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Depression & Homosexuality

Pegasus69

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No, you are not alone in this. I have been there before, but have not felt that way in a very long time. I think the reason for not experiencing it in such a long time is that I came to terms with my sexuality quite awhile ago. When I get down now, it is just that, feeling a little down, not depressed. It also about something else, not my sexuality. Be sure to mention this to your therapist.
 
I think that the majority of homosexuals, if not all, have experienced or are still experiencing depression, so no you are not alone. (*8*) I think it's down to all the worrying we do.
 
It might be part of your therapeutic process -- therapists do go in and dig around, and that causes you to HAVE to confront the problem at some point.

Keep a good attitude about continuing the internal work, and you should wind up ok if your therapist is any good. . . .
 
you've just recently came out to yourself and your folks Mark. Your experiencing everything that most gay guys experience. I know it feels as if the whole world is against you and that your the only one left. I know the feelings of fear, the fear that you will not succeed in your life, the feelings that your going to grow old and be alone forever. It's not true. You have friends, you have JUB and eventually you have a person who really cares for you and will be there for ya. Your a good looking guy. (love the shades from your picture! ;) ) From your blog alone you sound like a guy that anybody would want! As for the depression, sure someppl might find that being a turn off. But those ppl are usually very shallow ppl and don't release that it's not how a person looks on the outside but how the person looks on the inside. Your depression is just a character flaw....nothing more. It a part of you that makes you who you are. As somebody said on your blog....it makes you special, otherwise you'd just be another boring twink! ;) (no offense to the other twinks on the site! ;) )
 
I think depression is just a result of the trials and the times that we, as homosexual men, experience and live in. It's our condition. We're ostracized and persecuted and ridiculed and demonized and our sense of self understanding and moral understanding is minimized.

When iw as seeing a psychologist, he gave my parents some liberal religious resources that they never touched, and gave me some more rational conservative materials to consider. They were a good read, but then he gave me the Focus on the Family: Love Won Out casette tape my mom bought when she attended their conferance in Toronto. I listened to all of it, the testimony of their poster-boy ex-gay and their research from a 'renouned' expert, out of respect fro the other side's opinion. It fucked me up for about 3 - 4 days. I was unsure of myself and my sexuality. Was I wrong? It made me incredibly depressed.

But you just pick up the pieces and you look into your heart and you focus on total silence so you can hear the truth of what you know is right in yoru heart. For me, I listened and I knew that how I felt was not wrong. So I was able to slowly, but surely, get myself back up to an affirmative self image of myself and my sexuality.
 
I would stop short of linking homosexuality with depression. We all have str8 friends, family members, people we know from all walks of life... And many of them are or have been depressed.

Depression is a serious condition and should not be treated carelessly. However, beware of all the therapists out there, who have vested interests in seeing even the lightest of the mood changes as signs of looming depression. Cool, they have to make a living, too. But you may want to make sure, that it is not you, whom they choose to victimize for the sake of their good living, rite?

Before you start using the word 'depression', go and get a second, even thrid opionion. It is your life and your money. You want to do whatever it takes.

SC
 
I recall when my dad and I argued about my homosexuality, he said that gay people tend ot be more depressed and commit suicide. I responded that it was due to the ostracization they experience in society and he shook his head and sighed as if I was completely stupid and missing the point.

How does an automotive engineer become so stupid?
 
Well, surfrboy, looks like you hit on an interesting correlation.
Namely, being open and honest about yourself and not dealing with depression.

Have you known any surfers with depression at all?
Or much of any kind of personal problem like that?
Besides maybe "doctor says I can't surf/I'm Depressed."


On the other hand, 'Practice a positive attitude'; is that the medicine we need?
 
There is a higher incidence of depression among gays. But it is definitely not an exclusive thing to gays nor do all gays get depressed. I would agree with the comment that it's not the fact that we're gay that predisposes but rather the social conditioning in regards to homosexuality.
 
Agree with joeyboy and robertac. At one time I thought like you Danno, but I can tell you it isn't the case. There come times when you just can't shake it off.
 
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