crush on active duty...

[paboy67]

So... Any updates? Curious to know if anything has happened yet between you two.

Nothing has happened unfortunately. He was a student getting in work time before he goes off to the Academy. They are usually only here for a couple months. I guess I waited too long. I haven't seen him in over a week, so I'm guessing he finally went off to school. I am a bit upset that I didn't make more of initiative to get to know him, but I'm also a bit relieved that i don't have to deal with seeing him everyday and I can get back to my normal routine. I guess the time wasn't right for me so i'll just wait until the next person comes along...

hey Rukkus - I had been meaning to ask as well.

bugger.

so what have you learned from this? - next time around, don't be backward in coming forward - and if you run into this guy again, you have the perfect opener - "hey, haven't seen you for ages - where have you been. engage mouth and brain in conversation - then "wanna grab a beer" - the see where it goes. - you may get to engage other bits of you into this guy, or you could end up with a good bud - either way is good.

cheers man - take care.

 

[RukkuS]

^^^One thing you have to know about me is im not a go getter when it comes to guys. First off, im in the closet, but even so, the guy has to literally be lying in my lap before I express the littlest interest in them.

Like I said before, i don't regret not making a move. I feel a little bad, but I'm not one to bang my head into the wall. If it didn't happen, then it didnt happen for a reason. Maybe i'm just not ready to open up to a guy and let somebody inside my strange little world.

 

[paboy67]

hey dude,

glad that you aren't banging your head against a wall, but you did say that you were feeling a little upset.

and hey, this guy wasn't exactly laying in your lap - he was walking past you in the corridor - and you felt an attraction for him that you think was mutual.

stay in the closet until you are ready to open the door - no problem with that - it is your choice.

as far as letting someone into your strange little world - we all have one, mine is a little bit queer too!

I still maintain that you cannot have too many friends - and opening your mouth to talk to people isn't being a gogetter, it is just giving out a little of yourself to others - if you end up with a bud, or a BF from that, as I said, either is surely a good option.

I am not a go getter either, neither did I find it easy to make friends when I was younger, but I have forced/trained myself to do it. Just learned to open my mouth (to talk), was nice, listened and cared, and have made quite a few good friends out of coming out of my shell (forget coming out of the closet).

You said you were feeling relieved that you didn't have to deal with it, and that it probably didn't happen for a reason. You may well be right.

take care man, your world can't be that bad/weird.

 

[RukkuS]

I meant that I am not a go-getter with guys. My social life is awesome and my friends are great, but guys are something that I put off. One of these days i'll find somebody, but even if I was "out" and comfortable with myself, I doub't i'd want to get into a committed relationship. I'm having a lot of fun being young, no need to rush into things.

 

[MaxMouse]

We are the same person RukkUs. Call me when you get back from military camp haha

 

[RukkuS]

.....I don't get it? Are you mocking me? I am not in the military...

 

[paboy67]

I meant that I am not a go-getter with guys. My social life is awesome and my friends are great, but guys are something that I put off. One of these days i'll find somebody, but even if I was "out" and comfortable with myself, I doub't i'd want to get into a committed relationship. I'm having a lot of fun being young, no need to rush into things.

hey man,

I didn't mean that you should only be looking for committed relationships - nothing wrong with a good regular fuck buddy!

Getting experience with guys will make you a better partner in the long term - and I don't mean purely sexual experience.

In my sad romantic way I guess I was hoping that this thread might have turned into the gay love story of the century.

I don't think that anyone on this thread is mocking you - everyone has a different and warped sense of humour.

Your posts indicate (to me at least) that you totally have your head together. Good luck man - in whatever you do and however you do it.

 

[RukkuS]

hey man,

I didn't mean that you should only be looking for committed relationships - nothing wrong with a good regular fuck buddy!

Getting experience with guys will make you a better partner in the long term - and I don't mean purely sexual experience.

In my sad romantic way I guess I was hoping that this thread might have turned into the gay love story of the century.

I don't think that anyone on this thread is mocking you - everyone has a different and warped sense of humour.

Your posts indicate (to me at least) that you totally have your head together. Good luck man - in whatever you do and however you do it.

I was hoping that we'd have at least 1 decent sober conversation, but like stated before, im not one to bang my head into the wall. You live and learn, right?

How cool would it have been though for me to totally seduce him and have sex with his uniform on. He was such a hottie too man. You should have seen him. *sigh*

 

[paboy67]

man, you can always dream - and then carry out your dream upon the next guy!

I have been fantasing about the two of you actually getting it together as well!

there is always a next guy, or perhaps he might mach back into your life - who knows.

 

[RukkuS]

The way things were going for a while, it was completely abnormal and I was really beginning to think it was a sign. Seeing somebody that often at work and outside of work isn't something that happens often. I saw him everywhere....seriously everywhere. Oh well, I guess I can always stalk him on facebook. HA. kidding....but not really.

 

[paboy67]

nah, go for it man, stalk the dude!

 

[RukkuS]

haha. Well you cant do much stalking when the persons profile is private and you havent added them as a friend.

 

[paboy67]

look, if he ever comes on base again, here's what to do.

either,

grab him and bend him over he nearest desk - and fuck his ass hard,

or,

wear a sign that says "Get it here" when you walk past him.

either way, you will work out if he is gay and interested!

 

[RukkuS]

hahahaha. Or it shall remain an enigma for eternity. It definitely added a little something to my daily routine. It was very awkward while it happened, but now I sort of miss the excitement.

 

[paboy67]

so my suggestions weren't too overt??

you will just have to develop another crush - I am sure there are plenty of other hot dudes there - and they aren't all straight!

 

[tmb1]

The way things were going for a while, it was completely abnormal and I was really beginning to think it was a sign. Seeing somebody that often at work and outside of work isn't something that happens often. I saw him everywhere....seriously everywhere. Oh well, I guess I can always stalk him on facebook. HA. kidding....but not really.

You saw him everywhere and you dont think that was "for a reason"? Things do happen(signs) for a reason I believe but you have to be proactive in participating in your life and take chances in your life for these opportunities to be fulfilled.

If you were to die tomorrow and were to ask God why he never brought anyone for you to love into your life, he would probably say "I did but you didnt persue him." Take chances so you dont have regrets later.