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Coworker had a miscarriage...

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Sorry if I posted this is the wrong place.

One of my coworkers that I deal with on a daily basis had a miscarriage. She hasn't really told anyone yet. I heard from one of the other pharmacists.

I am just at a loss in how I am supposed to relate to her because I can't even imagine what her or her husband are going through. They've been trying to have kids for the last few months and she was so excited. I think she's using work as an escape right now, not that I can blame her.

She jokes around and everything, but I can tell that deep down she is crushed inside. I used work to get through my day to day life not too long ago, so I can recognize the signs.

Does anyone have any experience handing this or a similar situation? I just want to comfort her and let her know I'm here to talk if she needs it without making the situation worse. I figure I will let her tell me herself out of respect for the situation. Is this a good idea?

Any help is greatly appreciated.
 
Thanks Marley! I was thinking the same thing.

I know she is going to be sensitive, so I will wait until she is ready to talk. We aren't gossiping about it at work, the other pharmacist just wanted to let me know so I didn't make any comments about it. I haven't told anyone else and I don't plan on it.

Thanks again!
 
It's great that you are concerned and have a good heart in you, but since you got the info from someone else who if he had a good work ethic, he should have kept his mouth shut.[-X

Thats just like leaking out someone's medical file.

So let her tell you and and let her know how bad you feel for them with a small gift/flowers/card. anything will help.

You can be the better person here and not stoop as low as the other person who leaked out the info.

I can only imagine what he may do to his customer's if he did this to a cowoker with such a sensitive and devastating loss. Shame on him.
 
I know what you're saying racer. I don't think she meant it to be mean or to gossip about it, she only told it to me when we were out of earshot of everyone else. I believe she did it only to let me know to watch what I say around her.

I am one of those people that can tell when something is bugging someone, so I think she just wanted to avoid the situation of me asking what was wrong at the time. I have no doubt that she didn't it to cause conflict or hurt anyone.
 
I just looked at my excite page this morning, when I usually do on a daily basis. I don't usually put my credit into my horoscopes, but this one was freaky:

Aquarius
"A friend or coworker you especially like is dealing with some heavy stuff right now, and you need to make exceptions for some of their potentially odd behavior. You might not be sure why things are happening the way they are happening with them, but you don't really need to. All you need to do is to let this person know you are concerned, and give them time to work things out on their own. More than anything else, they need your patience and your support right now."
 
Yeah, terrible business-people dont realise how common this is-apparantly, most women will suffer a miscarriage at sometime or another if they are having a few children in their lives....................a friendf of mine had 4 ina row, and was so anguished, she gave up--then fell pregnant, and carried successfully! so its not all bad news...................
 
her body is chemically imbalanced right now
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That's not really true. Her chemicals are right where they are supposed to be and not imbalanced in any way.

As stated, let her tell you. It is actually a pretty common thing to happen, especially in the first trimester. It does not take a lifetime to get over, but it does take time. Did she ever tell you she was pregnant? Most women wait until after the first trimester to tell people. If she was young, she may not have known this.
 
all one can do when a friend or co worker has experienced a loss is just be around and listen and be sensative and supportive no words or things u can do will do is going to change things - they just need time and space to heal and grieve in their own way
 
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