Confused? advice please

[Eliott]

So, All through middle and highschool i used to get called a 'bender' i used to get ofended i dont no why because i thought i was straight , anyhow ive had sex with 1 girl but it took me ages to cum and all boys say on your first time it should take 10 minutes or whatever , also when i see a pair of boobs or a female bum i dont feel attracted to them i dont know but do straight men get like instant hard ons? ( someone answer that please aha) so yes all my life i thought i was straight untill about 4 months ago , about 1 hour ago i text my dad confirming im gay he tryed to ring me but i ignored it. when i see a girl i can think oh shes hot but i dont think i can actually get a errection over a girl? so am i bisexual or ? so confusing. also im going to tell all my friends tomorrow im gay but i dont know how to tell my best friend because he always used to kid about calling me gay and i used to go along with it but i am actually gay what am i ment to say to him :S

HELP PLEASE ;D

 

[Rule-Of-Thirds]

It sounds like you're still in some stages of discovery so why spread the news that you're gay when you're still not sure? Take some time to figure out what lights your fire. I'm sure you'll discover who you are in due time.

 

[itsmeagain]

There is no need to make an announcement to anyone..that "I am gay" or "I am straight...or bisexual.... or maybe turned on mostly by boobs, but like to look at good looking guys too"...or whatever

Sexuality is very complicated. No, all straight guys don't get instant hard ons when they see a hot babe.

Please talk to your dad. Genetically, he is responsible for 1/2 your DNA.

He also helped raise you and was a role model. (Both a good and bad role model...)

Guess what?

Surprise! He knows what you are going through! He has had the same feelings as you.....

Trust me, I know.

Hang in there. Life gets better.

 

[hylas]

Please talk to your dad. Genetically, he is responsible for 1/2 your DNA.

He also helped raise you and was a role model. (Both a good and bad role model...)

Guess what?

Surprise! He knows what you are going through! He has had the same feelings as you.....

Trust me, I know.

uh... what?!? are you implying that all gays have gay fathers? because thats just... false.
but anyway, eliott, do talk to your father. you owe him that after dumping a bomb like that on him.

... and all boys say on your first time it should take 10 minutes or whatever , also when i see a pair of boobs or a female bum i dont feel attracted to them i dont know but do straight men get like instant hard ons? ( someone answer that please aha) ...

stop caring about what "everybody" says and what is considered to be "normal", it wont help you. listen to yourself, to your feelings, fantasies, needs.

im all for being out, but i have to say, for now it might be better to say something like "i think im gay, or bi" rather than outright saying youre gay. youre still questioning, exploring. take your time, youll know soon enough what works for you and what doesnt. there is no rush.

 

[itsmeagain]

My post stands for what it is from my own experience.

I never mentioned anything about gay fathers.

I think anyone who has ever had a penis shares a bond. Those of us who have one have to deal with the little monster it can be and the havoc it can cause.

He texted his dad....his father called him.

Talk. Dad's are not stupid.

 

[HunterM]

Parents usually have suspicions. There are tell tale signs watching all of us growing up. Whether they want to admit or confront those suspicions is another story.

 

[AverageJoe]

but do straight men get like instant hard ons?

Some do, some don't. Gay men don't always get instant boners either. It depends on a lot of things.

i text my dad confirming im gay he tryed to ring me but i ignored it.

Not really a good way to drop a bomb like that on your father.

Just don't do anything without thinking it through. That's my only advice.

simple test watch porn watch straight porn...and see if you can cum...watch a girl solo...and see...then watch gay porn and see which one you like more. by the way how old are you...

Porn doesn't always equate to the real thing at all.

I'm also curious, how old are you? It does make a difference.

 

[funnshtuph]

i don't get instantly boned or anything
but if the girl's really hott,
then i may notice that im stiffening a bit and have to think of something gross