Crushing On A Closet Case

[joshmode]

I know you're right, I actually would love to be friends with him. I don't have any guy friends at the moment haha and hes like my twin we have almost all the same interests except im gay and hes "straight" lol

 

[Mannie]

God he wont stop staring!! If he doesnt wanna be friends (or more than friends STOP STARING. Thats all i ask. I cant concentrate with this good looking guy constantly staring at me in class.

 

[texan_slant]

IMHO, I see a lot of time wasted based on something that has hardly had any face time - i.e. 1:1 communication! Whatever happened to it these days?

He's prob staring at you because you're still paying attention to him.

 

[Mannie]

What attention am i paying to him?? the last thing i did was tell him happy birthday in August..haven't done anything since.

 

[Rex]

Just build up the courage to talk to him. If he's so shy that he still doesn't want to communicate with you maybe he has an anxiety disorder or something. I mean, you just seem to have known each other for months now and have barely gotten any words in. This all seems so meaningless and high school.

 

[backpacker]

Ask him to go get coffee (or something) after class one day to discuss the course. Start out talking about your class and ask him questions that require a real response (i.e. no yes/no questions). Questions like "What do you think of X?" At some point during the conversation, turn it to non-course related topics. Such as "What do you like to do for fun?" Eventually you can work in that you noticed he stares at you in class and you thought maybe he wanted to be your friend or more.

If that doesn't get things moving a little, I would say move on. Btw, if he keeps staring, you may want to ask him not to stare.

 

[Coffee]

God he wont stop staring!! If he doesnt wanna be friends (or more than friends STOP STARING. Thats all i ask. I cant concentrate with this good looking guy constantly staring at me in class.

What attention am i paying to him?? the last thing i did was tell him happy birthday in August..haven't done anything since.

Young people always soooooooo cute when it come to their problem (include me ). I'm nearly knocked out when realize that your story last so long. Well I have some advice for you. The reason why he's so shy may be he doesn't want anyone know that he has a BIG crush on you (but everyone knew that, right?), and he doesn't want to admit that he's not straight, may be. So don't make a big move, play friendship card first. Backpacker told you a brilliant start of conversation, and I add some more ideas. Due to what I've read your posting, I can see that your friends are very funny, and friendly too. Why don't you try ask him out with yours friends? All of you can go for a picnic or wandering or something. I'm sure it'll will make him more outgoing. He can join your chatting, your joking or just simply laugh. And best of all you can get to know more about him. You can ask him things naturally, because it's a part of the group conversation right? or you can let anyone do it for you...

...Btw, if he keeps staring, you may want to ask him not to stare.

Do it gently...or you can simply keep staring back at him until he's so embarrassed and stop it.

 

[PieRules]

If he made the effort to text you to come on a trip. It means he is interested in you, whether it be as a friend or something more.

Go ahead and sign up on the trip. It doesn't show that you're clingy or anything. At least, it's going to be one of those trips that you know you two have a chance to get to know each other and maybe even grow as something more. You have nothing to lose. You will end up getting to know him more and develop as an actual friend, you can grow and realize that all those insecurities were nothing more but in your head, or you may even get lucky and end up getting a boyfriend out of it.

Nothing ventured, nothing gained. Go for it.

 

[veryhotguy]

Why not try sending him an email? I bet he isn't that shy when he's behind the computer. Or just have an online chat. He would be less shy, and it would give you something to talk about when you see him IRL.

 

[Mannie]

exactly i've been talking with him through myspace, i even asked him why hes so quite in class and he was like "idk i guess im trying to get work done"..yah hes not shy behind the computer but i dont want to talk through myspace lol

 

[G-Lexington]

I really have nothing to add here.

Lex

 

[Chosen]

Ask him why he stares at you?

 

[texan_slant]

What attention am i paying to him?? the last thing i did was tell him happy birthday in August..haven't done anything since.

If you're noticing that he's staring at you all of the time, then you *must* be paying attention to him!

Look for something hard enough, and you will always find "the reason to be". Did it ever occur to you that he might be staring at you because he's wondering why you're staring at him?

 

[Muscles4daze]

exactly i've been talking with him through myspace, i even asked him why hes so quite in class and he was like "idk i guess im trying to get work done"..yah hes not shy behind the computer but i dont want to talk through myspace lol

Next time you catch him staring at you, stick your tongue out or make a stupid face