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You're basically straight, I'd guess. If it makes you comfortable then define yourself to yourself as basically straight with some "tendencies."

Over time, your pull may be towards one or the other. There's nothing wrong with you. You're not confused at all. There's nothing wrong with being in the position you are. Most human beings are.
 
Sounds a lot like myself, I'm not gay myself, i'm straight but some times I find men a lot easyer to connect with, every man is like this, men always bond and connect very well anyway regardless of being straight or gay. It sounds like your straight to me but maybe your not speaking to the right women, you need to look around a bit, there are a lot of different types of women so you just need to find one that suits your personality and one that matches youself on a interlectual level so you can connect with them. Seeing girls as a sexual object is nothing new, all men do it (Straight men). I'm not sure of your age but with time you will begin to see girls in a different way.

I hope this helps

EDIT: You maybe BI, look around when your out in a super market and see what your attracted to.
 
Hey Bi-Polar! :wave:

Bi-Polar said:
i think i will try having a boyfriend and see what its like
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A same-sex relationship can be a fun, safe way to explore our sexualities and while deeply connecting with another person. But it is of absolute, crucial importance that you be 100% honest with whomever you're dating. Even more important is that you carefully evaluate whether or not you actually want to be in a relationship (instead of only wanting to explore your sexuality.) You should be careful not to mislead somebody into thinking you want to develop an intimate connection if you anticipate the possibility that you might flee. Trust me, somebody will get hurt!

Maybe you can find something that's not quite a relationship? I'll bet good money that you're not the only guy around who's looking to explore.

Have fun, be safe, and don't worry about your sexuality. If it feels good, do it - but don't be a dick. ..|
 
just enjoy life!!! and fuck labels and haters do what u fell
 
How do you mean, exactly? Coming out to friends or family? Telling them without their asking? Or only when I was confronted?

It's hard to tell people you're bi, I know. I only say so if someone incorrectly states that I'm gay (or otherwise).

Oddly enough, I tell people that I'm gay, sometimes. It's just easier, I guess. Strange. I must seem insecure to those who've heard both stories.
 
Telling them without them asking is the only way I found it would work for me. If someone had asked me if i was gay (cuz being bi never occurs to people until they know someone who is bi) I would just simply say no. This is when I realized for me to actually come out, I would have to bring the topic up myself.

When I came out to my best friend, I told him that there was something I needed to talk to him about. Even from there, once I got the freedom to steer the conversation exactly where I wanted to, I couldn't say it. I kept saying things like "I want to talk to you about this, but I don't know if I can." and other phrases that just beat around the bushes. With much consolation from my friend that I could tell him anything, that he wants to help out, I finally just blurt out "Truth is, I'm bi."

This point is one of the moments in life where time freezes. At least for me it did. This was the first time I ever said the words "I'm bi" out loud let alone to someone else. And the fact that this is my closest friend, who is straight, and not knowing how he'd react didn't really help. I sat and watched him ponder what I just said a moment then he responded "Ok. I thought something was up, but I assure you this won't change a thing between us."

Or something like that.

But you really got to take the lead and tell the person you want to talk about something. That will prepare them to listen to whatever you want to say next. Usually when someone says "I need to talk to you about something" it's something personal. The person you are talking to, assuming this is a close friend, will understand you're going somewhere personal and will want to help with whatever issue it is. Then you gotta say the words. Whether it's "I'm bi" or even "I'm not entirely sure but I think I may be bi" they have to be said. Only then can your friend be of any help.

At least this is what I've come to understand from my experiences. Hope it helps.
 
^ WOW. Had a very similar experience. Except, I added a lot of "It's not a big thing," or "I don't mean to make too bigga deal outta it, but..."

Yeah I was a little nervous. And in hindsight sorta wish I'd made it seem like a bigger deal. But it's cool. Now he knows.

I've actually told 3 of my straight friends so far. The first, whom I mentioned, curled his lip and nodded in response. Then shrugged and laughed. There might've been an "OK".

