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Did I do the right thing?

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So heres the story.

I broke up with my boyfriend of 3 years about two weeks ago when I found out he'd been telling guys he was single, giving out his number and arranging to meet them on nights out. He'd been doing it for the past three years and lying to me about allsorts in that time aswell.

So my question is do you guys think I did the right thing?
 
Thanks. Yeah we were monogamous. At least supposed to be. Feeling lonely and doubting myself. Thanks for the agreement. :)
 
It's not the action so much as the attitude. Plenty of gay guys live in open relationships, but the key word is "open". There's no hiding, sneaking, or "keep it on the downlow". It isn't so much that he hooked up with other guys so much as he tried to do it without you knowing about it. That destroyed the trust that was there, so giving him the boot was the right call.

Lex
 
i know this girl who wont break up with her boyfriend even knowing he cheats on her. maybe she is ok with it but she "took him back" before and hes stil doing it.
 
Lex - thanks for agreeing. We talked about that early on and bothsaidwe couldn't be in an open relationship. I have been in one before and your right, you have to be open all the time.

Evan - I don't know how people do that either. Would never take him back just doubting myself. But thanks guys your helping me get my anger back.
 
There is more to this than someone cheating on you for your entire relationship, the bastard! Some of us are somehow (and I really believe this) subconsciously drawn to guys with issues. I don't know if it's a self esteem issue, or the feeling that we can change a person, or if it's something else, but whatever it is it needs to be addressed. I'm not saying this is you; but if you keep getting burnt it may be something to explore.

The fact that you need to stay angry in order to know you did the right thing is taking a toll on you. Anger is meant to last a short time to get us to take action. Where are your feelings of hurt and saddness? He treated you poorly and took you for granted. You deserve better, way better.
 
Just found out he's already sleeping around. Didn't take long to move on.

And sore- I do feel sad and hurt. But being angry at him helps me get over those feelings and try and move on myself.
 
I feel for you. Please trust me that moving on doesn't just mean getting over. It also means a fearless self-examination. Spend time healing and perhaps some reading so you don't fall for the same type of guy next time. Just saying never again doesn't work. I know.
 
You absolutely did the right thing.

Now. Move on and leave him in the past.
 
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