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Did I Make The Right Choice?!

just_mills

just_mills

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Hey :wave:
Its my first time in this section of the forum, so Im guessing its OK to make my own thread and post it (I did have a little scan over the Sticky's though).

Last night I was at a really big party (it was only full of people that all knew each other)..anyway; the party was like "get yer acid techno out".. Cos it was "that" kind of a party I was on E's aswell as alcohol (which is no big-deal to me anyway)..
Sorry I will get to the main bit soon :lol:

Well, as I was all loved up, I was chatting to two of my mates (both female), and then I just said: "yoo, stop talkin a second, got something super secret to say" ...*silence*... "Guys.. Im Bi" :eek:

They took it well, and said they didnt care anyway, and like it didnt matter, cos Im still the same person etc.. and not as if its THAT much of a difference as I still dig Females anyway..

I told/asked them not to tell anyone else, and I trust them enough that they wont..
But now Im not sure if I made the right choice about telling them or not..?!
I dont fell any better about it, but neither worse..
..And, now I dont know what to do?! :confused: :(

Ive spoken to both of them today, and it wasn't awkward or anything which was cool; was as if I never told them. :-)

(Sorry if you get Threads like this, on a Daily basis) !oops!
 
just go about your daily life, as if nothing has happened. If they have questions or want to talk about it, they will come to you. Welcome to the otherside of JUB!!!
 
OK, so nothing's happened, you don't care that they know and it hasn't changed your relationship?

What's the big deal?
 
Ant; I'll bare that in mind. Cheers ..|
It IS a big deal to me Soilwork.. No matter if it was a positive/negative outcome.
I've been quiet about it for years..
Cant really do that Hty, as we chatted a bit in depth about it last night.

Cant explain it too well, but yeah, sorry; just delete the Thread.
 
so the big deal wasn't the non-reation, it was the fact that being bi is no longer in your head... it's out there and now it's real.

just roll with it..

You'll not even care who knows soon enough.
 
Yeah, that's true looking at it like that.. Thanks :-)
Thinking more and more about it, I am kind of glad that I finally told someone!
 
I just say nice one Mills, sounds like you picked the right people to tell and you should feel good about being honest as to how you feel. Just carry on as normal and even if others were to find out, which I suspect they won't, if they were to stop being your friends because of it then you would be well rid of them. True friends will like you for you not for where you might like to put your dick, or which hole you consume sausages with. :rolleyes: (*8*)
 
Yawn!

Probably everyone else at the party was saying exactly the same thing. And if they were 'mates' then they probably didn't consider you b/f material in the first place. There's nothing more boring than other people's revelations about their sexuality, unless you're secretly dying to bonk them.

Are you sure you're bi?
 
They know it, and that's all that matters! Just carry on with life, and know that you've still got them as friends! :D
 
Dude. What's done cannot be undone. We all know that much.

Taking the worst case scenario: 'You should have not told them. You have made a mistake. You were stoned, etc.'

What are they going to do about it? Are they going to stop paying your rent or putting the food on your kitchen table? Nope, I do not think so.

They might start spreading the news... . Yeah, so you are bi.

The sun will rise tomorrow anyway and skies won't fall down.

And, if anyone chooses not to be your friends, coz, gee, you r 'bi', you'll just have to live with the loss.

SC
 
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spreadeagle said:
Yawn!
Probably everyone else at the party was saying exactly the same thing.
And if they were 'mates' then they probably didn't consider you b/f material in the first place. There's nothing more boring than other people's revelations about their sexuality, unless you're secretly dying to bonk them.
Are you sure you're bi?
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Feeling tired?
Im pretty sure Im the only one who said what I said.
Friends cant be bf/gf material? Thats news to me. I was with one of the people I told for just over half a year, and I know the other has/had a crush on me [not that, that even matters].
I dont find it boring.
Yes I am sure Im Bi. I swing both-ways, and I like it that way. I dont favour one over the other.
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Thanks for the comments/words people.. When I posted this I was on my Comedown, and thought/feelings were spinning around in my head.
Im happy Ive begun to tell people; even if it is Bi, still a big deal to me.
And yes; what's done is done.

:-)
 
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