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Here's the deal. I apologise for the length.
I'm a 22 year old virgin living in London. Been out to my family for just over a year or so, but had never really explored the gay scene before as I didn't really know anyone I could go with, and was wary going on my own.
In September I started a new job, and it was there that I met my first gay friend. Although I didn't reveal my sexuality from the off, we got on really well, and when I eventually told him, it only cemented our friendship and it was with him that I explored the London gay scene for the first time, and I'm not ashamed to say I developed a little bit of a crush on him.
However, over the past few months, the crush has only gotten stronger, to the point where I'm finding myself constantly thinking about him etc. The nature of my job means I'm not always at the office, I have to visit clients, so we sometimes go a few weeks at time without seeing each other, and I still can't get him off my mind.
Now, I'm getting the feeling he's been flirting with me a little and I can't work out if he sees me as attractive or not. He's a lot more experienced than me, and he seems to meet people for "dates" relatively often, as well as describing himself as "a bit of a slut" (an over-exaggeration, but still shows he's more experienced than me). However, he knows about my lack of experience, and I don't think that would bother him in any way. The other day he even said he partly wishes he could go back to being a virgin, and when I had a bit of a drunken moan about me being shy and inexperienced after we went clubbing, he even said "Well...personally, I would love to date a virgin." (could he be hinting that his sexual experiences haven't been emotianally fulfilling...wait don't answer that, I should stay on topic).
I really value our friendship and don't want to potentially ruin that what-so-ever, but at the same time, I don't think I can live with myself if I don't act on this in some way. What do you think I should do? Am I just overcompensating because I've never had a gay friend before? Is there any ways I could try and ascertain whether he likes me or not without being too obvious? Should I just stop being a pussy and go for it?
Any advice will be helpful.
I'm a 22 year old virgin living in London. Been out to my family for just over a year or so, but had never really explored the gay scene before as I didn't really know anyone I could go with, and was wary going on my own.
In September I started a new job, and it was there that I met my first gay friend. Although I didn't reveal my sexuality from the off, we got on really well, and when I eventually told him, it only cemented our friendship and it was with him that I explored the London gay scene for the first time, and I'm not ashamed to say I developed a little bit of a crush on him.
However, over the past few months, the crush has only gotten stronger, to the point where I'm finding myself constantly thinking about him etc. The nature of my job means I'm not always at the office, I have to visit clients, so we sometimes go a few weeks at time without seeing each other, and I still can't get him off my mind.
Now, I'm getting the feeling he's been flirting with me a little and I can't work out if he sees me as attractive or not. He's a lot more experienced than me, and he seems to meet people for "dates" relatively often, as well as describing himself as "a bit of a slut" (an over-exaggeration, but still shows he's more experienced than me). However, he knows about my lack of experience, and I don't think that would bother him in any way. The other day he even said he partly wishes he could go back to being a virgin, and when I had a bit of a drunken moan about me being shy and inexperienced after we went clubbing, he even said "Well...personally, I would love to date a virgin." (could he be hinting that his sexual experiences haven't been emotianally fulfilling...wait don't answer that, I should stay on topic).
I really value our friendship and don't want to potentially ruin that what-so-ever, but at the same time, I don't think I can live with myself if I don't act on this in some way. What do you think I should do? Am I just overcompensating because I've never had a gay friend before? Is there any ways I could try and ascertain whether he likes me or not without being too obvious? Should I just stop being a pussy and go for it?
Any advice will be helpful.
