Could You Marry Someone Yet Not Live With Them?

[sixthson]

* my mom and dad not sleeping in the same bed anymore, so why this couldn't survive either?
They're still married

Lots of people are married and live in the same house without having much love between them. If any.

 

[oakpope]

I think, if income permits, I would enjoy having a place to be alone sometimes, even if I'm married to someone I love. I'm very independent and I tire very fast in social settings, so I need my 'me alone' time.

In Paris there are quite a lot of couples who live near each other but not in the same apartment. I think it's to enjoy the best of both lifestyles.

 

[AstareGod]

I wouldn't want to. If I wasn't able to tolerate my husband living under the same roof as me, there wouldn't be much reason for him and me to be married.

That said, that doesn't mean I have to absolutely be by his side at all times. We will need some time to ourselves to work on hobbies and projects. Striking a good balance between time together and time apart is the key.

 

[Agent Provocateur]

It's either that or a life of solitude. I'm not sure which I'd prefer.

 

[MakeDigitalLove]

So it's impossible to love someone without sharing a bed with them every night?

No, but if his Parents regularly shared a bed before and stopped doing that, then it is a pretty good assumption that they either don't love each other anymore or not nearly as much.

 

[Kulindahr]

I can conceive of it.

I once knew a couple who, on the advice of their pastor when they were contemplating a divorce, took month-long separate vacations. When they returned, they'd both missed each other madly, and spent the next three months like newlyweds. Six months after that, it started to fall apart again. This time, the pastor suggested separate residences. The husband un-mothballed their previous house and moved in there. Within two weeks, they couldn't stand living apart, and started dating.

It finally settled into a pattern; they were madly in love and went out together like they had in college. The kids loved being able to migrate between houses (and also loved having one house available for parties those weekends the parents disappeared on some romantic trip). The separation/love story lasted till the kids were all off to college; it ended with them choosing a new house and moving in together, and "living happily ever after".

Weird, huh? But as that pastor said, some people become ready to share a home at different points than others.

 

[medic1]

No, but if his Parents regularly shared a bed before and stopped doing that, then it is a pretty good assumption that they either don't love each other anymore or not nearly as much.

So there could be no medical reasons,say like a cva,or dementia or even a horrific car crash. I know i am being pedantic,but there are many reasons why people who are married have seperate sleeping arrangements.

 

[MakeDigitalLove]

So there could be no medical reasons,say like a cva,or dementia or even a horrific car crash. I know i am being pedantic,but there are many reasons why people who are married have seperate sleeping arrangements.

I should have myself clearer, but yea I understand this. My boyfriend has Sleep apnea and does not share the bed with me when I am over because it is uncomfortable for him. Outside of the reasons above, I think the change in that sleeping arrangement is a change on how they feel about each other.

 

[Kabluey]

I'd prefer to share everything.
Think Tim Burton and his wife (famous English actress whose name I can't recall) have a cute solution for living separately but together.
They live next door to each other
Kinda kooky and sweet.

Ooooh! Her name's Helena Bonham Carter. Spookily good looking still she is too. Batty as anything.

 

[glasvegas]

My Dad and my mum was married but they did not live together. My dad works in Singapore so he's only back home once in 2 weeks for 2 days and that's about it, as long I remembered. I am not sure how much they love each other ( I have doubts on my dad).