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Confused- I don't enjoy having sex with guys

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Hi All,

I'm slightly confused at the moment. I've only had a few sexual experiences with guys, but I haven't really enjoyed any of them. I'm 24 and only started fooling around with guys at 19. So far only 5 or so guys.

I do enjoy looking at porn, specifically porn about the so called "straight guys", but with every one of my experiences with a guy, I barely been able to stay hard, or even cum. I've only been able to cum once with another guys jacking me off, the rest I had to do it myself.

I've tried pretty much everything except for giving and recieveing anal. I've had a guys finger me, but that was't enjoyable. Although the guys that gave me head were really good and it was really intense, I didn't find myself enoying it one bit.

I've previously thought that I may be gay, but I starting to doubt this. I think my attraction to guys is only driven by lust.

Anyone have any ideas of suggestions?
 
Hmmm ... interesting!

Is it possible that you might be thinking about your own Performance a bit too much? It sounds as though you're definitely interested in Guys! However, when it comes to getting the "real thing", you might be experiencing "self" issues.

Nothing wrong with that! I've run into the very same thing myself more times than I'd like to admit. !oops!

I've found that if I concentrate/focus on giving Him a good time, as opposed to what I'm receiving myself, my body will tend to "do it's own thing" without my having to think about it! ..|

And, that tends to make Everyone a "Happy Camper"!! (!w!)

No matter what ...

Keep smilin'!! :kiss:(*8*)
Chaz ;)
 
If you spied on one of the guys you've been with showering would you be aroused? Maybe you're not ready for sex in your encounters or maybe it's the jitters. If you try sex with a girl and are able to stay aroused and enjoy it, then more power to you!
 
This is something you'll have to figure out for yourself. It doesn't have to be a bad thing :).

I will say, in the past, when I couldn't perform as I wanted in the bedroom, it came from a million different reasons, none of those calling my sexual orientation into question. Stress, anxiety, fatigue, etc. etc.

The funny thing about anxiety is if you're already anxious, and you can't perform properly in bed, you become anxious about THAT lol. It turned into a bad cycle for me but I got over it.

Figure out what you want to do. Test the waters, do what you think is best.
 
jsbury said:
Hi All,

I'm slightly confused at the moment. I've only had a few sexual experiences with guys, but I haven't really enjoyed any of them. I'm 24 and only started fooling around with guys at 19. So far only 5 or so guys.

I do enjoy looking at porn, specifically porn about the so called "straight guys", but with every one of my experiences with a guy, I barely been able to stay hard, or even cum. I've only been able to cum once with another guys jacking me off, the rest I had to do it myself.

I've tried pretty much everything except for giving and recieveing anal. I've had a guys finger me, but that was't enjoyable. Although the guys that gave me head were really good and it was really intense, I didn't find myself enoying it one bit.

I've previously thought that I may be gay, but I starting to doubt this. I think my attraction to guys is only driven by lust.

Anyone have any ideas of suggestions?
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simple, do you lust men more than women?
If so you are 100% gay. Can not cum or can't get hard is a different issue.
 
Maybe you want more than sex? Maybe you are a person who needs to be in love first. I don't want to make assumptions as I don't know you, but maybe thats what it is because I know thats how it is for me. I don't enjoy it much either unless I actually really like the person or I am in love with them.
 
Which do you think is more accurate:

1. I didn't cum because I didn't enjoy the sexual experiences much.
2. I didn't enjoy the sexual experiences much because I didn't cum.

And secondly, where did you meet these guys?

Lex
 
were you attracted to these guys? attraction plays a big factor I believe.
 
bored010 said:
Maybe you want more than sex? Maybe you are a person who needs to be in love first. I don't want to make assumptions as I don't know you, but maybe thats what it is because I know thats how it is for me. I don't enjoy it much either unless I actually really like the person or I am in love with them.
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This statement makes sense. I agree. I think you just need to find true love and romance. I am tired of the random hookups...not that it isn't enjoyable for me (b/c it definitely is!) , I just want long lasting relationships.

I know that the st8 guy thing is hot because you KNOW that the guy is str8. And maybe you know what their interest and hobbies are. Sex to me is better when you KNOW more about the person than what they look like and how big their dick is.
 
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