Cum and help PLS !!! I'm begging you >_<

[rareboy]

Uhhhh right.

You keep finding yourself in these situations where you are, like , so cool with letting guys wipe their cum on you after jerking off together, or after a sexual assault. But you're totally straight and aren't doing anything to lead these guys on.............

It is actually quite interesting for someone to invest the time to present the other side of 'I'm falling for my straight friend'

I'm just sniffing the air to see if I catch a whiff of anything, but at the moment, the breeze must be going the other way, so I'm going to give you my thoughts on your situation.

Well bud, this ain't normal behaviour. Gay guys do not, I repeat do not jerk off over their straight friends and relatives as a rule. Let's say this gay friend is indeed falling for you. You need to help find him a real boyfriend. You need to explain to him that you really aren't gay and that you aren't able to fulfill his emotional and sexual needs, but that you'll be glad to be his friend.

What you aren't going to do, is mindfuck him by always letting him think that there might be some possibility of an attachment. Never say, 'you know, if I were gay, you'd be the kind of guy I'd want'

Now get out there and find him the kind of guy you think he really should be spending his time with. Help get him laid for heaven's sakes.

 

[eat-my-goal]

You've had some weird events happen to you in your life so far.

I'm bi and never been with a lad so don't know if I'm the help you need. He sounds gay to me and to be honest he needs to understand you need to spend more time with your lass then him. I think you need to have a talk with him, encourage him to open up.

 

[benlemieux2003]

That was a pretty heavy story.... Here are a few things that come to my mind.

I don't think you should hook up with a guy. That idea is certainly derived from your negative experiences with your friend and your cousin. You do sound straight, and the forced situations you were put in certainly do not make you gay.

And about your gay friend, I suggest you put your foot down. I understand your fear of going through that same attack, however know that your experiences have conditioned you to expect some form of abuse. Know that most gay guys won't attempt anything if you let them know clearly where you stand on your sexuality.

I hope this helps a bit.

 

[SilverRRCloud]

Dude,

#1
If you need help, it suffices to say, Come and Help, PLS!!! Cum is mostly used for something else.

#2
I am genuinely sorry to hear that you have had two very bad situations with gay dudes, you had to go through. Nothing will ever justify their use of force. Ever. And there will never be any excuse for their shameful actions either.

#3
You are a straight dude. You are comfortable with your bi, gay, whatever relatives and friends around you. You are certainly not homophobic. But you need to draw the line. And a very strict one at that, too.

People will always interpret your actions or inactions in the way that confirms their preconceived ideas and/or suits their personal, often very selfish interests. More often than not, the truth in the whole affair is called 'collateral damage' and is viewed as a welcome sacrifice towards achieving a greater personal goal.

See, you let your cousin come to your room for regular wanking sessions? You were not comfortable with those and you actually did not enjoy them, but you did let him come over and over again? You were sending a completely wrong signal. If you had stopped him dead in his tracks (regardless of his childish threats), he would have never progressed to actually raping your mouth. You did not, and he started believing that you would be willing to put up with more shit coming from his side? Eventually, you did and thus, only reinforced his violent pattern of behavior. A quick hit in the guts would have sent the dude rolling on the floor and he would have never forgotten the lesson...

#4
You failed to draw the conclusions from that first negative experience and allowed your friend to repeat a similar scenario??? Dude, at some point of time, everyone will jump to the conclusion that you were, if not encouraging than passively allowing your gay friends and relatives to abuse you. Not too good, is it?

#5
You have a GF and you want to spend some time with her. Tell you 'depressed friend' that he may get as depressed as he wants and cares to be but he is not always welcome. There are times, when you want to be alone with your GF and he may guess, what the two of you are going to be doing at such times, if he wants to.

His depression and his dependance on you are really his problems. He might need professional help to deal with those issues. You want to make it absolutely clear to him (and to everyone else for that matter) that your first duties and obligations are those towards your GF and yourself. You need to take care of your business first. With the time left at your hands, you will be happy to continue being his and everybody else's friend. State very clearly that you have reached an age, where you want to make sure, you enjoy your sex life as much as you can and he'll sure have to understand that. He will also have to understand that he can be no part of it, whatsoever.

