Confused and hurt

[jockboy01]

hmm, sorry to hear all of this. The first part of the story was cute though.

My advice at this point is to lay off a bit. Make him make the call. If he really wants to pursue something, he'll make it. If not, well, that sucks but unfortunately there's nothing you can do about it. Just don't think that this will happen with all guys.

Let us know what happens.

 

[recuerdeme]

I'd say you are beeing a little needy and you are getting the shaft.

At this point there are no obligations as there probably never will be so I suggest moving on to other guys but still keeping in contact with this dude just in case.

 

[luminum]

Yeah, don't hound him. If he turns out to be an ass, there's nothing good in looking desperate. Just give him some time and if he values you, he will come ot you.

I'm sorry, but he does sound like a jack ass, who could have just wanted a booty call.

But don't let that make you shrink into a wallflower! Obviously there was something that turned him on about you and you can be affectionate! There will always be others!

::hug::

 

[looseliam]

Is has been said, but I'd like to reiterate it: move on.

If you're getting the cold shoulder this early, no sense in wasting any more time.

 

[jockboy01]

It's good to recognize how you look at sex and learn from this experience. Different people have different feelings on it. I don't do sex on the first date but not because I get attached... I just think it's like eating the icing off the cake first and then I don't see the need to eat the rest of the cake. The important point is that you know how you view it. Sorry it was a painful learning experience... just make sure you learn from it.

 

[Riverrick]

Sounds good but I'd back off emotionally a little distance if I were you. Start things over from the beginning and move slower.

You guys had a really nice first date but that kind of intimacy isn't "real" if you don't know each other yet. It sure feels good and its sure nice to connect so well with another human being. But its left you confused and somewhat vulnerable it seems.

So...slow down. Maybe you guys can still build something here. Good luck!

 

[Slansky]

Yeah, like jockboy said, don't let one guy discourage you from dating in general.

It hurts, i've been there. (I don't have much experience with men, but when you aren't getting love in return, it sucks.. and i most certainly do have experience with that.)

I agree with jockboy. Don't put yourself out there if this guy isn't going to be returning the love and time. You deserve better than that.. If you don't see a change, it might be wise to just simply move on.

Agreed. You'll just get frustrated if you keep this up. Been there--done that. It's not worth it. (Besides, the next guy might even be much better looking!)

 

[eftergivende]

You've had some good advice from the guys here. Slow & easy wins the race. Not everyone is a keeper. Some you have to throw back. If this develops into something long term, great! If not, there are many others out there.