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I need all ur opinions about this..thanx in advance.
Ok so I have been renting a unit from this Pastor lady for about 5 months and during that time me and one of her sons( we will call him RL) became friendly and close but now im wondering whats going on with us.
When I first started renting after about a month of living there I said I like their family and want to be apart of it. They said hey ur a nice guy and we wouldn’t mind . So I started helping them with their church functions and things around the house and they have a daily food bank where they pickup, sort and deliver food for the community I started helping with that. So RL’s older brother Jak (who is gay btw) moved back home to help manage the property and make sure bills are paid and such. And RL was getting paid by his parents for the work he does everyday with the foodbank they have and all that goes along with it. The older brother Jak. Was in charge of all the money and bills and management of the units and such and he started shorting RL on his monthly stipend for his work with the foodbank portion of their church. So periodically RL would come to me and tell me about the situation and he asks me if I can help him out until he gets paid again. He would usually pay me back by the time he got paid again but his brother still kept shorting him even more than he already did to be mean and would lie to the parents that he needed it for something else. So RL would come to me to vent his frustrations and ask my opinion about certain things regarding his family and ask me to hang out with him (hes 48 and im 27 btw) Overtime we just became like brothers and we just shared a nice bond. I started liking him like in a romantic way but I just dismissed it. It wasn’t until he had some medical problems that I realized I loved him like a member of my own family. And the romantic thoughts faded. We just would talk hang out and occasionally give each other the bro-hug. And that was it.
But during some of our infamous heart to heart talks he tells me about how when he lived in another state where his younger brother P lives (who is also gay) Life was fun and exciting. And he told me about this gay bar that he really liked and how he wants to go back there.
I felt it was odd that he would tell me about a gay bar but I dismissed it.
I let him borrow one of my hooded sweatshirts because he needed to go somewhere and a few days later I asked for it back he said no we are gonna share it and everytime I see it I will think of you so that’s that. And I didn’t have a problem with it and I thought that was a sweet thing to say lol Then I asked for it a month after that and he gave me a big hug (not the bro hug) and told me its both of ours so no he needs it for the week . And I didn’t mind but when he hugged me I just felt a rush of warmth and closeness it was amazing lol
For the most part I gathered he was straight he has a girlfriend he sees regularly and plenty of other women trying to date him. Hes a ladies man.
But now he gives me regular hugs all the time and he checks in with me at night before bed he sometimes calls and asks where im at and comes to pick me up and take me back home And with each gesture from me to him or him to me its like were becoming so close it’s amazing
But here is where things get deeper
Him and his parents took a multi-destination trip to visit family (before anything major happens)and they stayed away for about 2 weeks.
I stepped in to run the foodbank they had full time while they are gone.
So when they got back RL was mad that his older brother Jak messed up their reservation from one state to another which caused delays and and more money. RL was convinced that Jak did it on purpose and Im inclined to belive it . So he was a bit depressed about him and his brothers issues and didn’t understand why his brother hates him so much. So RL went and got drunk to cope I guess and came back to talk to me. He told me so much. He said he loves me and wants me around for a long time in his life and that im a really nice guy and that’s why he hugs me cause he doesn’t hug everybody like that.
So RL was telling me he thinks his brother doesn’t like him because his brother is gay but straight and gay guys gravitate to RL more and jak couldn’t stand it. Then he told me about how so many guys have tried to have sex with him and one old guy paid him 400 dollars to suck him up but he never got hard because he said the attraction just isn’t there. He told me that hes been in a few orgies but he didn’t get hard until all the guys left. He said he doesn’t mind a guy maybe slapping him on his ass or giving him a kiss on the cheek but that’s as far as it goes. Then he went into how good he is with women sexually and how to turn them on but said that now he doesn’t need as much sex as he did before and he can jerk off when he needs to so he doesn’t need the drama of a woman perse. Then he tells me You gotta tell ppul what your feeling and don’t be shy and ppul will will think ur cool. To me its like he got tired of the unspoken and just purged everything out but I don’t know how to take it
Then his friend came up and we started talking about clothes then we went into the house and RL fixed something to eat (he dubs himself a cook) and Me and his friend both ate lol but his friend said okay lets go now and his friend left but RL gave me a hug and kissed me on the cheek and said I love you. And then left with his friend.
I just had butterflyz in my stomach the rest of the day all the stuff he told me and the kiss on the cheek
Then the next few days things went back to normal (talk, hug)
So what do you guys think? How would you classify our relationship? And do you think there is more to us than just “bro’s?
