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I'm 33 and bi. I have never been with anyone I've a virgin. The only thing I've done sexual was make out with a guy and give him a job once. I've never done anything with a girl.
Sex amd dating just never really interested me when I was younger. But now I'm really
There is this one girl I've been friends with since high school and now she contacted me after breaking up with her boyfriend of 7 years. I think she might be interested in me. So I kind of want to explore this. But I don't know how to let her know I'm interested. And if it doesn't work out I lost her as a friend.
 
You could always go to lunch or a movie or something with her - not so much as a date, but just as a friend. And keep it simple with little things like that ?
(or maybe just a walk in the park, where the 2 of you could just have simple time together to talk about whatever?)

....though I'm not really one who can give advice, being someone who's never dated (or anything at all) anyone -- girl or guy.
 
Honestly dude you just need to get laid. If you are a virgin at 33 you've been WAY overthinking things. You probably are very sexually repressed or come from a very conservative background as well.

And I'm not trying to flame you here, but if someone approached me as a potential date at 33 and they were a virgin I would think it was kinda pathetic.

Get some sexual experience. A relationship is not gonna work without that imo.
 
I think, hotatlboi, you need to reevaluate your values if someone being a 33 year-old virgin is pathetic in your eyes.
They could be. Depending on why that is. But you shouldn't necessarily think they are for that reason alone.

I'm a 27-year-old virgin. I didn't overthink things. It's not a decision that was religiously motivated. I've had priorities that mattered to me more than sex or romance. I have had the opportunity to have sex and chose not to. I did not want to. And I exercised my agency.
 
SeaCore said:
I think, hotatlboi, you need to reevaluate your values if someone being a 33 year-old virgin is pathetic in your eyes.
They could be. Depending on why that is. But you shouldn't necessarily think they are for that reason alone.

I'm a 27-year-old virgin. I didn't overthink things. It's not a decision that was religiously motivated. I've had priorities that mattered to me more than sex or romance. I have had the opportunity to have sex and chose not to. I did not want to. And I exercised my agency.
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Thank you for understanding.

I'm not sexually repressed or come from a very conservative background. I just wasnt interested in dating or sex I wanted to focus on other things.
 
Croft85 said:
Thank you for understanding.

I'm not sexually repressed or come from a very conservative background. I just wasnt interested in dating or sex I wanted to focus on other things.
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Fair enough. I'm simply saying that I think it is a reasonable assumption that most people are going to view being a virgin at 33 as abnormal. So if you try to go from that to "dating" it's probably less likely to work out.

Most people lose their virginity and develop their sexual identity long before they are really ready for a stable relationship.

If you are ready for sex now, then consider start exploring your sexuality without worrying about finding the right one or whatever. You are going to suck your first time most likely anyway.
 
I don’t think there’s anything wrong with being a virgin at your age. Most people today seem to rush and push sex sex sex. I’m 37 and I can count and name all the people I’ve been with on one hand (with fingers left over). Could I have been with more if I wanted to? Yup. Were there times I considered it? Yup.

Anyway back to you... You need to carefully evaluate if you could stand to lose this friend if you do wind up dating and things go bad.

How long have you been friends?
Are you good friends? Close friends? Best friends?
 
We have been friends since high school we never super close. Lost touch for like 7 years and she texted me wonder if I want to hangout. It your right I do need to think about what I might lose. Last thing I want to do is hurt her. She already been with one by guy and he left her for his boyfriend. I will admit I like men more
 
Sounds like you're about to break her heart. She's reaching out to you as a friend. I bet she suspects you're gay and just neds someone to connect and talk to. Take it slow, get the facts.....and for Christ sakes....get some dick on the down low
 
I don't see why you should automatically assume you'd lose her as a friend if things don't work out. You mentioned in your OP that you're interested, so I say go for it...nothing ventured nothing gained. Maybe she is the one. Take things slow, be honest with her and what you're looking for and ask her to do the same, and let her know that it is a concern of yours that if it doesn't work out that you'd lose her, which you don't want to do. I have friends that have remained friends with their exes, so it is possible.
 
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