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Dear Black/Ethnic members of JUB, (and everybody else) do you feel compelled to dispel prejudices in your own communities?

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When my mother was younger with just my sisters (I didn't exist until literally decades later) she would tell them:

"Girls, black people will be judged by your actions. It's not just you who you are representing but the entire community"

Keep in mind this is a long time ago when racial tensions were very high.

A few years back when I was learning how to drive the instructor told me to pull over, he said "Let me donate some money to this lemonade stand, it's important to take every opportunity to shed a good light on blacks"


Then we have comedians like Wanda Sykes saying in her jokes "You better stop, white people are looking at you!"


My mother and father groomed me at a young age to present myself in public as a gracious human being. It is in my nature to pick up spilled groceries or hold doors open.

I was just picking up some food and noticed some black guys loitering in front. I think we have all heard "Loitering" stories too much (Isn't it illegal somewhere?) and I thought to myself "I wonder if this woman behind me is uncomfortable.


When I got to the door I waited for a moment until she caught up; I had been keeping it open for her and flashed her a smile.



Anyone reading this who is in a minority (Even gay, hell this is a gay forum) do you ever feel compelled to go out of your way to leave a positive impression?


Is it a conscious effort?

Or do you just do it naturally because you are a decent human being?


Also, anyone reading this, did you hold a prejudice until one person, in one moment, went against it and shocked you?

I'd love to hear.
 
Also i didnt know loitering was a black stereotype, ive seen just as many skaters and punks hang out in front of stores.
 
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Karen_Walker said:
Also i didnt know loitering was a black stereotype, ive seen just as many skaters and punks hang out in front of stores.
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I think Loitering for blacks has always been looked at as "Trouble" "Oh shit something going down" "Are they about to go on a shooting spree?"



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I remember some guy was loitering with his friends and he had opened the door for me or something nice :dead: :dead:


What a fucking gentleman
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reone said:
Yes, I do, but only because I honestly feel like it's easy to do. Being nice and courteous is not difficult. I'm pretty fortunate though because, in general, I feel like I'm around happy people. I work with children and my school is full of people passionate about what they do. I deal with ignorance often even still but most of the time I let it slide off.

I can think of several instances where being nice to someone ended up with me getting bit, but they don't outweigh the opposite, or at least the potential benefit of the opposite. It's important to know how to be nice to people without feeling like you're being taken advantage of. That was a hard lesson for me to learn.

I think it's unfortunate that anyone should feel like they are representing their community, but I can understand why your mom may have felt that way. When there are negative stereotypes or assumptions that you feel like people are going to attach to you then it's only natural to want to disprove them (if they aren't true).
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DigitalFudge said:
I think Loitering for blacks has always been looked at as "Trouble" "Oh shit something going down" "Are they about to go on a shooting spree?"



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I remember some guy was loitering with his friends and he had opened the door for me or something nice :dead: :dead:


What a fucking gentleman
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My parents are like this and it seems awfully slave-ish to me. "uh ohh da white man lookin, us gotta put on a good face so us can leaves a good impression."

I dont purposely defy stereotypes, its incidental and in no way shape or form done out of obligation, if black america wants me to serve as a living PR campaign they gonna have to put me on payroll.
 
I think I must fall under the "everybody else" category. I'm almost 40. I grew up on the Canadian prairies at a time when "Italian" was considered ethnic and probably 96% of the population was white. That still meant that one kid out of every 20 was some kind of brown. So we just played together. Our moms got us together at the park. It was elementary school. We didn't even know about or understand race, never mind racism. That was the opening chapter. But the brown kids I gee up with didn't have to make an impression on me because I always knew them. If i had a brown friend who had asked me to stop the car because he needed to get out and make a good impression on someone I would probably still be laughing.

But like I said that was only the first chapter. Life changed somewhat on the prairies.
 
reone said:
I think it's unfortunate that anyone should feel like they are representing their community, but I can understand why your mom may have felt that way. When there are negative stereotypes or assumptions that you feel like people are going to attach to you then it's only natural to want to disprove them (if they aren't true).
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I feel like my mother knew how unfortunate it was too. In a time where "Black people steal" "Black people are stupid" "Black people have no manners" there was never a more important time to hold a door open for a woman and her kids while leaving a generous tip to your server for the meal you just had.
 
bankside said:
If i had a brown friend who had asked me to stop the car because he needed to get out and make a good impression on someone I would probably still be laughing.
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So you don't appreciate the forwardness of trying to leave a good impression?

Perhaps the kids at that lemonade stand over heard their father on the phone saying something ignorant or rude. Or if their friends like to make jokes that they believe is fact.

Wouldn't it be beneficial to have individuals out here that want to take the time and perpetuate a positive image?
 
MoePhoenix7 said:
Do I feel like certain actions committed by fellow minorities set me and others back? Absolutely not. I don't conduct myself in the manner that those people do. I don't gang bang, sell/do drugs or live recklessly. If anything, this makes me look *better* than the people you see standing aimlessly on the corner, outside a liquor store. If you are easily set back, then you were weak to begin with imo. ;)

That’s not to say that some white people are sitting up looking at the lowest common denominator of black people and then judging the rest of us as being the same. Maybe they are, maybe not. But that isn’t my problem and it doesn't define me. I live for myself. It’s too aggravating to live my life as some type of a false example of black people. I’m me and I can only be in control of my own life. And whatever I decide to in life, good or bad is simply just a representation of myself.

I refuse to allow myself to care more about what people think of me than I do myself.

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The other side of the argument.


Very well stated.
 
MoePhoenix7 said:
Do I feel like certain actions committed by fellow minorities set me and others back? Absolutely not. I don't conduct myself in the manner that those people do. I don't gang bang, sell/do drugs or live recklessly. If anything, this makes me look *better* than the people you see standing aimlessly on the corner, outside a liquor store. If you are easily set back, then you were weak to begin with imo. ;)

That’s not to say that some white people are sitting up looking at the lowest common denominator of black people and then judging the rest of us as being the same. Maybe they are, maybe not. But that isn’t my problem and it doesn't define me. I live for myself. It’s too aggravating to live my life as some type of a false example of black people. I’m me and I can only be in control of my own life. And whatever I decide to in life, good or bad is simply just a representation of myself.

I refuse to allow myself to care more about what people think of me than I do myself.
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