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Hey guys! So i've been a member on here for years now, only posted a handful of times (pics mostly). I'm bi curious, and i've been very curious now for about 10 years (I'm 25) but I have never acted on it. I don't find myself attracted to guys but I fantasize about being with another man often. The thought of having another man touch me and take me into his mouth and I returning the favor arouses me so much, just typing that out has me fully erect right now. Problem for me is i've never had the courage to act on this fantasy, but now that I am ready to experiment with another man I don't know how to go about doing it. I don't have any gay friends so I can't confide and experiment with them. I don't want to go on craigslist cause I don't trust it. I've been on grindr but the atmosphere seems to be hooking up nsa, which isn't what I want. Ideally my first would be with a man who i've gotten to know and trust. Long post I know, sorry, but anyone have any advise for me on how to proceed? Anything will be helpful to me, thanks!
 
It sounds like you are wanting a friend with benefits. Apps can be hit or miss depending on your region.

In my experience guys with good communication skills, (doesn't use one worded response 'sup' 'hey') and able to talk on the phone before meeting tend to be nice in person.

Go with your gut and I'm sure you'll have a great time.
Good luck!
 
I am in a very similar situation, and have just joined here to explore these feelings. The way you are describing your desire for another man, pretty much describes my desires to a tee. except I am just about double your age....haha
 
I admire you both for seeking advice here. Let me just say I also agree with the original reply. I do know from my own experience as a gay man that for some of us there's nothing more erotically arousing than sucking off a straight guy. The problem with some is that the straight guy may get awkward afterward or that the gay guy doing the sucking may also get strange afterward too. It's emotions. I think that as long as you go into any situation with complete and open communication and expectations than you can find someone to fill that requirement. It doesn't sound romantic, but romance and relationships are sometimes that same thing to some guys.
As for meeting someone; that's a little bit harder than what happens after meeting. But I would say try new things; try going to a gay singles event. I know there's a softball league in my area, maybe something like that if you like sports. If you like cooking try a singles cooking class. I know a lot of the people may be looking for more than a date at any singles event, but again; open and complete communication is important. Hope that helps a little. If you'd like to at least make a friend here...PM is a great way to get started. :)
 
Not a problem! If it weren't so only virtual I'd give you both a hug to make sure you also understand that regardless of what happens: It's only temporary and will pass...everything always does. :)
 
if you don't want NSA with a stranger, and I'm not sure you want a relationship either, then it sounds like what you want is a "best friend with benefits" situation.

You want someone you can trust and also get frisky with him.

So, make a bunch of new friends. The more men you know, the more opportunities there will be. By the time you get to know the right guy, you will already have built up some trust and knowledge, so you will have a good idea of who will be turned on by trading blowjobs, who will be able to handle that conversation, and you won't need to think so much about courage.
 
Very true Bankside. I am not looking for creepy nsa guys from CL, a friend with benefits is the ticket.
 
Thanks for the replies guys! I read all of them and I have to agree that yes I am looking for a good friends with benefits type of thing. I'll just be open to meeting new people and hope that a situation pops up! Good luck to you too manpower, thanks for that article too btw. Maybe we can message each other.
 
Being married, I guess having a male friend who has an open mind about the pleasures of the flesh would indeed be perfect. But as a wise Australian girl once said.. "I should be so lucky"
 
curiass said:
Being married, I guess having a male friend who has an open mind about the pleasures of the flesh would indeed be perfect. But as a wise Australian girl once said.. "I should be so lucky"
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Exactly Curiass!!
 
I'm exactly the same way! I've never found other people who are like that too until now, but I've always wondered.

I'm not really physically attracted to men, or want to date, marry, or love one, but sexually I like both men and women. I'm really submissive, and that makes gay sex more appealing than straight, I always think about giving blowjobs or doing anal but I'd never really want to receive them, only give.

I only watch straight porn, but I imagine myself in the role of the female more than the role of the male. I like seeing a female doing it, and pretending I'm in her place, seeing two guys doing it isn't the same for me.

I've never really been sure if that makes me truly Bisexual or not, or if it's just a sexual fetish, it's always been kind of confusing.

Is your sexuality who you want to have sex with, or who you want to have meaningful relationships with?
 
Buddyy said:
I'm exactly the same way! I've never found other people who are like that too until now, but I've always wondered.

I'm not really physically attracted to men, or want to date, marry, or love one, but sexually I like both men and women. I'm really submissive, and that makes gay sex more appealing than straight, I always think about giving blowjobs or doing anal but I'd never really want to receive them, only give.

I only watch straight porn, but I imagine myself in the role of the female more than the role of the male. I like seeing a female doing it, and pretending I'm in her place, seeing two guys doing it isn't the same for me.

I've never really been sure if that makes me truly Bisexual or not, or if it's just a sexual fetish, it's always been kind of confusing.

Is your sexuality who you want to have sex with, or who you want to have meaningful relationships with?
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Sounds extremely familiar. I'm not physically attracted to men either and can't even imaging dating one. But sex is a very different matter. The only slight difference with your situation is that I can imagine being a top as well, but being submissive and getting fucked is definitely the main aim.
 
curiass said:
Sounds extremely familiar. I'm not physically attracted to men either and can't even imaging dating one. But sex is a very different matter. The only slight difference with your situation is that I can imagine being a top as well, but being submissive and getting fucked is definitely the main aim.
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Yeah, I'm just really submissive, which makes straight sex less of a turn on, because the female usually is the submissive one.

But being the same way, do you consider yourself bisexual, or do you think it is more of just a turn on?
 
This is such an odd, erotic feeling. I am new to accepting these feelings, and I have joined this, and another "curious" forum, and I have noticed that there are a lot of other men who feel the same sexual attraction to the penis, but have no attraction to men in general. I have also noticed that it's very common not to have these feelings emerge until later in life, 40's and 50's. It's great to find out, that I'm not the only one with these feelings. Too bad we can't all meet up and explore these feelings in person.
 
Buddyy said:
Yeah, I'm just really submissive, which makes straight sex less of a turn on, because the female usually is the submissive one.

But being the same way, do you consider yourself bisexual, or do you think it is more of just a turn on?
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I don't consider myself bi at all. It's purely a turn-on. The sex part is completely separate. In my opinion, you need to be able to fancy men to consider yourself bi.
 
MaxPower said:
This is such an odd, erotic feeling. I am new to accepting these feelings, and I have joined this, and another "curious" forum, and I have noticed that there are a lot of other men who feel the same sexual attraction to the penis, but have no attraction to men in general. I have also noticed that it's very common not to have these feelings emerge until later in life, 40's and 50's. It's great to find out, that I'm not the only one with these feelings. Too bad we can't all meet up and explore these feelings in person.
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Not easily anyway :)
 
Another thing that is interesting on this is I love women's feet. I love for the feet to be in vids/pics and stuff, if they aren't in the frame it's not as great for me. Even if a girl is perfect but with bad feet, it'll be a big enough turn off for me to not enjoy.

But when it comes to men, the feet do nothing for me, even seeing a man wearing flip flops or something in public is kind of uncomfortable, not sure why though.

Any quasi-bisexuals have anything similar to this?
 
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