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Crushes without sexual attraction?

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Yeah I think it's completely possible. I met a guy on New Years Eve and I turned into a 14-y-old girl around him, all I could think was "Must be funny, must be clever, must be pretty" and when he spoke my head was filled with "MARRY ME!"

It was rediculous, I was thinking about forming a permanent relationship with him without thinking about sex once.

Anyway, I don't know if that makes me a romantic or a pathetic loser.
 
It is totally possible. In fact emotional attachment goes much deeper than physical/ sexual IMO. Especially I think for us gay guys. I have felt a deep emotional attachment before to a guy I had no sexual interest in. It is not at the end of the day all about sex.
 
Happens to me alot. It\'s like I crush and I can\'t even think about about having sex ! I just think about how the first kiss will feel like !
 
I've been through that myself. It was very painful in the end, though, because he was/is straight. I just loved him, and loved to be with him. Sex wasn't on my mind, but I suppose it would have been a natural development had things been different.
 
Some people just have an irresistible personality which always makes you happy to be around them.
 
Yeah, totally. I really liked this one guy, we dated for a few weeks. We could talk for hours and it felt like minutes. We're both artists and I felt like we just sprung creative energy off of each other. The chemistry was really intense. There was so much going on upstairs, though, that I never felt anything for him downstairs... it was totally not sexual, but I really liked him. Still think he's a wonderful guy.
 
Yes, it's happened to me (twice, I think). There are guys that you find physically attractive and are somewhat fascinated by their mannerisms--these guys I can jerk-off to. Then, there are guys who are so sweet and cute, but there's something really special about them that makes your heart stop. These guys, I can't jack-off to! I think it's because in my mind, since they're so special, the sex part is so "sacred" and not superficial.
 
Wow u read my mind. With Every crush I have I never get sexual thoughts. I always just get nervous and think how I want to talk to them so bad
 
Yep, going through something similiar right now. I have a pretty big crush on a guy im not sexually attracted to one bit. It's been strange...not caring about the physical aspect at all. Definitely a first for me.

And you know what...I like it.. :)
 
wow! I was going to create a similar thread, but I decided to search "sexual attraction" first, and I'm glad I found this one.

Yeah, it is somewhat bothering me and I hope someone can share their opinion and advice for my situation. There is a guy that I like, and while we have hooked up before, I don't think I am sexually attracted to him. I enjoy spending a lot of time with him, but I don't have the urge to have sex at all--I just want to spend time with him.

It seems more like an emotional attachment more than anything. I care very much for him, and he would be someone I would spend the rest of my life with, but sexually I have no interest. Is this really normal? and when we do have sex, I find it difficult to remain hard during sex because I'm not really that turned on (??), and he wonders why it takes me so long to cum during sex (haha!). we have a lot of intimate physical contact though--kissing cuddling and maybe that is where all the emotional attachment is coming from?

It's confusing for me, because I know that I am attracted to some guys, and I find some guys to be really good looking, but not necessarily such that I see some guy and I immediately have some sort of sexual attraction (ie have sex). I find it's confusing for myself because I'm not really clear what's going on. In the past, I've had two relationships with girls but there was sexual attraction and emotional attachment. Whereas the relationship I have with this guy, it seems to be only emotional attachment, and I keep comparing him to those two relationships. Maybe it takes time? I don't really know if I am going my point across, as I am confused myself..


I found this article:
http://www.truthaboutdeception.com/relational_maintenance/public/romantic_attachments.html

"And adults do the same when it comes to forming a romantic attachment. Adults form a deep emotional attachment based on intimate physical contact – kissing and cuddling, etc. If you have repeated intimate contact with another person, you will most likely form a deep attachment to that person. Once an attachment is formed – people want to spend more time together, feel safe and secure in each other’s presence, and they will experience loss when the relationship comes to an end."

I think this is my situation
 
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