Or if you want it in a nutshell: stand your ground dude and make sure that whoever comes uninvited too close, lives to regret it.

SC

 

[G-Lexington]

I think I'll pass on this one.

Lex

 

[FloridaBoi]

Lex, I'm with you on this one.............


-Matthew

 

[silentalk]

Wow! RyanXT, if what you said was true, I have to say that I never heard of a person who'd go to such lengths for his friends. I don't know you in person, but you seem to be a one-of-a-kind. So, thanks for being who you are. If only there were more people like you...

Anyway, as for your friend... the guys are right, do not say anything that might give him the slightest hope of you falling for him, and make that very clear. Make it also clear that it has nothing to do with him, it's just that you're straight. It's great that you're still friends with him. Maybe you need to sit with him and talk open-heartedly. If you're willing to tell him about your past, that might make him see things "a bit" differently. But reassure him that you're not a homophobe!

One last thing... I would say that there's 99.99999% chance that he has strong feelings for you, just like you and the other's said. I think you got that right!

 

[boy0boy]

Well although I think you did want to get some advice on your current friend problem, this really feels more like you trying to deal with your problems leading up to the current situation. I have a feeling this has to do more with people's individual attitudes and psychological issues.

For instance, people who are sexually agressive will be so whether they are attracted to men or women. Unfortunately it is your personality that seems to keep them in proximity to you and I'm guessing your 'looks' is what draws them in initially. As nice as it is to have straight friends who are cool with me being gay, I'm lucky enough to not be physically attracted to my friends.

So you get a point of view of a gay guy to better understand: when young boys are going through the stage when they start noticing girls and girls start noticing boys... gay boys start noticing boys as well. So what to do when you are "supposed" to hang out with the people you're attracted to? What if you were suppose to ONLY be friends with girls, when really you are attracted to them? It makes bonding with guys infinately harder for gay boys. It also has to do with how 'gay' they appear or act as well, the 'manly' guys often have an easier time befriending the straight dudes.

That is what is hard about finding a guy who is nice to you and generally fun to hang out with. You seem to be a nice guy who doesn't judge or harass gay boys but unfortunately that usually makes them attracted to you. I really can understand that from the opposite side, I am a good friend to girls and don't expect anything from them, consequently they start having feelings for me that I wouldn't want to return.. in that way.

Unfortunately for you, as I have witnessed MANY times, NO MATTER how many times you can tell some people you aren't interested, they will still attempt to 'convert' you or continue having feelings for you. Only you can tell how your friend will handle the news, likely he will be clingy since you say you're really his only friend... Like others have said, cementing and clearly stating your position and thoughts about you being straight is important. Make sure he knows.

Hopefully that helps.

One thing that worries me, maybe you wrote it in the blur of thoughts and getting your story down but you actually said "maybe I should have sex with a man (don't know where to find one)" That seems a bit odd... Are you completely sure about your own sexuality? Nothing is worse than backtracking once you've said over and over you are straight but you just weren't ready to come out. I genuinely think you're straight possibly bi, but just saying that confused me a bit.

 

[Dman007]

wow...some of your friend sounds like me right now as I dont want anyone to know im gay...you know ever...actually I always consider myself gay, I mean I find girls attractive I do, but I lean more towards guys and would probably choose a guy over a girl, I guess I could say Im "BI" but lean more towards guys.

all i can say is I agree with privious statements, Help him!, support him if he ever does come out to you!, dont leas him on, I dont have problems with being attractted to my friends as non are my type since they're are all 18-20 and I like older much heavier "men"...I dont have problems being attracted to my friends, but their dads...I have some trouble with sometimes...lol.

so he may not find you as attractive as you think...you were at a pool when he got a hard-on right? the atmosphere of a bunch of shirtless guys may have arroused him if he is gay.