Ok so I have been renting a unit from this Pastor lady for about 5 months and during that time me and one of her sons( we will call him RL) became friendly and close but now im wondering whats going on with us.
When I first started renting after about a month of living there I said I like their family and want to be apart of it. They said hey ur a nice guy and we wouldn’t mind . So I started helping them with their church functions and things around the house and they have a daily food bank where they pickup, sort and deliver food for the community I started helping with that. So RL’s older brother Jak (who is gay btw) moved back home to help manage the property and make sure bills are paid and such. And RL was getting paid by his parents for the work he does everyday with the foodbank they have and all that goes along with it. The older brother Jak. Was in charge of all the money and bills and management of the units and such and he started shorting RL on his monthly stipend for his work with the foodbank portion of their church. So periodically RL would come to me and tell me about the situation and he asks me if I can help him out until he gets paid again. He would usually pay me back by the time he got paid again but his brother still kept shorting him even more than he already did to be mean and would lie to the parents that he needed it for something else. So RL would come to me to vent his frustrations and ask my opinion about certain things regarding his family and ask me to hang out with him (hes 48 and im 27 btw) Overtime we just became like brothers and we just shared a nice bond. I started liking him like in a romantic way but I just dismissed it. It wasn’t until he had some medical problems that I realized I loved him like a member of my own family. And the romantic thoughts faded. We just would talk hang out and occasionally give each other the bro-hug. And that was it.
But during some of our infamous heart to heart talks he tells me about how when he lived in another state where his younger brother P lives (who is also gay) Life was fun and exciting. And he told me about this gay bar that he really liked and how he wants to go back there.
I felt it was odd that he would tell me about a gay bar but I dismissed it.
I let him borrow one of my hooded sweatshirts because he needed to go somewhere and a few days later I asked for it back he said no we are gonna share it and everytime I see it I will think of you so that’s that. And I didn’t have a problem with it and I thought that was a sweet thing to say lol Then I asked for it a month after that and he gave me a big hug (not the bro hug) and told me its both of ours so no he needs it for the week . And I didn’t mind but when he hugged me I just felt a rush of warmth and closeness it was amazing lol
For the most part I gathered he was straight he has a girlfriend he sees regularly and plenty of other women trying to date him. Hes a ladies man.
But now he gives me regular hugs all the time and he checks in with me at night before bed he sometimes calls and asks where im at and comes to pick me up and take me back home And with each gesture from me to him or him to me its like were becoming so close it’s amazing
But here is where things get deeper
Him and his parents took a multi-destination trip to visit family (before anything major happens)and they stayed away for about 2 weeks.
I stepped in to run the foodbank they had full time while they are gone.
So when they got back RL was mad that his older brother Jak messed up their reservation from one state to another which caused delays and and more money. RL was convinced that Jak did it on purpose and Im inclined to belive it . So he was a bit depressed about him and his brothers issues and didn’t understand why his brother hates him so much. So RL went and got drunk to cope I guess and came back to talk to me. He told me so much. He said he loves me and wants me around for a long time in his life and that im a really nice guy and that’s why he hugs me cause he doesn’t hug everybody like that.
So RL was telling me he thinks his brother doesn’t like him because his brother is gay but straight and gay guys gravitate to RL more and jak couldn’t stand it. Then he told me about how so many guys have tried to have sex with him and one old guy paid him 400 dollars to suck him up but he never got hard because he said the attraction just isn’t there. He told me that hes been in a few orgies but he didn’t get hard until all the guys left. He said he doesn’t mind a guy maybe slapping him on his ass or giving him a kiss on the cheek but that’s as far as it goes. Then he went into how good he is with women sexually and how to turn them on but said that now he doesn’t need as much sex as he did before and he can jerk off when he needs to so he doesn’t need the drama of a woman perse. Then he tells me You gotta tell ppul what your feeling and don’t be shy and ppul will will think ur cool. To me its like he got tired of the unspoken and just purged everything out but I don’t know how to take it
Then his friend came up and we started talking about clothes then we went into the house and RL fixed something to eat (he dubs himself a cook) and Me and his friend both ate lol but his friend said okay lets go now and his friend left but RL gave me a hug and kissed me on the cheek and said I love you. And then left with his friend.
I just had butterflyz in my stomach the rest of the day all the stuff he told me and the kiss on the cheek
Then the next few days things went back to normal (talk, hug)
So what do you guys think? How would you classify our relationship? And do you think there is more to us than just “bro’s?
