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G-Lexington

G-Lexington

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>>>Ok so now im here, any no response, and like he unfriended me on fb, and wont pick up his phone. Is it long gone?

People don't "unfriend" people they want to stay in contact with. He's gone.

>>>It was my first expereince and like i hate the gay scene already. I know it is partially my fault because i looked in the wrong place. What should i do next?

Stop going to burger joints and hoping for filet mignon. :) If you want to hook up, a little quickie sex, craigslist is great. If you're looking for a "relationship", it isn't. And you still know absolutely nothing about "the gay scene" - hooking up with someone on craigslist goes across gay-straight boundaries. :)

Lex
 
We all know that guys suck...
Most guys out there aren't looking for anything longterm, which is really a shame... There are good guys out there like you - they just take longer to find... and when you do find one of them, it's worth the wait...

Trust me, as one of the "good ones," waiting is the hardest thing, especially when you're just starting out...
 
Don't worry, you will find someone. I would strongly suggest staying away from online sites though. There are alot of shallow people there. Just remember, if it is too good to be true, it probably is.
 
I'm sorry you had to experience that. Finding a good guy is going to take a lot more than simply shooting off an e-mail. Think about what you want from a guy. And even though I know you're as inexperienced as you sound, sex on the first date is an obvious red flag. All you can hope for from craigslist is a quick fix.

The least you can do is learn from this experience.
 
I didn't even know about Craigslist until a friend of mine showed me it. And the day that I saw it, I saw that there was an orgy in my town. So I e-mailed the guy and he gave me the info. I went there but waited outside and no one ever went. I messaged the guy on my cell phone by e-mail and he said there were about 3 people there all having fun at that time, and he was as well, but when I saw him he was just standing outside of his place on the deck lol....

So ever since then I found it pointless to even go on that website. Nothing but a bunch of liars and guys who play games. You might meet one guy once in a blue moon and actually meet up. But I still go on the website and check out all of the photos that are posted and its crazy you see guys that have been posting everyday 3 times a day for the past week to have sex. Thats just to much whoring, if they are even getting anything.

But as for the guy who did this to you, he is only into meeting up once and says stuff to get you to play around and when you do its done after that. Its most of the online community who are like that. I am like this myself with guys who I meet and don't like. But thats because they usually say I had a blast and I dont have the heart to tell them the truth. But don't let this spoil your gay experiences, there are lots of guys who do this, you just need to know which ones they are so you don't mess around with them, even though it is fun at times to just be a little spontaneous.
 
Just chock it up as a "trial and error" experience and learn from it. Storybook_Man is right. On-line sites like craigslist are nothing but "meat markets" for one night stands and too many of the ilk of people who post on there are phonies or lying through their keyboards. Maybe it depends on your city but in my area, craigslist is considered "rock bottom", even if all you want is a "quickie". Just a quick scan of the posts on any given day tells you that. Lot's of "right now" or "I can't host" (no kidding. his lover or wife is home) or a bunch of picture collectors who have no intention of meeting anyone. There are plenty of better ways to meet guys and understand the gay scene...like being on JUB! Stay away from craigslist. That is like standing in a dark alley.
 
you were used.... He Probably thought that is what you wanted a one night stand. Email him and tell him that you did not like being used and woudl appreciate it if he could at least explain himself
 
billybob109 said:
you were used.... He Probably thought that is what you wanted a one night stand. Email him and tell him that you did not like being used and woudl appreciate it if he could at least explain himself
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Come on now, you know thats all the guy wanted. Telling him won't change anything. Wont get him to meet up with mala again or get the guy to talk to mala again. Obviously he was just interested in a one night session, and thats that.

Edit: The guy might explain himself but to be honest, that might just be more damage then the truth already. Just leave it alone, and steer clear.
 
malayman20 said:
Hey guys. Yea, so i admit i was a dumbass, but i made an improvement that you will like. So guess who i get a random im from tonight. HIM! haha. and he was like really nice, and then it quickly went to sex. I was like im really busy, and signed off. He then called me, and then i said that i really feel bad that i had feeling for u. End of story, i did not fall for the sex, and for many this may seam easy, but it is a big step for me. Thanks to all that commented, it gave me courage.
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Good job! I, too, did not know about Craiglists "men for men" area until a friend told me he was going to post an ad on it. I talked to him about his reasons and, in his case, he was having some financial problems and wanted to get through them quick. So he was going to charge for his services and he figured that in a couple of weeks all his life's problems would be taken care of. I didn't talk to Danny for about three weeks and when I did he started laughing. He said that his first call brought him to a house that had garbage strewn around the front yard. A guy in a dirty t-shirt opened the door and he obviously hadn't shaved and was missing a few teeth, overweight, and the house looked like the front yard. He began to laugh while talking to the guy and ended up leaving without doing anything. He quickly removed the ad from the site and said he would just work more overtime (which he did) and got the problem behind him.

My own experience was when I first came out and moved to DC, I joined a site and thought I could meet other guys on it for friendships and we'd see what else would happen in time. I am friends with exactly two of the many, many guys that replied or hit me up (or that I replied to). I certainly found many that were one-nighters (or two) but few that went further. I also found that people lie like hell about how they look and all other things (like that they happen to be married but just forgot to mention that).

I notice the site I was on now sends a warning when you try to send an e-mail to someone that you should not include your phone number, IM or e-mail address in the first replies you send!

Keep looking for the right guy; you are young and good looking and should have no problem finding the real thing!
 
craigslist = one night stand.... almost always. It's what it is there for and everybody on there knows it. Sorry you're just now finding this out. I don't know where to tell you to meet regular guys to date, but it isn't craigslist. He's gone for sure. He wanted one time and that's it. Nothing personal against you I would guess.
 
Glad you called an end to it. The word "love" should almost never be put next to the word "Craigslist". :) Can you find a boyfriend via Craigslist? Sure - you can find a boyfriend anywhere. But you're a lot more likely to find a rather disappointing one-night-stand. :)

Lex
 
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