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CONDOM for oral sex?

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wikke1

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Hi guys
I think I could be having seks for the first time ever (I'm quite old already).
It's with this guy I met a few times. He's a lot older than me, and I know he has a lot of sexual experience/partners ...
If we get to oral seks, I know we should both wear a condom (if Mutual oral seks of course :-) ) to be totally safe.
Will it make the whole "first time" only more akward? Will the other guy maybe be offended because I would like to use a condom? Am I exaggerating for wanting to use a condom?
Any tips, although I know I'm stressing out far too much, which will probably ruin any chance at a nice first experience...
 
Here's my advice: I don't imagine many guys use condoms when engaging in oral sex. I've never been asked to put one on for oral, and likewise wouldn't require my partner to wear one, either. As far as HIV goes, oral sex is a very unlikely vector for the transmission of HIV; however, other STIs are easier to transmit via oral sex, and requiring a condom can be a valid concern.

If you decide that you want to use condoms, though, I'd suggest having a discussion with him long before the sex actually happens - perhaps in another location besides where the sex will (hopefully) take place. When you're in the heat of the moment, concerns disappear (more easily).
 
thanks, that's the thing, I keep reading that you should wear a condom for a BJ to be 100% safe, but then everything I read eg. on this forum etc. is that it is apparently "not done" ...
I'm probably stressing too much...
 
wikke1 said:
thanks, that's the thing, I keep reading that you should wear a condom for a BJ to be 100% safe, but then everything I read eg. on this forum etc. is that it is apparently "not done" ...
I'm probably stressing too much...
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To clarify some of the confusion about condoms and blowjobs...

There's always a certain amount of risk. Just like crossing the street in traffic or being on a commercial airplane, you have to accept a certain amount of risk when you have sex.

When it comes to HIV, oral sex has a lower risk. For things like chlamydia, gonorrhea or HPV, oral sex has higher risk but that risk is not only that you'll catch it- the risk is that your partner has it and will transmit it to you. And that's where most guys have to make the decision.

If you're dating someone and you know a little bit about their sexual history, you might consider oral sex without a condom to be a risk you're willing to take.

On the other hand, if you're blowing guys in bathhouses or picking up anonymous guys from Grindr/Craigslist, maybe you want to think about where their dick has been before if finds its way into your mouth. And that's when you might want to either consider the condom or maybe give some thought to whether a blowjob with a stranger is worth the risk at all.
 
Just for fun and to see what it was like, my partner and I once wore condoms for oral sex. I have to say it was pretty weird. It felt like sucking a dildo or something else artificial (not that I know what sucking a dildo is like). Although I could feel the heat of his cock through the condom, I missed the taste of him and the sensation of mouth on skin we normally had. Now, had I not known what it was like to suck him without a condom, it might have been different.

I am amazed how many guys see oral sex with strangers as a mostly safe sexual experience. Personally, just the thought of kissing a stranger on the mouth grosses me out, let alone the idea of his dick coming anywhere near my face.
 
It's just that I'm 28, and I'm guessing no matter who I meet, they will probably never be as "virgin" as me.
Thet will Always have a certain past. You just never know, do you? Not even with someone you "know" for a certain time, maybe they themselves don't even know they're infected with something ...
Sucking a stranger indeed doesn't sound like a smart idea, but it's not like "knowing somebody" suddenly makes them 100% safe either, unless you know for a fact (and how could you ever) they never had seks before or you go to have an STDtest together... So that's why I find the whole situation so ambivalent, either always use a condom or just don't (for oral seks).
So that's that. If I decide to go forward and maybe having seks with this guy (which I'm starting to second guess more and more now :roll: ), it will have to be with condom. If that freaks him out, bad luck for him.
 
wikke1 said:
It's just that I'm 28, and I'm guessing no matter who I meet, they will probably never be as "virgin" as me.
Thet will Always have a certain past. You just never know, do you? Not even with someone you "know" for a certain time, maybe they themselves don't even know they're infected with something ...
Sucking a stranger indeed doesn't sound like a smart idea, but it's not like "knowing somebody" suddenly makes them 100% safe either, unless you know for a fact (and how could you ever) they never had seks before or you go to have an STDtest together... So that's why I find the whole situation so ambivalent, either always use a condom or just don't (for oral seks).
So that's that. If I decide to go forward and maybe having seks with this guy (which I'm starting to second guess more and more now :roll: ), it will have to be with condom. If that freaks him out, bad luck for him.
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BTW, in my language S E X is written SEKS, so that's why it keeps auto-correcting like that. Can't help it...
 
