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did anyone have parents who were cool with it?

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I know if I me out my parents would be suuuuuper shocked and my dad especially would completely flip out and probably kick me out of the house or something crazy. I guess thats why i've always kinda dreamed of having the really supportive parents, you know, the kind that would be like "oh cool, you like guys whatever, how was school today?" Did anybody have parents that were cool with them liking guys , or were your parents a nightmare about it?
 
Many parents are cool with it.

And just because you think your Dad would flip out, doesn't mean that he would kick you out.

What about your mother. Maybe come out to her first and let her soften the old man up.

I would always recommend that when you do tell the p's, have a copy of some literature from the PFLAG site available for them to read and research during their 'coming to grips with it' period.
 
When my sister came came out, the family was like; "Your gay? Well no duh! Pass the corn..." And I am not joking when I say it was like that. When I came out, they were like "As long as you are happy..." and moved on. I think that your family may be more accepting than you think they are. I do think that it can be a good thing to come out, but it is totally up to you when you choose to do it.

Good luck.
 
My dad faked acceptance. My mom went on some stupid guilt trip. She got better. He didn't.

But the most amazing things surprise you...aunts, uncles, cousins, all fine. My mom's 90 year old great aunt - totally fine. She welcomes us both into her house like any family.

It is all good, and my father was an asshole long before he knew I was gay.
 
My parents were cool about it. They knew long before I came out that I was gay. My mom was the one who actually initiated the conversation and it lasted a whole of a couple minutes. She came to my bedroom with two coffees and two cigarettes, sat down in my chair at my desk while I sat on my bed and asked, "Are you gay?". I said yes, and that was pretty much it.

There's a lot of stress telling those first people. In your head, you build up all these worst scenarios of rejection based on the fear that you have inside you. Once I told a couple people and saw that it was more a big deal for me to get it out than it was for them to hear it, I relaxed. It takes courage though, so at first its quite an ordeal. Afterwards, its like a world of worry is gone off your shoulders- the feeling is quite remarkable.
 
I had assumed because they were Christian, pro-life, Republican and always changing the channel when anything involving homosexuality came up, that they did not approve of homosexuals. I planned on being closeted until I went off to college.

Little did I know my mom has many gay friends from school and work. I still think my father is weirded out by it, but he has not said anything to me. They also told me that they had suspected for a while and then asked me if they I had noticed them treating me any differently, and I said no.

It's a lesson I learned in humility and judging people without truly knowing them.
 
people will always surprise you, i told my mom on rather strange circumstance(another story) and she immediately went to tears and then hugged me and said it was all right.. I was crying and stressed when i told her. surprisingly my dad who i thought would freak and who admitted to being homophobic said he knew since i was young and didnt care at alll and actually when i told the rest of the family he got quite heated about if anyone had a bad reaction (which luckily none of them did)
 
My Mom was totally fine with it. I don't know about my Dad, since he left before I came out. Maybe just as well. My brother is OK, but doesn't want to hear about it. He's scared to death that I'll suddenly start wearing Prada or something.

Considering that I came from a strongly catholic background, I was quite surprised that the world didn't end.
 
Lol. @ loki81,,, yeah,no...im absolutely positive my dad would flip a s*** if he knew that i was into guys since i've done a lot of stuff with girls and dont really bother with labels anyway...but its interesting. I guess some ppl are just really really lucky with the parents when it comes to this kind of situation.
 
I went out-of-state for university, so it was easy for me to come out as being bi when I was 17 and gay at 22. My family is devoutly Catholic and mom to this day has convinced herself that I am just going through a phase. My sisters are totally fine with it, even though I don't have the interior design or fashion sensibilities that all gays are supposed to have. lol
 
Both of my parents were great but struggled in their own way. They told me it was never about the fact that I was gay it was them having to adjust to the fact that the life they had envisioned for me was just not going to happen.

They ultimately just want me to be happy and have been very supportive. My Mom is totally cool with it, my Dad is to but he rarely brings it up, mainly because I think it's something that he doesn't feel he can relate to.
 
CoolguyAT said:
Both of my parents were great but struggled in their own way. They told me it was never about the fact that I was gay it was them having to adjust to the fact that the life they had envisioned for me was just not going to happen.

They ultimately just want me to be happy and have been very supportive. My Mom is totally cool with it, my Dad is to but he rarely brings it up, mainly because I think it's something that he doesn't feel he can relate to.
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Yeah that is what is was with mine to begin with, but they were always very cool, supportive and loving. Just something to get use to.
 
My whole family knows about me, and they all accept it. I wasn't so sure about my Mom's side of the family accepting it at first because they're Jewish, but they accept who I am.

In that aspect I consider myself to be very lucky. :)
 
Unfortunately, you never know what can happen. My parents are very traditional and strict. So I thought my mom would be disappointed and my dad would disown me. Somehow I was completely wrong. They weren't jumping up with joy but they accepted me. And in some ways I felt like they loved me even more at that moment because they realized I had struggled with that my whole life, all by myself.

Then I have had friends who I thought their parents were very cool and open-minded people. But when they heard the news, they freaked out. The good news is that eventually, things did calm down and their parents have accepted it as well.

Regardless of what happens, do it when you know that you will be fine with yourself. I chose to come out when I knew I was strong enough even if they would disown me. Remember that it is your life and it is up to you to make it what it is. I would have been very sad had my parents disowned me. But I still would have been a happier and stronger person having come out.
Good luck to you!
 
My parents asked me what took so long, and told me it had been completely obvious since I was in middle school. They were only upset that I harbored the thought that they would be "so backwards and idiotic" as to think being gay was bad, especially since homosexuality had been part of my sex talk, and they had tried to convey that it was fine.
 
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