I don't think I would ever date another cop again in my life. Especially one who was technically my superior at the time we broke up. What was really funny (to me) was how I was supported by 99% of our co-workers when I was outed (everyone else already figured out my ex was gay, his lisp was kinda obvious), and he was asked to resign. I wound up staying with the department and he was demoted from his Chief of Police position to a regular cop, then soon left to go work elsewhere in the law enforcement community(where he got fired from once someone put it in their ear that he was 28 and dating a 16 year old, which had moved in with him).
I think the most shocking part of the whole thing was getting called into the state troopers office and having everyone of them setting there and telling me if I had anymore problems from my ex to let them know and they would deal with it. It totally blew me away because these were guys I had known for 5 to 10+ years and I never figured they would have said anything like that. Especially since several of them, but mainly one, had been my "mentor" I guess you could say, he's the one who helped me get in the door at an early age thru ride along programs, helping me start an Explorers program that I later became the Captain of, and of course he got me my first job at 16 with the city police, then my first real LE job at 18, and then later helped to get me into the highway patrol academy, which I decided not to attend (and now kick myself in the ass for not going!)
Just a few "pro tips" to dating a cop from my experience
1) Realize quickly that if things get serious between the two of you, that the badge and the uniform come before everything else. (Work is #1 and it is a time consuming job, especially the higher his rank is)
2) There is a bond between officers, never get jealous of it or suspect anything from it, they are like brothers.
3) If this is your first time dating a cop, don't go out and buy a scanner. I remember having to deal with several first-time daters, and uniform chasers (
not calling you one) when I was in telecommunications who went out and bought scanners then tried to figure out our code system, got confused and just knew their boyfriend was shot.
4) He may or may not be into uniform fetish. If he isn't don't push it, if he is go for it, it can be really freaking hot. Although I will say it is easier to have sex in a fire truck then any non SUV cruiser.
5) Remember that at the end of the day he is just a regular person, who just happens to have a very public job.
6) There is a chance that he may never come home again because of someone's stupid actions. Don't dwell on this, and remember that anyone can be killed by someone else's actions at any time of the day, law enforcement or not.
Sorry didn't mean to go on and on.
Just trying to give you or anyone else who reads this an insiders POV.
