Damn it dude...

[Habbababba]

So, I met a new guy in class. It seemed like a mutual interest was growing and it was all very exciting cause he's my type and an actual gay person.

Then suddenly, he starts ignoring me. Okay. But I did go out of the way to find out if he was okay and talk to him. All seemed okay, he was just having a bad day.

Well, later a classmate and I are sitting in the room just chatting, when he comes in and very loudly and obnoxiously tells that guy all about his boyfriend and all the things they did all week long. He never once looked at me as he said all of this.

So I'm just like, well shit.

I'm I wrong in thinking that the point of that was to basically tell me to fuck off? That's how I took it. Back off, I'm taken.

Like I said, I thought we were mutual interested, cause we'd spend all class sneaking glances at each other smirking when we caught each other, which I thought was cute. The intensity I'd feel whenever we talked was palpable, the look in his eyes.

I'm leaving him alone now, cause I don't know how else to take all of that. I thought that's what he would want but there is a bit of a problem. It seems he's conflicted. He straight up stares at me all class long.

I kinda want to get in his face to be honest.

 

[jaysizzles]

He sounds like an immature asshole. I probably wouldn't tell him off without at least asking him why he's treating you so rudely, since you thought you were friends. If he contiues to be a jerk though, then yeah...get in his face.

 

[badbug]

How much of this is you enjoying the puzzle/mystery? And how much is you having a hard time meeting guys you are into?


Do you want to get in his face for the satisfaction of drama? Or are you hoping it leads to something more?

Are you going to be fine will telling him off? (if it makes things awkward or if you hurt his feelings, or if he hurts yours telling you off back?)


lots to think about......


I would say do what you want, it's what you will do anyways! : )

 

[KaraBulut]

...
I'm I wrong in thinking that the point of that was to basically tell me to fuck off? That's how I took it. Back off, I'm taken...

Even if he weren't intentionally doing it, would you want to waste time on such an insensitive jerk?

 

[Habbababba]

I won't be getting into his face. That's a waste of time. I'll just continue to ignore him. I'm sure as time goes on he'll stop caring.

I hope.

 

[Seasoned]

Ignore him.

 

[Habbababba]

Well, I've been sitting on this, but I thought fuck it.

We had a class trip to The Broad in LA. I only really know one of my classmates really well, though this was the chance to get to know all the rest of them better.

I walked around to try and do the assignment, but just got lost in the art. At one point my buddy showed up, but was being flanked by him.

We did casual nods and left it at that. Ignoring each other.

Until he started getting kind of close to me and started hitting me with his notebook. Looking at art and asking me about it in subdued whispery tones.

At one point he saw these guys, who looked very metro and said "oooh, yeah..." and I just said "Really dude?" and he's like "No, I didn't mean...", but I interrupted saying 'It's just that I like men, not boys'. He just stayed very quiet.

After that, more of the class showed up and he was bouncing around everyone. It came to the point when we were all done and trying to figure out what to do. Finally it was decided we'd go to Grand Park and then go from there. The thought was we'd go to Little Tokyo, but it never quite happened. At that point he was talking to me most of the time.

We were talking about food and someone said something and I replied in a sarcastic manner and he suddenly says "That exactly how my boyfriend would respond". I giggled, but it stayed quiet after that and then he suddenly storms off. I'm just like, 'what da fuq'? Just so bewildering, since I've known since he "told" me last week. . .

Eventually we all decide on a pizza place. While there, he is back to ignoring me, sitting on the other end of the table. Lol.

Unfortunately, we decide to have a few drinks. I don't drink anymore, so I got pretty drunk. (Succumbing to peer pressure?) So that's why I can't remember a lot of what was said.

After the pizza and booze, it was time to walk back. It was all up hill from there. Fun.

I know I yelled out about Back to The Future and if anyone had watched cause of October 21, 2015. Suddenly he's talking to me again. He's telling me all this stuff and we're just talking it up. He was getting flirtier and flirtier. I was just being me, not trying to hit on him or flirt. Just acting like I do with everyone else. Just listening. I gave him a hard time for not going out on Halloween with his boyfriend, "cause he'd be too tired". So I hoped that showed that I didn't care and supported the relationship.

When we finally got back to campus to pick up our cars, we said our goodbyes.

 

[mcbrion]

Unless you BOTH verbally acknowledged an interest in dating, there are no grounds for you getting in his face or anything else. Maybe he realized he was on the verge of becoming emotionally intimate with you, and that this wasn't fair to his boyfriend (in which case, I'd say he was actually behaving in a mature manner).
So he got flirty after a few drinks? That's hardly grounds for him being unkind to him, contrary to what some other posters have said. People's behavior changes when they've imbibed. Just be be polite, but unengaging. That's all. You needn't be mean, sarcastic, or anything else.

 

[Habbababba]

As it turns out, this didn't work out.

We talked for a couple more weeks after that field trip, but he kept on randomly storming off in the middle of our conversations and it got pretty awkward for me. I just started to keep to myself, even though it was upsetting for both of us.

Then he had to be involved with the school play and basically got pulled from the class.

The last time he was in class, he walked in, looking so upset and lost and sat down next to me. He was on his phone. Like five minutes later he was pulled back to the play rehearsal.

What was left of the class went to opening night and someone randomly told us that he was kicked out of the play for an accident/incident that had happened. Because of that, whatever it was, he's completely dropped out of all his classes.

I feel so horrible for him. I sent him an email telling him I hope he's okay, but he hasn't responded.

It's all just so ominous. I'm honestly so upset for him. It's all so sudden, he was kicked out a week ago or something and there's only a week of school left.

I think I just need a clearer picture, then maybe I'll understand.

 

[KaraBulut]

...I'm honestly so upset for him. It's all so sudden, he was kicked out a week ago or something and there's only a week of school left.

I think I just need a clearer picture, then maybe I'll understand.

This all sounds very much like a codependency case study.

 

[TX-Beau]

Jesus, drama can't embrace us unless we hug it first.