wikke1 said:
thanks, that's the thing, I keep reading that you should wear a condom for a BJ to be 100% safe, but then everything I read eg. on this forum etc. is that it is apparently "not done" ...
I'm probably stressing too much...
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You need to do whatever makes you feel comfortable!!! If you ask for a condom and he says 'no.' Then, that's a red flag!!! If you are stressing beforehand, just think how bad you'll be stressing afterwards without the condom!!!

I don't think it's too much to ask to keep it "safe" at least until you are both tested!!!
 
wikke1 said:
It's just that I'm 28, and I'm guessing no matter who I meet, they will probably never be as "virgin" as me.
Thet will Always have a certain past. You just never know, do you? Not even with someone you "know" for a certain time, maybe they themselves don't even know they're infected with something ...
Sucking a stranger indeed doesn't sound like a smart idea, but it's not like "knowing somebody" suddenly makes them 100% safe either, unless you know for a fact (and how could you ever) they never had seks before or you go to have an STDtest together... So that's why I find the whole situation so ambivalent, either always use a condom or just don't (for oral seks).
So that's that. If I decide to go forward and maybe having seks with this guy (which I'm starting to second guess more and more now :roll: ), it will have to be with condom. If that freaks him out, bad luck for him.
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So true!!! You never know when people are being deceitful!!! It's easy to say, "no, I haven't done this or that...". It's impossible to know someone's true past, like you said.
 
I've had guys wear condoms for oral sex. As long as you get the non-lubricated kind for oral, it's not so bad.
 
^ No me neither and I`ve blown a few in my time...guys I mean, not Mars Bars :D Like you say, so long as you get yourself checked out now and again, there`s nothing to worry about from oral sex.
 
^Really , in that "once in a while , is enough for Ghonoreah , Chlamydia , HPV6-7 , even scarier HPV16 and 18 , Hep A B and C .
OOOPS......Forgot Syphillis...........#-o

Mate if you are averaging a couple of *conquest* a week , then get your self checked EVERY month .
 
See, as much as I appreciate all of you guys' input, this isn't helping ;) *SIGH*
 
medic1 said:
^Really , in that "once in a while , is enough for Ghonoreah , Chlamydia , HPV6-7 , even scarier HPV16 and 18 , Hep A B and C .
OOOPS......Forgot Syphillis...........#-o

Mate if you are averaging a couple of *conquest* a week , then get your self checked EVERY month .
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If I was averaging a couple of conquests a week I wouldn't have so much time to spend on here :D Of course I get myself checked out but equally, I`m not jumping into a bio-hazard suit before I can even go near another bloke.
 
wikke1 said:
See, as much as I appreciate all of you guys' input, this isn't helping ;) *SIGH*
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You need to chill, mate. Any sexual encounter carries a certain amount of risk and if, after taking whatever precaution you deem necessary, you still can`t accept this, well, maybe you should just have a wank instead.
 
I had a straight room mate and he went with me to Amsterdam. The next morning he looked real tired I said no sleep he said no around 3am went to the red like district. Hot head from a hot girl I said really he said yeah you can not touch her you wash your junk she put a condom on and sucks you off. Two weeks later back at our place he was real horny I said let me suck you off man you do not need a condom we were both a little high. Two hours or me rimming his hot ass and sucking him off twice and as h left my room for his he said you did it better grin!
 
The risk of getting HIV from just oral sex is very low. Then there are hepatitis, HPV, and STD.

You can get a vaccine for Hepatitis A and B. My doctor gave me Twinrix.

If you are under the age of 26, you can get a vaccination for HPV too.

STDs can be cured in 7-10 days with antibiotics.

The recommended cycle for getting tested is every three months for sexually active people. Be sure to get your throat swabbed if you perform oral sex. Get your ass swabbed if you bottom.

Having sex requires educating yourself and managing the risks. Don't do anything you feel uncomfortable doing.
 
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