Depression & Gay

[BigJam]

Does anyone live with and/or suffer from depression? I'm been living with it since the 6th grade. Since coming out it has gotten worse. Although I'm currently on medication, see a psychiatrist and go to a support group, it seems that the cause is that I've never been a boyfriend. It's not like I haven't dated before, but when I want to move to the relationship/boyfriend stage, I get rejected.

Does anyone else live with depression like me?

 

[borg69unimatrix]

Relationships are a LOT of work... having a BF isn't necessarily going to be the utopian life you think it will be... unless you happen to be a Disney Princess. You shouldn't rely on someone else to make you happy. That's a lot of unfair baggage to place on them... especially when you yourself may not know what it is that makes you happy.

... and just because a relationship doesn't work out don't consider it a 'rejection'. It doesn't mean you did anything wrong... it just means you weren't compatible. Move on and find someone you are compatible with.

 

[Mikael176]

Keep trying and perhaps try to figure why you think you are being rejected. Maybe you aren't picking the right guys, or at least the type that want a bf.

 

[KaraBulut]

Not all depression is the same. There are times when depression is a normal response- for example, we would expect someone to feel depressed after death of a family member or when a relationship ends.

For some people, depression has a biochemical aspect and for those who have depressive disorders, it takes a combination of different strategies - medication, exercise, psychotherapy, light therapy, etc- to address the underlying causes.

But there's also a difference between depression and depressive thought patterns. If you're finding yourself in the state of mind that "the world is plotting my unhappiness" and "I'm never going to have a boyfriend", then it will take a structured therapy program- like CBT- to break the cycle.

 

[JarodA]

I'm here! Count yourself lucky you can at least date . If you've dated through real-life rather than the internet also, you should take some pride in that. I swear off internet dating (never have done, never will), and have never dated in my whole life (and I'm 23 as of 50 minutes ago).

KaraBulut ^ mentions CBT. I'm going to give that a try...I just have to make that appointment . I hear good things about it, and I also have a lot of 'issues' that it could help with. I'm more of the 'depressive thought patterns' than depression .

 

[borg69unimatrix]

I'm here! Count yourself lucky you can at least date . If you've dated through real-life rather than the internet also, you should take some pride in that. I swear off internet dating (never have done, never will), and have never dated in my whole life (and I'm 23 as of 50 minutes ago).

KaraBulut ^ mentions CBT. I'm going to give that a try...I just have to make that appointment . I hear good things about it, and I also have a lot of 'issues' that it could help with. I'm more of the 'depressive thought patterns' than depression .

"Cock and Ball Torture" ???

 

[OPHELIA_HARDIN]

Get your testosterone levels checked. Yeah, yeah, it's all the fad now, but I suffered from horrible depression since adolescence. Was on heavy duty antidepressants (MAOIs) for about 20 years until I asked the doc for test. check. Well, whaddya know? Came back way low, started replacement therapy and the depression lifted and has stayed away for a over a decade.