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Grab a pair and go talk to him. Maybe he's looking for a friend. It doesn't hurt to talk. I assume u know how to talk, yes?
 
His facebook page does give a lot of signs that he's gay, but you can't automatically assume it.

He seems socially awkward...maybe it's the language barrier? Does he know you are gay?

I'm getting the impression that there has been almost no conversation between the 2 of you, and that you both just stare at each other..awkward. You want to get to know him, so just bite the bullet and start talking to him. You gotta break the ice. Sit next to him, turn to him and say... hi, how's it going today...or something like that. Ask him if he wants to grab lunch or coffee after class. If he says he can't, ask him if he'd like to do it some other time. If he continues to say no...he's not interested.
 
He's probably thinking the same things you are. He showed interest at first, but you failed to take the initiative he had hoped you would. Given a language barrier, it's understandable that he wouldn't approach you. It's always awkward when two shy guys encounter each other. Don't let the opportunity slip through your fingers. It's better to be rejected than to wonder what might have been. Hit him up on Facebook... the internet was made for shy guys.
 
Like the others have said, if something's going to happen, YOU have to make it happen... it's not going to just magically occur on it's own. You two can do this, "Yes, I'm interested - PLEASE notice Me!" dance forever, but until one of you grows a pair and initiates something, one or both of you will assume the other isn't interested while neither of you had the balls to make the first step.

Treat it like a job interview... go in there and make a good first impression and show him why he needs you.
 
borg69unimatrix said:
Like the others have said, if something's going to happen, YOU have to make it happen... it's not going to just magically occur on it's own. You two can do this, "Yes, I'm interested - PLEASE notice Me!" dance forever, but until one of you grows a pair and initiates something, one or both of you will assume the other isn't interested while neither of you had the balls to make the first step.

Treat it like a job interview... go in there and make a good first impression and show him why he needs you.
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I wonder why I didn't get this sort of "make it happen" advice from you borg. ;)
 
How about just being nice to someone from another country? He'd probably appreciate it and it would help him be more comfortable with classmates.
 
silentalk said:
I wonder why I didn't get this sort of "make it happen" advice from you borg. ;)
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LOL ;) I see his odds at being a lot better then yours... sorry!!!
If you knew yours at least as well as the OP knows his, my opinion would be different regarding your case.
 
I say go for it. Even if you blew it once, get back over there. He is probably nervous to. He may even think it's cute you "blew it," once. You will always say and do one thing stupid (or many things!) What about non-verbal cues? A smile and head nod simply saying hello.

Also I have found being seen and heard in general seems to attract people to you. People will see and flock toward you if you are generally nice and warming. I like to hold the door for people, smile, say hello, compliment something they are wearing or have, talk about the weather, talk about a assignment or test before class with others. Work your way around to him in general chit chat. (Yes I did this and it work, BUT he was straight! Dammit!!!!!!)

Anyway, good luck, just some random thoughts I had. Keep us posted!
 
borg69unimatrix said:
LOL ;) I see his odds at being a lot better then yours... sorry!!!
If you knew yours at least as well as the OP knows his, my opinion would be different regarding your case.
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I know! Thanks. I just tend to dream big. Good advice anyway (*8*)
 
StarHealer said:
Sorry, I've been in class all day.

The most asked question: Does he know I'm gay? I haven't gone out of the way to tell anyone in class, I assume that people have whatever perception of me they have. I haven't been asked or anything. I'm not sure what he thinks of me.

I've basically talked to everyone in the class, even him briefly.

This is how the awkwardness(?) started.

He went to go and write his name down on the attendance sheet. Seeing him go, I realized I had better sign it as well. I walked down and when we were passing, he was staring me down, I looked back and smiled, but kept going to sign the sheet. When I went back to my seat, the row behind his, he looked up and at me. I looked down and smiled again, then sat down. Class started.

Anyway. I mean what can I say. I've talked to him once and it felt so awkward that I didn't really know what to do. He seems pretty nervous/scared. Where I was coming from was my worry that I'll freak him out now that he seems uninterested, if I suddenly show him interest. I guess I just have to see how he'll react. It seems most are saying that if they were him they'd want me to talk to him. So I will. Whatever happens, happens.

Just in case.... I could be wrong about my suspicions. At the end of the day, it would be cool just to make a friend, even if he ends up being gay. Nothing would make me happier to make a new friend, we could even end up writing/directing a film together.
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OK, from reading a lot of posts similar to your case, all I can say is this: It could go both ways. Just be careful not to get hurt. Good luck (*8*)
 
He looked at me and then maybe smiled, but when I looked back he wasn't looking at me, but then he sat next to me, but then the next day he didn't, but he smiled again, but then I smiled and he didn't say anything, and then...

I am sorry, this just sounds so pointless. You have nothing on this guy. No information, no signals of any kind. You're obviously closeted, even if it's just by keeping silent, and you're unwilling to make any real move. You are not even giving him signals, and I am assuming you have no experience to pick up on any REAL signals he might or might not be giving.

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Seriously, get a grip :)
 
StarHealer said:
Do straight guys like Lana Del Ray, Twilight, My Little Pony, say that they are concerned with Beauty and Looks, make a comment like 'why is Bradly Cooper considered the hottest man when Ryan Gosling exists', quote Katy Perry/Lady Gaga.

I could be wrong.
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He's gay.

But obviously isn't out + scared to talk to you incase you come on to him.
 
I am someone responding to your topic, which is my prerogative, same as posting it was yours. You're not bothering me in the least, but my not-sugarcoated response to you is clearly bothering YOU. [Deleted]everything I've said is correct. You're doing nothing, and you hope for someone else to give you an answer to your question when such an answer doesn't exist, and can't until you man up and do something concrete. [Deleted]
 
Hey, it's been over two months since you last wrote. What happened? Do tell us! Any success? Failure? Let us know!
 
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