Depression & Jealousy

[moonrabbit]

I have a question. For anyone dealing with depression, has it caused you to have feelings of extreme jealousy? I kind of need some advice about this. I'm a little afraid to really get into details becausee my story is a little weird. But I hope you guys can offer your help.

 

[looseliam]

Well when one is depressed I think it's fair to assume that regular emotions become a bit more extreme.

Weird or not, fell free to share with us.

 

[luminum]

Well, Tsukino Usagi-chan, I've beent here too. Usually, being depressed makes me envious of other people who seem so worry free.

It's easy to do, but you also have to realize that everyone has a dark problem that they don't reveal--a face that they choose not to show to the world.

 

[moonrabbit]

Okay. I'll explain. To make it less weird, I will leave out some unimportant details. This problem involves one of my friends. He's one of the nicest guys you'll ever meet. For some reason, I can't help but become jealous of him. He's wealthy, has a big house, a loving partner, and a career that gets him lots of attention. He may be one of my best friends, but there's a small part of me that hates him. And this makes me feel incredibly guilty. You know, when he discovered I was dealing with depression, he was there for me. In fact, he even gave me more support than my own family. How can I feel so negative about a wonderful person like him because he has more than I do. I'm going to be honest. Deep down, I want him and everyone else to be unhappy just like me. This is not something I'm proud of. I don't want to be like this. I don't want to be jealous and bitter because my friend is living a successful life while I'm here with unrealistic dreams of actually amounting to anything in life. This issue with jealousy is only a small part of my problem. Besides that and the depression, I'm also suicidal. I've gone to my family about how I needed to go to a doctor and get something prescribed. But more times than I can count, I've gotten the excuse that we can't afford to see a doctor.

 

[MICHIGAN32000]

I think you're doing a positive thing by opening up and talking about how you feel. I have been in a dark place before, and I think it's safe to say that things can change. Another person who is having a good life, can have pain another day, and a person who is suffering now can have better days ahead. You talked about what your family says, and how they don't want you to go to the doctor. I don't know if they are like this in other parts of your life too. I think that by following your own mind and making decisions for yourself, can help the way that you feel about yourself. I think by setting a goal for yourself and reaching it would be a good place to start. Make it something you can do. Maybe you could tell yourself that you're going to be easier on yourself and not so critical. Then, when you find that you are criticizing yourself, you stop and think of something good. After that, take pride in the fact that you didn't beat yourself up. I can relate to how you're feeling, you're not alone. You do have qualities to offer this world. The way that you expressed yourself in this column makes me think that you are an honest and genuine person. You seem to deep-down want the best for your friends.
Everyone is different and I think that you should try your best not to compare yourself to others. I hope that you can see the good that is in you and see the good that is around you too.

 

[Missec]

Okay. I'll explain. To make it less weird, I will leave out some unimportant details. This problem involves one of my friends. He's one of the nicest guys you'll ever meet. For some reason, I can't help but become jealous of him. He's wealthy, has a big house, a loving partner, and a career that gets him lots of attention. He may be one of my best friends, but there's a small part of me that hates him. And this makes me feel incredibly guilty. You know, when he discovered I was dealing with depression, he was there for me. In fact, he even gave me more support than my own family. How can I feel so negative about a wonderful person like him because he has more than I do. I'm going to be honest. Deep down, I want him and everyone else to be unhappy just like me. This is not something I'm proud of. I don't want to be like this. I don't want to be jealous and bitter because my friend is living a successful life while I'm here with unrealistic dreams of actually amounting to anything in life. This issue with jealousy is only a small part of my problem. Besides that and the depression, I'm also suicidal. I've gone to my family about how I needed to go to a doctor and get something prescribed. But more times than I can count, I've gotten the excuse that we can't afford to see a doctor.

I dont know if this will help or not, but I have been depressed as well. My depression is from not having anything. I was married 5 years ago. We was married for over 11 years and she was my best friend. I honestly thought I want out, so that I could live my life as I wanted. But I found out the hard way that I miss her, granted I dont miss the sex, but I miss her. Now I miss what I had, I had a home, cars, money etc. Now I have nothing. My major depression hit me when I turned 40. I thought it would be easy to get myself a bf and live my life as I did when I got married. But I found out the hard way that it dosent work like that. I cannot seem to find a guy that wants a TRUE LTR. They always want something on the side. I am now 41 and my life is truning around, I had to make myself stop thinking negitively and more positivly. Vitimans and Excrisise does wonders. I aslo changed a few things in my life wich needed to be done. I changed jobs, changed the clothes I wear, changed my hair style. It a new me. Each new day brings me happyness. Life is to short the way it is to be depressed about things. Found out the other day that my friend is going through depression and he has everything. House, cars, bf etc. So now I am helping him through it. (I dont trust doctors - so I never went.) I found reading books helped me the most. The best one to read is Awaken the Giant within, by Anthony Robbins. Check it out. It might help you as well.

