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Dealing with Anxiety Advice

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Apologies to anyone reading this in advance as these can be very sensitive and uncomfortable subject. I've never gone to a professional health physician or advisor that has diagnosed me with Anxiety; however, I do feel like I show signs of anxiety and at times it's led to depression. I am currently in between jobs and hope to seek a physician or counselor in the near future, but for people who have dealt with anxiety, how have you handled, coped and improved your mental health and well-being?

I've noticed for me there a lot of habits that plague me. I worry a lot, although i've gotten better with certain things like job where I don't worry as much. I use to worry a lot about meeting a guy long term; however i've almost settled in not dating since it would bring me a good amount of pain and loneliness when a guy doesn't work out. I use to really care about having "best friends" but lately i've been settled on having "casual friends", not really caring about deep friendships. Once in a while I get pretty restless at night thinking about meaning of life and being scared of the thought of death. I have a lot of other bad habits in my life: I have a lot of to do lists but i always defer it to later (i.e. cleaning my house). I try to distract myself sometimes with playing phone games or check IG until i'm ready to tackle on real world things, i'm on grindr more than I'd like to be sometimes.

I finally have a chance to move cities, from Cali to PNW. I've kind of wanted to move for quite a while just for a change of scene and a slower pace. I just felt like the last 5-7 yrs is just a repetitive with same habits and still feeling like i'm still in the same spot in life; however i think the change of scene is causing my anxiety to flare again. I'm not really sure why, but possibly just the thought of change and not knowing specific and defined moments that i will be looking forward to or excited about. Maybe i'm kind of scared of potential negative things.

Any advice helps. Thanks!
 
Why have you not sought out professional help?
 
It's not really the place to get good advice, but I can share a bit of my experience. I will be 49 in a few days and have lived my life battling depression and anxiety that has drastically altered my life. I have had poor luck seeking professional help. An appropriate therapist is very difficult to find. I am fortunate to have decent health insurance but the copays are killer, and the choices are profoundly limited. I always see those -reach out for help-messages. What the fuck do they mean? I have lived my life having tremendous difficulty letting anyone in and certainly not accepting help. Who do I reach out to? My primary doctor is kind and she tries, but I am not sure there is any answer. This is my lot in life. I've given up on dating and romantic dreams, I just live to be a decent parent. If I were not a parent I am certain I would have given up a long time ago. Maybe thats the key? Find something to live for? A purpose that hellps you get through, for me that is being a parent. That and accepting that my life will never be like the happy people on tv....Good luck, take care of yourself.
 
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