, but I was young and foolish and just happy to be in a relationship for the first time...As such, I over looked a lot of things.

Surprisingly, and perhaps snobbishly, I realized things weren't going to work when we were reading some trivial pursuit questions at a coffee house and he had to have me explain to him what the Roman Empire was.

I know that might make me seem like an intellectual snob...But, there was no real intellectual stimulation, which in turn caused me to grow bored in the relationship.

So yes, boredom and growing apart is usually what I find destroys a relationship.
 
Um... knowing what the Roman Empire is does not make you an intellectual snob.....! Perhaps it was a good idea you left that one! o.o
 
Jealousy yes, but also with that an unhealthy serving of fear that the guys he was shagging 'behind my back' were probably about to infect me with something. I've had three partners and a few boyfriends only, and except for the first partner, whom I still like quite a lot, they all slept around and never tolerated me not tolerating it. I'd like to think I had some small reason to maintain my self-esteem, so standing by knowingly while guys with no sound morals sleep with a guy who beds me can't happen. It's actually really, really cruel to sleep around without clear and explicit, unmanipulated permission from the others you sleep with or claim to adore.
 
My first ex wanted to test the waters..behind my back. He was talking to multiple guys at once. I'm not sure if they ever did anything physical, but the emotional cheating was there...leading up to the physical. Of course I knew he was cheating because all the signs were there...but I just needed actual confirmation. Once I got it I was gone. Looking back on it, we had nothing in common... I dont even think we were "friends."
 
Unfaithfulness. Is that a word? Anyway, that was my experience.

They just can't keep their dicks in their pants for long.

This is why I gave up and just became a slut and now I'm on a porn site all the time.

:D :wave:
 
Lack of trust, communicate, cheating, .

But lucky for us(my honey and I) we have made it work for us. We are celebrating our 27th yr together come August 6th. And we could not be happier...
 
I think almost always sexual incompatibility is at the root of a breakup. There can certainly be other issues, but if both people are sexuallly satisfied, they can usually figure out a way to make the relationship work.
 
Jealousy has ruined many relationships, selfishness, conflict of personalities, greed, etc. Small cocks have probably ruined a few...
 
A relationship can only survive if theirs trust and passion. I never been a relationship "I just dream and lust a lot". However, although being faithful is no issue to me "If I like/love U, that's not going to change tomorrow, a month, or 25 years later... unless you hurt/betray me", but I genuinely believe I lack passion and a rather boring person and that might make just about anyone want to leave me:(
 
Jealousy in many forms (looks, money, friends/social life) I would say is pretty common. Boredom is probably the other. I can't even count how many dates I have walked out on because the guy just left me so bored.
 
Insecurities on both parts. Lack of being able to compromise and find common ground. Them cheating. Poor communication. Basing the relationship on lust. Them realizing just how much WORK a relationship is...

... to name a few from my experiences.
 
birddog7 said:
Small cocks have probably ruined a few...
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Somewhat contrary to my forum comment, I'm actually going to agree with you. A small cock could potentially bring an end to a relationship I was a part of. Not because of the small cock itself (note my other comments), but if it was how the person defined himself and his worth. There's an entire person attached to that cock, and that's who I'd be in a relationship with, not the cock itself. You're paying far too much attention to the external and the trivial. Besides, last I checked, a single finger can induce immense pleasure when massaging the prostate. Five inches of cock, especially when attached to a man I love, could do a whole lot more.

Answer me this; would you turn a man down, or break up with him, because he wasn't well endowed? Would you really want to be in a relationship that would only exist if you were well endowed yourself?

You're failing to see that a man has more to offer than his cock, and that there is more to a relationship than just the sex. Sure, there are a whole lot of shallow individuals out there, but do you honestly believe it would make you happy to be 'loved' by them only for your physical form and not for who you are as a person?

You are such a kindhearted individual. I see so often when other people on the boards put themselves down, you're there to throw them a compliment and pick them right back up again. I just wish you would show even half of that kindness to yourself.

:kiss:
 
Anders123 said:
Somewhat contrary to my forum comment, I'm actually going to agree with you. A small cock could potentially bring an end to a relationship I was a part of. Not because of the small cock itself (note my other comments), but if it was how the person defined himself and his worth. There's an entire person attached to that cock, and that's who I'd be in a relationship with, not the cock itself. You're paying far too much attention to the external and the trivial. Besides, last I checked, a single finger can induce immense pleasure when massaging the prostate. Five inches of cock, especially when attached to a man I love, could do a whole lot more.

Answer me this; would you turn a man down, or break up with him, because he wasn't well endowed? Would you really want to be in a relationship that would only exist if you were well endowed yourself?

You're failing to see that a man has more to offer than his cock, and that there is more to a relationship than just the sex. Sure, there are a whole lot of shallow individuals out there, but do you honestly believe it would make you happy to be 'loved' by them only for your physical form and not for who you are as a person?

You are such a kindhearted individual. I see so often when other people on the boards put themselves down, you're there to throw them a compliment and pick them right back up again. I just wish you would show even half of that kindness to yourself.

:kiss:
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A guys endowment has nothing to do with my opinion of him, or any attraction that may be there. I'm no size queen. It's my size that bothers me, not the size of any potential male friends.

I suffer from the Adonis complex quite badly. It's my physical image that concerns me. I wish I could get over that, but I'm not sure that's possible. I think some of us are "programmed" that way.
 
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