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Dating is weird even for old guys

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I dont 'date' much and here's why...

Last weekend of july I went into a local bar and within 15 mins a guy I've never seen before started chattin me up. I wasnt sure if he was hittin on me or not (yeah, old guys get hit on too). After 15 mins I knew he was interested in more than just talking.

We hang around together in the bar & back patio for about 2 hrs having a grand time, neither one of us get drunk. We decided we were sexually a match and wanted to fuck, so we go to his house because it was closer than mine.

We have sex then sleep, wakeup more sex then sleep until 9am next day. We get up and take a shower together and have sex in the shower.

I get dressed and am ready to leave when he asks if I wanted coffee and a bagel. I say yeah so we leave and get some breakfast. After we eat he said he wanted to see me again so we swap phone #s.

He calls me the next day and the next. We have good convo. I call him 2 days later and asks if he wanted to go out on a date the next Sat. night. He says yes. I pick him up on Sat and we have a nice italian dinner, wine and all. I picked up the tab because I invited him. We go back to his house and he hugs me and said "good night" LOL - I'm like WTF but didnt beg to go in or show any disappointment. We said we would talk later in the week.

He never called again... I called him 3 days later and he was acting like we never met, so I cut the convo short and hung up.

The end. :wave:
 
haha yeah but the advantage is the whole experience you where lucky enough to have....

i would have been to awkward to even hook up.... so at least that part was easy for you
 
Maybe he didn't like your conversation.

There really isn't anything weird about it. He may have been interested in you for the moment and may have had an illusion that something more could be but perhaps it was just an illusion.

Who knows. Not everything works out.
 
recuerdeme, still no reason to be the way he was on the last phone call.
 
I don't think there is a good enough reason for him to act like that on his last phone call. Thats just harsh.
 
i would have been to awkward to even hook up.... so at least that part was easy for you

In 25 more years it will be 2nd nature to you also. UNLESS, and hopefully, you have a partner then ..|
 
More likely than not, you must have said or done something that has turned him completely off. (Who knows? He does, but would not say, anyway.)

Yet, you have had your fun, too, and frankly, the dude has demonstrated a serious lack of maturity at a very early stage of your 'dating'. Count your blessings here.

Everyone has his good right to change his mind and dump another dude, cruel as this may sound. There is no point debating that issue. It is pretty much a commonplace.

Yet, there is decent way of saying: 'Dude, it was great meeting you and all. Yet, I do not really think that we are all that compatible and would rather not go on with it.'

Pretending that he kinda 'never met you' was infantile and speaks volumes for itself. Denial of reality just may be his modus operandi.

Bottomline: sex was good. Convo was interesting to a degree. And the life goes on.

SC
 
>>>Does farting loudly during dinner count ?

Depends.

Was it one of those liquidy "juicy" ones?
Did it smell like dead animals and gourmet cheese?
Did you announce "you think THAT one was bad - just wait until this marina sauce hits the stomach"?

...in that case, yes.

Lex
 
Hey, at least you got that far.

I'm the guy who can't even get a hand-job in a darkroom, let alone anything that might charitably be described as a "date"
 
I think some explanation was needed. You had spent a night "together" and were on a date and then talked on the phone, he should have at least said hey, "I don't think it is going to work out. Good luck to you."

Whatever happened to a little human decency and common curtesy
 
I have my suspicions...

1) the bar we met in is a semi regular one for me and I've never seen him in there before.

2) His house didnt look like a house for 'one' person
 
I have my suspicions...

1) the bar we met in is a semi regular one for me and I've never seen him in there before.

2) His house didnt look like a house for 'one' person

Maybe it was one of those break up for a week things.... (I know a little something about those :( ) He may have been looking for someone or to pursue something new but then he reconciled.

How does a house not look like for one person. Is it really big? nicely decorated with children toys in the front yard? I'd hate to have someone judge me as being attached because I'm not living in a studio apartment or something.
 
** UpDate ** :)

Out of the blue he calls me tonight... Been almost 3 months since we talked, the night of our 'date.'

Long story short:

He is now living in another place and by HIMSELF - meaning he was with someone at the time we went out. He said it was over then but not over ???

Anyway, he wants to "see" me again if I want to. He gave me his new phone #s.

I will update again.
 
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