The other was really cool about it, and awkwardly supportive (it was kinda cute). He was my roommate at the time, so his understanding was important. Imagine his shock, having walked in on me fucking a girl more than a few times... Having that history with him almost made it easier, though. ;)

To the third friend, I said that I was bisexual - and being the proud redneck he is - reacted pretty negatively. But whether or not it was because I said bi (which carries more weight), Idunno. His eyes bugged out, and just this stone-faced coldness swept over his expression.

"What.!" he said. You know, like when somebody says "Sorry?" like real sharp, you know? And you know they're fuckin' about to get pissed? So I just backed off the subject and let the 9 beers flowing through our bodies take that convo elsewhere.
 
Bi-Polar said:
can you guys tell me how you "came out". im having trouble with this
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I was pretty bi until I met my hubby of 17 years. When I met him, I was into fucking married women, and guys. I was "very single" and just enjoying myself. The men I had been fucking were pretty much just fuck buddies, a lot of them married and straight. The gay guys I had dated didn't interest me in terms of a long term relationship. When I got together with my now hubby, I was just going to add him to the list of fuck buddies. But I wanted to hang out with him all the time, and he wanted to hang out with me all the time, before you knew it, we'd moved in together etc.

I guess I'm still bi because I fuck women a few times a year.

I always say that you don't have to make a decision to carry a label - I say fuck when your dick gets hard - if it's a male or female that makes it hard - who cares. Suck dick, eat pussy, fuck ass, take cock - whatever - enjoy life and don't stress over other people's perceptions.
 
movieguy22 said:
When I came out to my best friend, I told him that there was something I needed to talk to him about. Even from there, once I got the freedom to steer the conversation exactly where I wanted to, I couldn't say it. I kept saying things like "I want to talk to you about this, but I don't know if I can." and other phrases that just beat around the bushes. With much consolation from my friend that I could tell him anything, that he wants to help out, I finally just blurt out "Truth is, I'm bi."

This point is one of the moments in life where time freezes. At least for me it did. This was the first time I ever said the words "I'm bi" out loud let alone to someone else. And the fact that this is my closest friend, who is straight, and not knowing how he'd react didn't really help. I sat and watched him ponder what I just said a moment then he responded "Ok. I thought something was up, but I assure you this won't change a thing between us."

Or something like that.

But you really got to take the lead and tell the person you want to talk about something. That will prepare them to listen to whatever you want to say next. Usually when someone says "I need to talk to you about something" it's something personal. The person you are talking to, assuming this is a close friend, will understand you're going somewhere personal and will want to help with whatever issue it is. Then you gotta say the words. Whether it's "I'm bi" or even "I'm not entirely sure but I think I may be bi" they have to be said. Only then can your friend be of any help.

At least this is what I've come to understand from my experiences. Hope it helps.
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My own experiences in coming out to different people mirror this almost entirely.

It is terrifying when you start talking, isn't it?

-d-
 
I figure it like this: people need to stop tryin to classify and label everything...who is to say that you have to be either or ...or 50/50?

you are a grown, ass man (I hope), and by now: you should now what gets your dick hard. people always come on here and say "omg, im torn, i dnt know if i like girls or guys." then i think to myself "what gets my dick hard? naked pics of guys or girls?" ...its that simple.

let me ask you some questions. when your at the mall or at a restaurant, who do you find yourself checking out, hot girls or guys? when you jerk off, what image comes to your head? one more, why are you on a hard core gay site with perverts like me, who like big, fat dicks? yep. and i enjoyed the ones you posted VERY MUCH...fuck your hot, id give u a ride lol but seriously: what do you find yourself lusting over.

yeah, women are sexy creatures and i have enjoyed havin sex w them back in my closet days but deep, down inside: i knew i liked a nice, firm, mans ass...i knew i liked that cute little look guys have on their face after they wake up..i knew i liked a chiseled face, and nice big legs...get my point?
 
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