Curious and confused

[justforfun1821]

First post - never been in a forum before , never have done an online dating ...... married to a woman - guess I’m a virgin I’m definitely bi as I get turned on by women and men - but in all reality I am a gay virgin.

Full truth post here. I played around with my guy friend when we were teens and had a small make out session that ended prematurely due to alcohol later in life but other than that - I’m a full rookie. Don’t even know what I’m doing or looking for. My wife is well aware of my desires and fantasies , but not sure where they will ever go. We are afraid of explorations that ever go further than roll playing or fantasy it could harm our relationship. We are happily married and sex life is great ...... I just get so cock horny I can hardly contain myself ...... so maybe that’s why I’m here , seeing if any of you are in the same boat and what you do to balance it out.

A lot of rambling but a good opener I suppose.

 

[BiBtm64]

First post - never been in a forum before , never have done an online dating ...... married to a woman - guess I’m a virgin I’m definitely bi as I get turned on by women and men - but in all reality I am a gay virgin.

Full truth post here. I played around with my guy friend when we were teens and had a small make out session that ended prematurely due to alcohol later in life but other than that - I’m a full rookie. Don’t even know what I’m doing or looking for. My wife is well aware of my desires and fantasies , but not sure where they will ever go. We are afraid of explorations that ever go further than roll playing or fantasy it could harm our relationship. We are happily married and sex life is great ...... I just get so cock horny I can hardly contain myself ...... so maybe that’s why I’m here , seeing if any of you are in the same boat and what you do to balance it out.

A lot of rambling but a good opener I suppose.

Hey buddy. Welcome to the forum. This is a supportive place where you can find like minded guys who have been in the same situation. Many of us have had teen exploration and then suppressed desires, gone on to heterosexual relationships, then started to question whether that's all we want. It's great that you have a supportive wife who knows how you feel.

There's a lot of exploration ahead of you and it could be fun, played right. First, there's nothing wrong with being a virgin. We all started that way. Consider whether you'd explore fantasies with a man one on one or with your wife. There's no rush to do anything, just find your own way and pace of things. Being a "virgin" doesn't mean you have to change that, and there are many things you can do with a guy that don't involve penetration of any kind.

Yes, many of us are in the same boat. You can find many of us on the Straight and Bisexual Guys forum. Feel free to ask anything in posts or shoot me a DM if you want to ask privately.

 

[justforfun1821]

Hey buddy. Welcome to the forum. This is a supportive place where you can find like minded guys who have been in the same situation. Many of us have had teen exploration and then suppressed desires, gone on to heterosexual relationships, then started to question whether that's all we want. It's great that you have a supportive wife who knows how you feel.

There's a lot of exploration ahead of you and it could be fun, played right. First, there's nothing wrong with being a virgin. We all started that way. Consider whether you'd explore fantasies with a man one on one or with your wife. There's no rush to do anything, just find your own way and pace of things. Being a "virgin" doesn't mean you have to change that, and there are many things you can do with a guy that don't involve penetration of any kind.

Yes, many of us are in the same boat. You can find many of us on the Straight and Bisexual Guys forum. Feel free to ask anything in posts or shoot me a DM if you want to ask privately.

Thank you for that ...... nice to see the comfort you have saying that and hearing that there is no set path. I know this but it’s also a weird spot to be in. Every man in my life thinks I’m the most manly - macho guy there is and behind the closed doors I’m using a dildo to play out gay sex it’s fun in a way - but also so much desire to have the real. Just never want to harm my relationship with my wife - we are so awesome together and she role plays my “ man “ lots of times so it’s amazing to have someone so supportive.

 

[MusicMan321]

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[BiBtm64]

Thank you for that ...... nice to see the comfort you have saying that and hearing that there is no set path. I know this but it’s also a weird spot to be in. Every man in my life thinks I’m the most manly - macho guy there is and behind the closed doors I’m using a dildo to play out gay sex it’s fun in a way - but also so much desire to have the real. Just never want to harm my relationship with my wife - we are so awesome together and she role plays my “ man “ lots of times so it’s amazing to have someone so supportive.

Manly macho guys use dildos to play out gay sex. Manly macho guys have gay sex as the bottom. Taking something in your ass for pleasure does not make you any less of a man. It's a widely held but incorrect stereotype that receptive anal sex is had only by smaller, weaker or more effeminate guys. Anyway, nobody outside of your relationship needs to know.

