confused abt feelings towards by closest buddy?

[maleboys]

I am 28 year old guy, married. I have this close frd who is also married. Both of us are very close frds and connect at various levels. We have never had any sexual encounters but i do fantaisize abt him sexually. We discuss everythg under the sun with each other - relating to sex and personal problems. I am really confused abt my feelings towards him?

Any explanations for this?

 

[KaraBulut]

Re: confused abt feelings towards by closest buddy

There's nothing wrong with fantasies. Everone has them.

The question for you is- do you have other fantasies about guys and is this something to want to take further than just a fantasy?

 

[maleboys]

Re: confused abt feelings towards by closest buddy

Everyone has fantasies but I am married and i have a fantasy for my male frd. This worries me. Also the fact that i am in love with my wife and lead a good sex life.

I do feel the urge to take this forward with my frd and this scares me. I feel like having him drunk some day and then having sex with him!!!! But i dont fanatsize llike this abt other guys though i do like to look at gay pic and websites and have a collection of my own.

 

[NW007]

Re: confused abt feelings towards by closest buddy

Have you ever discused these feelings with him, or do you know if h has similar feelings toward you? Any hint that he knows of your feelings toward him?

 

[maleboys]

Re: confused abt feelings towards by closest buddy

No i have never discussed my feeilings with him coz i do not want to lose him. His frdship is more imp that my sexul desires - if you knw wat i mean. I dont think tht he shares similar feelings towards me. Yes we have spoken abt shagging and sex and all those sorts of things. He DOES not knw abt my feelings at all.

 

[Hot Hector]

Re: confused abt feelings towards by closest buddy

You say you fantasize about your friend 'sexually'. Perhaps you just want to have sex with a guy, not him specifically?

What if you have sex with a guy that is not your friend? Your sexual urge would be fullfiled and you would not need to risk messing up your friendship. Getting him drunk for the sex is a no-no in my book, don't try it. If you think you have no chance in a honest way, just look for another guy and have some sex with him instead.

There are lots of hot guys out there willing to have some... Preserve your friendship mate. Good luck.

 

[G-Lexington]

Re: confused abt feelings towards by closest buddy

>>>There are lots of hot guys out there willing to have some...

True, but that's a shitty thing to do with your wife.

What should you do? Enjoy the fantasies. The thing about fantasies is that you get all the positives without the negatives. In your fantasies, he's interested. He's willing. His dick is exactly the right size. He'll bend over the couch for you, or bend you over the couch, as you see fit. He'll finish the same time as you. And you won't have to have the "fuck, what if our wives find out?" conversation.

Lex

 

[spencer]

Re: confused abt feelings towards by closest buddy

Were you attracted to men before you got married?

 

[ontheroad]

Re: confused abt feelings towards by closest buddy

Lex gives out the best advice here. Hands down.

 

[maleboys]

Re: confused abt feelings towards by closest buddy

>>>There are lots of hot guys out there willing to have some...

True, but that's a shitty thing to do with your wife.

What should you do? Enjoy the fantasies. The thing about fantasies is that you get all the positives without the negatives. In your fantasies, he's interested. He's willing. His dick is exactly the right size. He'll bend over the couch for you, or bend you over the couch, as you see fit. He'll finish the same time as you. And you won't have to have the "fuck, what if our wives find out?" conversation.

Lex

Thanks Lex! I agree that morally this is the correct way. However, i just feel so strongly attracted to him that i cant get over the feeling to try it sometime with him!!!! I will just try to keep my feeling to my self....

 

[maleboys]

Re: confused abt feelings towards by closest buddy

Yes i was attrcated to men but never has a sexual exp with them.

 

[maleboys]

Re: confused abt feelings towards by closest buddy

Thanks "On the Road" for the heads up abt the advise.

 

[spencer]

Re: confused abt feelings towards by closest buddy

There's always some sort of excitement about the taboo about situations like these. I used to like one of my married friends and aside from my current interest in someone who's probably not available it's way easier and more fulfilling to be with someone more available. That is of course you want to jeopardize your current relationship. I would focus on that, but that's just me. I'm still friends with the married guy and I came out to him. We have a playful relationship conversation wise and talk about sex and everything and I think it's enough for me to keep things interesting without always wondering what it's like to get into his pants.

good luck

 

[G-Lexington]

Re: confused abt feelings towards by closest buddy

Your sign-in name seems to indicate that perhaps this isn't simply some idle fantasy. It may be time to take a long hard look at yourself, and your relationship, and decide if you're on the right path. And if you decide you aren't, you need to figure out what to do about it. Because as far as I can see, you've got three options.

* Stay the course, remain faithful to your wife, and keep the guy-on-guy thing a fantasy.
* Confess everything to your wife, and discuss opening up the relationship.
* Break up the marriage and start again as a gay/bisexual guy.

Lex

 

[maleboys]

Re: confused abt feelings towards by closest buddy

Thanks Spencer and Lex for your advise. I appreciate is very much.

Spencer - I thk u have hit the "nail on the head" with ur advise and i agree with you. I would not want to spoil my maried relationship and friendship. Better to enjoy with the fanatsy.......

Lex - I think the best option for me is the 1st one and will take that.

Thanks again guys!