Confronting a friend after blowing him.

[turnandburn]

Alright well I took my best buddy to a soccer game last night for his birthday and long story short we got really drunk. He is straight (as far as I know. I do know he did a little experimenting a couple years ago but never confirmed anything) and I am... Bi I guess now. I really cant say how it happened because all I remember was trying to carry him up to the hotel room while trying to stay on my feet myself and then we were in the bed. At this point I found myself massaging his cock through his underwear. (I don't know why it felt appropriate for me to do this.) He started to moan a little and whatnot, and I specifically remember everything past this point. I asked him "Want me to suck you off?" and he nodded. So I went to town on him, Not once, not twice, not three times, but four times, and he came every single time. The whole time he was really into it, massaging my head, answering questions when I asked, at one point he even said "fuck me". So I think it was fair of me to assume he was coherent at this point. All in all it was every thing I could have asked for, this being the whole cliche, "having a major crush on your straight best friend" thing. However we woke up this morning and he didnt say a word. We havent talked about it at all I cant decide between maybe he was just to drunk to realize it was me doing to him or maybe he just doesn't want to talk about it. I really want to talk to him but I'm thinking I should just leave this can of worms unopened...

Thoughts on what I should do?

 

[seven2go]

After cumming FOUR TIMES he was not THAT drunk and I have no doubt he remembers everything.
Let sleeping dogs lie........if he's interested in more action let him broach the subject.......

 

[turnandburn]

After cumming FOUR TIMES he was not THAT drunk and I have no doubt he remembers everything.
Let sleeping dogs lie........if he's interested in more action let him broach the subject.......

Exactly, and he finished himself off one of the times... Just odd that he didn't say anything. see where it goes I guess...

 

[seven2go]

He may be suffering from something I mentioned in another thread: "Post cum regret" which is usually a pretty short lived malady.......as in the next time he's horny it'll probably be a whole new game........so don't think the game is over just yet......
If you really want to persue things you might want to "accidently" adjust yourself when he might be looking........there are numerous innocuous ways to throw hints without saying a thing.

 

[racer2438]

I would just leave alone for now, he may end up being wierd about and close up, start avoiding you, no calls and stuff like that. It may have been just a drunk thing, but I am sure he knew after 4x's. If he does this, then I would try and talk to him about it in a none confronting way and just ask him, "hey man, you know the other night I just wanted to make sure you were ok and all and kinda blame it on the drunk thing" see if he opens up about it.

Hopefully he does not get all wierd on you about what happened, and you can enjoy another frollic later on.

 

[masterjoda]

I've been in your shoes plenty of times before and seven2go's "post cum regret" is a pretty common thing. After getting off, a lot of guys get really weirded out by what's happened. (Even though it may be something they've lusted after for awhile.)

Your best bet is to be like the Fonz and play it cool. If he thinks the friendship is still the same as before and you aren't going to get clingy or weird about it, he'll most likely relax and be willing to try it again. Just wait it out and give him his space if he needs it. Eventually he'll be willing to let it happen again. Good luck!

 

[trjnguy88]

I wouldnt confront him about it yet. If he hasnt mentioned it,chances are he could be embaressed. Or he could be regretting what he did. And if thats the case, you might be opening up a can of worms for yourself. I Would go about it like nothing happened. who knows,If you and you friend hang out alot, maybe it will happen again.

 

[tallchuck]

I did this once (well, other than the 4x....), a long time ago, and decided I really should bring it up a couple days later. After all the guy was a good friend. It was a bit awkward to discuss, but it worked out great -- he was glad to have tried it (he did the honors, too); he wasn't looking for a repeat; but he was cool about the possibility that I might be bi.

Of course, people aren't all the same, so my story might not be the same as yours.

 

[innocentbychoice]

Let him bring it up. If you do it you'll make him uncomfortable.

 

[On The Edge]

I agree with the others to just leave it...act normal...I'm sure he thought about speaking about it and not too...

 

[ezwriter]

He's probably pissed because he told you to fuck him, and you just kept sucking his dick.

He wanted to be your bitch and you didn't step up.

 

[bankside]

If you start something spontaneous and spur of the moment, I'm not sure you can finish it with a big epic discussion. He probably wants to be sure life is still normal, and he probably won't admit to enjoying it until he's sure things are normal.

 

[rjason2425]

My advice, make sure you dont act weird. You need to act as you always did. This will assure him that you dont feel weirded out. Then he will be comfortable. Next time you have some drinks casually say that was fun last time we hung out. He will let you know if it ok or not. If not say, alright no biggie but you know whete to find me if you change your mind. Ot he might be glad you finally brought it up because he was unsure how you would respond.

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My advice, make sure you dont act weird. You need to act as you always did. This will assure him that you dont feel weirded out. Then he will be comfortable. Next time you have some drinks casually say that was fun last time we hung out. He will let you know if it ok or not. If not say, alright no biggie but you know whete to find me if you change your mind. Ot he might be glad you finally brought it up because he was unsure how you would respond.