You're right to not want to harm your relationship with your wife. Talk with her about it, mention that you wonder what the real thing would be like, and see where it leads. Fun fact - the real thing feels so much better, like 1000% better when the guy knows what he's doing. Meanwhile, enjoy the dicking you get from your wife and don't stress about weirdness. You're not alone, far from it. The ass is an erogenous zone and it's enjoyed by many straights as well as gay guys and many in between. Enjoy.

 

[xyxyxy]

Welcome to JUB

 

[lockeroomguy]

Welcome to JUB. There are plenty of us in a similar situation. You are lucky that your wife knows, and is understanding. That opens the door to some strapon play.

 

[justforfun1821]

Manly macho guys use dildos to play out gay sex. Manly macho guys have gay sex as the bottom. Taking something in your ass for pleasure does not make you any less of a man. It's a widely held but incorrect stereotype that receptive anal sex is had only by smaller, weaker or more effeminate guys. Anyway, nobody outside of your relationship needs to know.

You're right to not want to harm your relationship with your wife. Talk with her about it, mention that you wonder what the real thing would be like, and see where it leads. Fun fact - the real thing feels so much better, like 1000% better when the guy knows what he's doing. Meanwhile, enjoy the dicking you get from your wife and don't stress about weirdness. You're not alone, far from it. The ass is an erogenous zone and it's enjoyed by many straights as well as gay guys and many in between. Enjoy.

I love the answers you have and thank you for the manly correction. I did not mean it as a slight - as I am manly and macho and want real dick deep inside me just as much as any gay person that is feminine leaning or gay person that has macho characteristics. I do appreciate that distinction.

I can only imagine how great the real feels - I dream of being filled with cum all the time , my mouth , my ass ...... I love the taste and smell. My wife often goes cock to kiss witg me so I can enjoy the swallowing of a load - it’s super hot - but it’s just not the real that I want. As a teen I felt that pulsing cock deep in my throat and swallowed his cum many times ...... I almost am so overpowered with needing it that it makes it hard to express to her just how much I want to have that REAL you speak of. Maybe in time but I’m growing impatient

 

[justforfun1821]

Welcome to JUB. There are plenty of us in a similar situation. You are lucky that your wife knows, and is understanding. That opens the door to some strapon play.

Yes indeed and that is very erotic. I hate to sound spoiled , but for as good as this when we do - I can’t help but crave the real so much more !!!!

 

[BiBtm64]

I love the answers you have and thank you for the manly correction. I did not mean it as a slight - as I am manly and macho and want real dick deep inside me just as much as any gay person that is feminine leaning or gay person that has macho characteristics. I do appreciate that distinction.

I can only imagine how great the real feels - I dream of being filled with cum all the time , my mouth , my ass ...... I love the taste and smell. My wife often goes cock to kiss witg me so I can enjoy the swallowing of a load - it’s super hot - but it’s just not the real that I want. As a teen I felt that pulsing cock deep in my throat and swallowed his cum many times ...... I almost am so overpowered with needing it that it makes it hard to express to her just how much I want to have that REAL you speak of. Maybe in time but I’m growing impatient

You should talk with your wife about your desires!

When she feeds you your cum, say "I wonder what it would it would be like straight from the dick". Or if she dildoes your ass say "I'm imagining that's a real one".

I suspect she won't be all that surprised. You could take it from there and get a friend to join in or join a 1-on-1 with a guy with her permission. You never know until you broach the subject.

 

[A1d23g]

Thank you for that ...... nice to see the comfort you have saying that and hearing that there is no set path. I know this but it’s also a weird spot to be in. Every man in my life thinks I’m the most manly - macho guy there is and behind the closed doors I’m using a dildo to play out gay sex it’s fun in a way - but also so much desire to have the real. Just never want to harm my relationship with my wife - we are so awesome together and she role plays my “ man “ lots of times so it’s amazing to have someone so supportive.

My wife plays the man for me too great pegging

 

[Danash]

Hey buddy. Welcome to the forum. This is a supportive place where you can find like minded guys who have been in the same situation. Many of us have had teen exploration and then suppressed desires, gone on to heterosexual relationships, then started to question whether that's all we want. It's great that you have a supportive wife who knows how you feel.

There's a lot of exploration ahead of you and it could be fun, played right. First, there's nothing wrong with being a virgin. We all started that way. Consider whether you'd explore fantasies with a man one on one or with your wife. There's no rush to do anything, just find your own way and pace of things. Being a "virgin" doesn't mean you have to change that, and there are many things you can do with a guy that don't involve penetration of any kind.

Yes, many of us are in the same boat. You can find many of us on the Straight and Bisexual Guys forum. Feel free to ask anything in posts or shoot me a DM if you want to ask privately.

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I can relate to some of what you write. Cool that your partner is onboard!