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Complicated situation, I'd love to hear your thoughts

Hey Dragon,

I really hope that I'm wrong, but it's hard to believe (by reading/following this thread from the very beginning) that you would easily place him "on the back burner" if you found another guy. It seems to me that you really want him to like you back, but it's not too easy for him to reciprocate. He views you as a friend that he can hang out with and go to clubs/restaurants with. He's looking for a friend, but you, unfortunately, are looking for something more.

Once again, I HOPE I am wrong. Constructive criticism is always a positive, right? ;-)
 
orton86 said:
Hey Dragon,

I really hope that I'm wrong, but it's hard to believe (by reading/following this thread from the very beginning) that you would easily place him "on the back burner" if you found another guy. It seems to me that you really want him to like you back, but it's not too easy for him to reciprocate. He views you as a friend that he can hang out with and go to clubs/restaurants with. He's looking for a friend, but you, unfortunately, are looking for something more.

Once again, I HOPE I am wrong. Constructive criticism is always a positive, right? ;-)
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I'd have to agree with orton's observation. I'm rooting for you, dragon. I want a happy ending to your story. So, keep us posted :D
 
Well so yesterday I helped him move in, we went to his friends house and got all of his crap, then went to his new roommates apartment and moved all her big furniture in the house. I really like his new roommate she's cool. After we were done putting all the big stuff in place we went out to eat the three of us. Then Me and him went to walmart and got some essentials and then we got back to his house.

He jumped in the shower before bed and I got undressed to my boxers. I was playing with his dog while he was in the shower and he comes out wearing nothing but a towel. He says that he forgot about his boxers to which I reply "You don't really need to wear any" He just laughed and went to his closet to find some. He comes out in a t shirt and boxers and gets in bed. I then tell him "That it's officially your job to keep me warm tonight" He then asked how do you want me to do that and I said "Use your imagination" he then responded that he'll just fart all night. And nothing happened after that he fell asleep.

So in the middle of the night I get real close to him and I wrap my arm around him and we stayed asleep like that spooning and we even switched spoons at some point so I'm thinking maybe I'll do something with his morning wood. But no he wakes up before me and starts rearranging stuff in the house. I helped him all morning with stuff with the house but nothing happened.

Oh well now he's booted out of the friends with benefits category too. I think I'm gonna ask him why he asked me to spend the night if he wasn't gonna sleep with me. Maybe he wanted me to make the first move or something but I don't know. But other than that unless he specifically says "do you want to have sex" or something I'm just gonna stay friends with him and not expect much from him.

I'm probably gonna hang out with him still maybe with the chick he's renting the room out to too. But I'm not gonna wait around for something that's not gonna happen I've got better things to do with my time.

I can't say that I'm super distraught by this, I mean sure I want a boyfriend or a fuck buddy, but I'm not desperate and I'll find someone else. I like him but in my head I knew things (other than the FWB thing) probably wouldn't work out anyways.

Oh well dating him was fun but like I said I don't think this is really going anywhere at the present moment and I'm not gonna stay stuck on him.
 
Oh and Orton I appreciate your concern and stuff but I know that I am looking for a relationship right now and I also know that I'm not going to find one with him, but that doesn't mean that I can't have a little fun I mean I'm not too much of the hookup with a random guy type but I mean I know him and if we can do things no strings attached then cool.

Had we become Friends with Benefits, I wouldn't stop looking for any dating prospects or turn any down for the sake of him. I don't think that it's going to be an issue but I think I'm just gonna chalk this entire thing to experience and learn from it.
 
Yeah, sounds like you laid it on thick and gave him all the hints. He understood you and CHOSE to ignore it. There's no clearer message than that - he either isn't interested or, worse, is too confused to act on what he wants. Both of those tell you to stay away.
 
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