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For over a year now, my close friends Jeremy and Kelly have known that there's a side of me that no one has ever seen. They both know that I've gone through hell and back over the course of a year because of my "problem". Both are also not smart enough to take blatent, clear, and flaming hints (sorry guys)!

One thing they do know for certain is that they'll finally see the real me on my birthday, June 29.

I'm so excited to finally stop living a lie, yet so scared of how Jeremy will react. He once told me no matter what secret I kept from him, that nothing between us would ever change, but I highly doubt that the thought of me being gay ever crossed his mind. I practically live at his house, and we're always together going places.

I'm 100% sure Kelly will accept me and become closer to me through my sexuality.

I plan on telling Kelly and Jeremy after my birthday dinner. I'm not exactly sure how to bring it up or how to just come out and tell them. Any help is appreciated. Thanks, guys!
 
I would not blurt it out or just randomly tell them. The best thing for you to do would be to create a lead-in, such as "I wanted to talk to you guys about something" or maybe "Theres something very important I need to tell you guys".

Something like that, just don't say "I'm gay" or burst out of your birthday cake naked draped in a rainbow flag.
 
RMphan said:
I would not blurt it out or just randomly tell them. The ...just don't say "I'm gay" or burst out of your birthday cake naked draped in a rainbow flag.
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I'm not even going to lie, that right there is the funniest thing I've heard all day.

Does anyone else have any more insight on how I should bring it up?
 
I'm all for the up front, abbrupt "Hey, you know what? I'm gay" Short and quick.. like pulling a bandaid.
 
He once told me no matter what secret I kept from him, that nothing between us would ever change, but I highly doubt that the thought of me being gay ever crossed his mind.

I'll bet he has and wont be surprised. Surely he doesn't think you're a murderer or a terrorist.

As for how to bring it up, I agree with elra - one quick motion.

I will tell you this, things between you will change. I'm not saying for the worse, but they will change. Think about it, as much it's going to be new world for you, so will it be for him - assuming he has no other openly gay friends.

Good luck and happy birthday.
 
I'm sure Kelly will be fine about it. The only advice I can give when it comes to Jeremy is to come out to him in such a way that he doesn't feel "threatened" ie. that you fancy him in any way other that true friendship. There are many ways you could do this, for instance by commenting on a good looking guy and when he calls you on it just casually admit it. Or come out to them both at once as friends who deserve to know.

They sound like good people and I am sure they will appreciate the fact that you feel that you can be honest with them.

I hope it goes well for you, be sure to check back and let us know. (*8*)
 
Hey, good luck on the 29th. We'll all be thinking about you and sending positive thoughts your way. Be sure to come back to this thread and let us know how everything went, OK?

How, exactly, you tell them depends on how you usually talk with them and the mood and setting of the 29th. But, one way that usually works is to say something like, "I think the world of you guys and I don't want there to be any wedge that keeps us from being the best friends we can be. So, I want to be honest with you about something...something that's important to me. I want you to know the real me and that is that I'm gay and have known it for a while. I really don't want anything to change between us, but it's important to me that you know this about me because you're important in my life and it's important to be really honest with you about this." If that's too schmaltzy, you can modify but stick with "I" statements as much as possible and stroke their egos with how important they are to you.

Good luck! We're anxious to hear how it goes!
 
We share a birthday, and I can only hope we share the same response from friends. Mine were loving and supportive, every single one of them.

I wish you the same. :kiss:
 
Wow guys, great tips! Thanks so much!

At trawler69, he's guessed at it before and is now convinced that it's either drug or alcohol related. He's a stereotypical jock (very slow, LOL), and I doubt he's ever even considered it. Also, I've always felt that as my closest friends, they truly do deserve to know the truth about me.
 
I don't want to discourage you at all, but I tend to shy away from big revelations on special days, because if they don't go well, you've "marked" that day forever.

Good luck, bud. :)
 
Marlon said:
At trawler69, he's guessed at it before and is now convinced that it's either drug or alcohol related. He's a stereotypical jock (very slow, LOL), and I doubt he's ever even considered it.
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LOL, that reminds me of the guy who discretely started a rumor that he was dying and when everyone found out that his "big secret" was only that he was gay, they were so relieved.
 
Guys, it went flawlessly.

Tired of living a lie, I finally came out of the closet last night, under the pressure of Jeremy and Kelly.

Kelly and Jeremy hugged me. Jeremy quietly asked me what it was I had to say. I told him simply, “You were right about what you said the other night.” Two nights ago, Jeremy asked me if I was gay. I told him no, and that he’d have to wait until my birthday to find out the truth about me. Kelly was confused, she wasn’t there to the other night to hear him ask me that. Jeremy gave two silent notions to her to let her know I was gay before he mouthed it to her.

They hugged me harder. I told Jeremy that I know things between us would change. He hugged me harder and promised they wouldn’t. The funny thing is, I believe him. I’ve never felt so free before in my entire life. For the very first time in my life, I felt loved for who I am, as opposed to being disgraced for what I’m not.

I truly cannot ask for better friends than Jeremy and Kelly. I love you guys, more than you know it.
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CONGRATULATIONS!

I'm glad things turned out so well. It sounds like you have fantastic friends. All the best. You'll never regret having done this and your life will be simpler now.

Congrats again. I'm really glad things went so well! :=D: ..| (!)
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That's wonderful, Marlon!!!! Congrats!!!! ..|
 
Man that's one of the best coming out stories I've ever read. Congratulations to you and your supportive friends. I'm so glad it worked out so well :)
 
Excellent, couldn't have been better. You choose your friends well. Thanks for letting us know how it went so others can be encouraged. (*8*)
 
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