Confused about what to do

[teaparty55]

Hi, I have a sort of situation and I do not know what to do. Sorry for any bad grammer, it is pretty late.I just entered college in a somewhat secluded city.I'm 18 and also still a virgin. I don't know what's sort of "going on" with me. Every time I, how do I say, jerk it, its always to older men. Like, even when there's a girl, i focus more on the men. Whenever I see a girl, I only see a person while when I look at older men, 45 years old and older, I have a different feeling like I want to do more than just talk and I feel like I would be willing to do more than just talk. Since I am still a virgin, I am very nervous about what any of it means. I did make an adult friend finder page and already someone posted on my page. I only made it out if curiousity but now I have a part of me that kinda wants to reply to the post. Please someone have advice. I don't really know what to do.

 

[MoltenRock III]

Why specifically those 45 or older? How are those feelings the same or different than towards your own father?

Guys who are your age, or are your friends don't sexually excite you?

 

[teaparty55]

Why specifically those 45 or older? How are those feelings the same or different than towards your own father?

Guys who are your age, or are your friends don't sexually excite you?

I think I just feel like I like guys who are more experienced or know to not judge as much (maybe?). I do not at all feel attracted to my dad but I don't gate my dad. He isn't around too much though. I say I only see him 2-3 hours a day max sometimes.

None my age. I've looked at stuff online and its only older men.

 

[Ganoderma]

Maybe you should just try to make some online contacts with guys of the age you like and find out how they react when you built up an online contact with them.

Some of them might be interested in you, others might be rude or perverts or only interested in sex, but that's also the case with guys of your age.

I tend to say that you must be carefull, as not all guys you will meet online are honest and trustfull.

As a next step, you might consider to arrange a meeting with any nice guy on a neutral area. Maybe just for drinking some coffee and see how it is when you talk with such a guy.

Take your time, and don't be too much in a hurry. Its all up to you, and its up to you to pass or not to pass any line you are not yet willing to pass.

Maybe you should also consider to visit any public 'event' with alot of gay males, and see how things are when you are walking around over there.

 

[MoltenRock III]

Have you thought about joining a local gay adult organization at all, where you could get to know some adult guys socially, and then perhaps go on a date? Or are you just wanting sex only? (nothing wrong with that either)

That's why I asked you for more info. I think the more you can share with us, the better the advice or website tips, etc...

 

[teaparty55]

I'm not in any area big enough to have something like that.

I'm also not interested in a relationship, with a guy or girl at all. I believe its strictly sexual but I'm too nervous. I'm just confused as to what these feelings mean.

 

[KaraBulut]

I'm not in any area big enough to have something like that.

I'm also not interested in a relationship, with a guy or girl at all. I believe its strictly sexual but I'm too nervous. I'm just confused as to what these feelings mean.

As Freud used to say, "Sometimes a cigar is just a cigar".

You're attracted to older guys. That's not unusual. You're probably attracted to a lot of things. But you're stuck in analysis-paralysis, so instead of getting out there, dating and finding out what does it for you, you're trying to look for deeper meaning in your fantasies.

They're just fantasies. If you want to learn about yourself, get out there and find out what you really like by trying different things.

Just be safe when you do it.