 

[moonrabbit]

I found reading books helped me the most. The best one to read is Awaken the Giant within, by Anthony Robbins. Check it out. It might help you as well.

Currently, I am reading a book. It's called, Final Exit by Derek Humphry. Yeah, I know it's a bad idea to be reading that.

 

[BrandonSBCA]

I've had been depressed for a while, and it's brought a lot of jealously sometimes it would be so out of control that I would tell the other person that has hot guys all over him that I'm extremely jealous of the guys because of them having sex with him.

I've learned to not get so jealous over dumb things.

 

[mustangman]

I have a question. For anyone dealing with depression, has it caused you to have feelings of extreme jealousy? I kind of need some advice about this. I'm a little afraid to really get into details becausee my story is a little weird. But I hope you guys can offer your help.

You had better believe it. When I get depressed, I get jealous of EVERYTHING. I go out and buy things becouse some one else has what I want. I get jelous over someones body, their BF or their DICK. I get depressed a lot also I have a bad habit of buying things that I don't need

 

[Newbie_69]

Currently, I am reading a book. It's called, Final Exit by Derek Humphry. Yeah, I know it's a bad idea to be reading that.

See,you yourself know that its bad for you. Do you think you desire the outcome from reading that book?
Try "What To Say When You Talk To Your Self" by Shad Helmstetter instead. If you want to change some things in life, you have to change some things in life.Take Care.

 

[Pringle]

Okay. I'll explain. To make it less weird, I will leave out some unimportant details. This problem involves one of my friends. He's one of the nicest guys you'll ever meet. For some reason, I can't help but become jealous of him. He's wealthy, has a big house, a loving partner, and a career that gets him lots of attention. He may be one of my best friends, but there's a small part of me that hates him. And this makes me feel incredibly guilty. You know, when he discovered I was dealing with depression, he was there for me. In fact, he even gave me more support than my own family. How can I feel so negative about a wonderful person like him because he has more than I do. I'm going to be honest. Deep down, I want him and everyone else to be unhappy just like me. This is not something I'm proud of. I don't want to be like this. I don't want to be jealous and bitter because my friend is living a successful life while I'm here with unrealistic dreams of actually amounting to anything in life. This issue with jealousy is only a small part of my problem. Besides that and the depression, I'm also suicidal. I've gone to my family about how I needed to go to a doctor and get something prescribed. But more times than I can count, I've gotten the excuse that we can't afford to see a doctor.

Well I hope its not too weird because 3 years ago I could have made a very similar post ^. (well other than I didn't go to my parents) and added to that I really fancied the guy.

The turning point came for me when I finally woke up and realised he didn't have it as perfect as I had imagined. I had almost created, in my own mind, this "grass is greener" picture. Now the guy will always be better looking than me and more intelligent - and straight but I found I had many things that he didn't. Now I know life isn't a competition, but I fully appreciate your sentiment of wishing everyone else had problems (as unhealthy as that attitude is). Truth be known everyone does have problems but some are just better at dealing with them.

You need to become comfortable with the attributes you have and not concern yourself with the ones you haven't.

 

[moonrabbit]

There's more I haven't told you guys. I'm going to look like a horrible person, but I have to be completely honest if I want help. My friend may be rich with a big house, but he's not exactly sliding down a rainbow. In ways, he has it a lot worse than I do. He is HIV+ and it's now starting to take its toll on his health and memory. The only reason he lives in a big house is because he wants to spend his final days in a beautiful home. That's not all. His partner just slipped into AIDS recently. My friend told me a few times how he wants to die soon because he lost a partner to cancer a few years back and doesn't want to experience that kind of pain again with his current partner. I know the problems he's dealing with, but I still can't help but envy him. Despite the negative things in his life, he's managed to become successful. It's not so much the materialistic things he owns, but the fact that he accomplished something I probably never will. I wish you guys met me a year ago. I wouldn't exactly say I was happy, but I was content. I was loving and caring. I was a good person. Ever since I became depressed, I've turned into someone I don't like very much. I should be happy about what I have. I try my hardest to. As much as I want to, I just can't seem to be appreciative. Like I mentioned, I talked to my family. But they keep telling me we can't afford to see a doctor to get something prescribed. And I hate the fact that they refuse to understand the seriousness of my problem. Luckily, I've stopped cutting, but I'm still suicidal. I've written too much already. Before I go, I want to thank everyone for their support and for not judging me.

 

[gameboy 11]

Um...I'm mildly depressed but at the moment I can't think of a situation where I was EXTREMELY jealous of anything or anyone...sorry I couldn't help more.

 

[gameboy 11]

Scratch that. I get jealous when I see people being with their friends just laughing and having a good time. I go to school and stuff but I don't really have that...