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Damn, not invited to friends b-day

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Without more info we can't really judge this for you.

But I can say that to have friends you must be a friend first.
 
If Facebook is the main medium of communication, then you need a REAL life, as in face-to-face, and not through the barrier of other media.

Don't get me wrong, I think the internet and its communities are great, but are also wrecking havoc: when people used to live close-together in villages,
you had to depend on each other etc. Nowadays, with the slightest hint of an
insult, you can run away to someone else very quickly.

We, as social animals, are probably going to need a generation or two to figure
out the new rules (and I suspect they will follow the old ones quite closely).
 
i agree with the previous post...seriously dude, so what if you're not on their top...it doesnt matter...true friends dont worry about things like that...maybe instead of just instantly erasing someone off ur phone (what are u 12?) maybe u should ask them if they plan on doing something for their birthday...maybe this person just forgot to ask u...or maybe thought he already did...seriously dude, grow up a lil...
 
Well you can come to mine, its at Alegria Bar in Sunshine Beach on Sunday evening from 6pm.
Looking forward to seeing you there
Steve
ps I am turning 40
 
Why do you need the internet to confirm who your friends are? That's just silly.

But yea, I just had a similar experience the other week. It was a friend's birthday and I had called him, sent him an IM saying happy birthday, no reply on either. Basically no one called to tell me what's going on. But I ended up going out anyway even if it was by myself.

To hell with them. Relationships between people are two way streets.
 
first>>your being childish and immature. <SORRY> no disrespect intended.

but you are worry about two many things that are not important. Friends are earned though> trust and respect. You already said you may be giving off vibes and people pick it up. So try make changes with the things that might trigger them. THINK ABOUT WHAT YOU DO

NEXT SHOW THEM MORE ABOUT YOU.

Get a b/d card, BELATED I'm guessing by now, fill it out with some thing nice and send it to him. That will aknowledge you thought about his b/d. Keep it simple.

That will make them thing more about you next. Go to lunch, movie, beach.

before long you still may not be in there top 10 phone, but you may have earned there respect and friendship.:=D:


..| THAT MY FRIEND IS PRICELESS..|
 
You will find much of the problem resides within yourself. You have a lot of soul-searching to do if birthday invitations and "top friends lists" dictate your social behavior.
 
There's a commercial running up here about guys who play "Rock, Paper, Scissors" to decide who's going to be in "My Five". I look at this and wonder: "Am I too old? Why don't I get why this is relevant?" I worry about what's happening to our society.

Worrying about being on superficial lists is a waste of energy. It's much more important to determine why your "friend" didn't invite you. Maybe he doesn't think you're as close as you do.

If you think people are fake, there must be a reason. The best thing you can do is determine that reason.
 
I could not agree more with all of these posts! Seriously, take their advice!!

True, without more info we can't really tell how to react from your post. But at the same time, it makes us feel that a) you are really superficial to let something like a facebook top 5 (actually, I think it is top friends if I recall correctly) dictate who your real friends are. and b) you go through such extreeme measures to make them 'not exist' in your life anymore.

True friendship is often not something that is rewarded publicly. Meaning, often times it is not what is seen on the outside of that friendship (ie being named a 'top friend' or being mentioned by said friend as my *best* friend), but what you do for them. You shouldn't be worried about whether or not they place you in their top 5, instead you should be worrying if that friend is someone who you think is there for you when you need them and vice versa. And to be brutally honest, from what you have shared with us, I don't get that vibe on either side.

Be honest with yourself first, and then be honest with your friends. You can let them in without telling them you are gay if you want to. They don't need to know EVERYTHING in your life. It's okay :-) but the fact that you don't let them at all speaks very loudly to me. And it should to you too.

If the above confuses you- here is a summary: If you aren't letting them in, why the HELL do you expect them to consider you their top friend?!?!

Oh facebook, I've said it once and I'll say it again... Facebook/myspace/herspace...whatever should be a great indicator on all that is WRONG with our generation! The lines of communication have been cut (so-to-speak) to a thin wire (or wireless if you want to get all tech savy on me...) and its made communicating more superficial than ever.

Aye Dios Mio :confused:


Good luck finding yourself! ..|
 
I'm always hiding my sexuality and there's always something holding me back. I think a lot of people feel I'm fake and so they distance themselves...who knows.

It just sucks to be rejected like that.
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So what are you going to do to change? It is totally up to you, not your virtual friends.
 
You deleted him from your phone?

How did he take that news?
 
That has happened to me, and it feels bad, but if he did it, he must have had a good reason. He might be angry for some reason or maybe he forogt to tell you, really!

The thing is.... don't get mad. Because he didn't invite you doesn't mean he's not your friend anymore.
 
are you in the US? Is he under 21? Call the cops on his party and then be there for support :-D

just kidding...
 
I can't add much to what's been said here (other than to register shock at rareboy's rather mild posting).

1. Grow up.
2. Ask your friend what's up with the lack of a b-day party invite. If you don't feel comfortable asking him that, he's not really your friend, is he?
3. If your response to not getting an invite is to exact revenge by deleting a phone number out your cellphone, what's that say about you?
4. Is your measure of "good friends" where you sit on Facebook? If I gave your profile a 5-star rating here on JUB, would that make you feel better?

The answers, as they say, lie within.

Lex
 
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