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strike up a conversation with him, you have a class together after all. it's easy to say "hey man, do you have the notes from" or sit next to him one day. etc
 
So cannot a straight guy be asked to hang out with you? Does it have to have sexual overtones from the get go?
If you take the chance to get to know him you will be able to read the situation better and maybe get a friend as the result, maybe even better a boy friend!!
 
Bloody what if again!!! Sheesh your in the same class etc so there is no reason you can't put yourself out and speak to/sit near him.

Did he change or have you in the way your reading the situation? Gay straight makes no difference these day and there are ways to let him know your interested without shouting it from the roof top. So go for it you have nothing to lose.
 
Take him out for a drink, or get together for lunch or something. Find a way to weave your interests into the conversation, such as, "I think guys look hot in those [fill in the blank...shirts, glasses, shorts, etc.). "

And/or, ask him "So, do you have a girlfriend, or a boyfriend?" If he turns the tables back on you (and he will if he has an ounce of brains), say "No, I'm looking."
Usually, these types of coy conversations can quickly lead to a more honest conversation about true interests and a coming out talk. If you especially think he'd be receptive to that, then you have almost nothing to lose and everything to gain.

Good luck. I suspect you're right though, the mention of "ex-girlfriend" could have thrown him totally off-course and torpedoed your budding interest. Let us know what happens.
 
Your odds of anything happen grow exponentially when you actually take steps to make them happen.

Take them.

Lex
 
Let's say he's straight. Could you just handle him as a friend? Just some guy to BS with, maybe go do generic things with? If so, why not approach him that way? I mean, you DO have friends, right? Ones you don't sleep with? And you met them somehow, and got to know them, and became friends?

So why not go that route?

You don't have to get all meta. "Hello, we never talk - let's start." Just pick something related to where you are and what's going on to get the ball rolling. In class watching the video? When it's over, turn to him and say, "Well, it sure beat another lecture" or "That part about the weasel - what was THAT all about?" or something else appropriate. You'll find yourself in another similar situation soon. Just say something generic that's friendly, and see what happens.

Lex
 
haha, poor you. I always fall for the straight guys, lol I always feel like they culd be gay or bi, haha I wish.
 
human interaction is funny...I mean who just smiles at a guy they think hates them? What two guys smile at each other when they dont even know each other? hes clearly likes you...but you two will probably take along time to get to the good stuff. And to make human interaction even more strange... is for him to turn to be straight. hopefully that wont happen.lol

Good job...try to to keep yourself occupied these next two weeks cos ur gonna think of him constantly...:)
 
So what do I do, my usual damn thing. I, atleast, get a smile on my face but then look down to the floor. One of the people is like "Oh, hey :insert name:"

He kinda whispers "Hey, :insert name:....."
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If this is how you're greeting one another, you'll never get laid.
 
JerrySteps said:
"Well, I don't think you have to worry about one of them having a girlfriend.... Or liking girls" and she goes "Oh, which one?" I just smiled and then she said his name and I just laughed. She was like "Yeah, I thought that just based on my observances of him. He does seem like that." I just laughed and shook my head.
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Umm...wait a minute..if you guys start hanging out wont she be like, "hey why are you hanging out with that gay guy" in her head?
 
This might sound as a joke, but I seriously recommend that you watch the movie "run fat boy run".

Seriously!

You should never, never ever think that you're not good enough for a person. You can think that you want to improve yourself, and that's what love is about, wanting to become better people for ourselves and the ones we love. But thinking that you're not good enough... that state of mind would destroy any relationship you would have even a perfect one!

Take it easy :) everything will be fine!
 
Maybe he is a better actor and director than you. And maybe he's also a better dancer, a better football player, a better fighter, and a better lover.

So?

He's still a human being. He's still a bundle of neuroses and issues and problems stuck inside human skin, as are we all. As a human, no one human is outside your league. That doesn't mean they'll all sleep with you, of course, but that doesn't mean you can't make a go of it.

There ARE no leagues.
He likes talking to you.
So talk to him already. :)

Lex
 
So, I really need to push myself. I need to, he is such an amazing person and I would be so happy just to have him as a friend. I just have this hang up that I know is really, really dumb. I suppose since I like him it does make things different.
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Yes, you do. Yes, it is. Yes, it does.
 
I'm afraid for you that if you don't do something soon, he will slip right out of your reach. This whole shyness, chickening-out, pretending to ignore him will end up to nothing believe me. Then you will regret not doing anything when you had the chance.

I know it's so much easier said than done but there's no simpler way to put it. Both of you will remain stuck in this denial-phase and won't move on unless you clear things up.

If it doesn't work out, you know a place to vent. ;)

So go Jerry go!:gogirl:
 
next time you see him, walk up and just be like "hey man, hows it going....how was your weekend, you do anything fun....." and start a "random conversation" with him, just chit chat, that way it opens the door for you to talk to him more when you see him out side of class. or maybe just maybe i dont know. ask him if he wants to grab lunch or practice a scene with.
 
bokan800 said:
I'm afraid for you that if you don't do something soon, he will slip right out of your reach. This whole shyness, chickening-out, pretending to ignore him will end up to nothing believe me. Then you will regret not doing anything when you had the chance.
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agreed. You think your making yourself look cool or to make him notice you by ignoring him, but your not. your just making it less easier to approach you. believe me, I've done this and it doesnt work.
 
Stop with the oopsy-bumpy games. That's fine for sixth graders, but not so much for when you're 24. If he wants to bump into you, fine, but don't focus your attention there.

Just keep talking to him. Don't let the conversations drift off into nothing. One of you is going to have to keep them going. Have in mind at least ONE question to ask him next time you see him. And after you get an answer to that, follow it up.

If you ask, "What dorm do you live in?", when he answers "Clarkson", don't just say "Oh." Follow through. "Clarkson? Doesn't that get a bit rowdy for you sometimes?" "It must be nice having the dining hall so close." Whatever fits.

Lex
 
ok from my perspective...straight guys don't stare at other guys unless...they have a problem with them and they are calling them out...or maybe they are trying to figure something out about them..like if they are GAY...yes I do know some dipshits that do that...I even know dipshits that will bait a guy just to find out and make his life miserable

if a straight guy wants to buddy up with another guy he just asks to go for a beer or hang out or some such shit...he doesn't smile and get all shy and silly
 
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