Did I say something wrong to get blocked? :(

[Hot4Ajay]

There was this guy that I really liked that I met on a dating app and, while it wasn't anything serious, we did have a few long conversations within a span of 3 weeks. He liked me and I liked him. We also talked through video on Skype.

Now one of the conversations we had on Skype was him saying that I don't seem "flaky." I asked what he meant and he said something like "you won't brush me off and ignore me." I said "of course not! I'm not like that!"

Now keeping this in mind I messaged him after he didn't message me for 3 days saying "Do you need some dandruff shampoo for all that flakiness you're giving off? haha ", as a joke. He messaged me soon after saying that I was very rude, that he was glad to see my true colors, and that he's glad to know I'm a piece of shit (with a face). And then preceded to block me. I messaged him immediately after before the block on the dating app and Skype that I was only joking and that I didn't mean for him to get offended somehow. I apologized and said I'm really sorry if I hurt your feelings and I think you're really nice and cute.

He hasn't responded since.

I haven't had many crushes, and I know this wasn't anything serious but it still really made me feel upset about the whole situation. Did I say anything wrong?

 

[HunterM]

Evidently, he did not get your joke. He's the type of person who probably can't take a joke.

As an advice in general, don't insult people in a joking matter unless you know them very well...know that they can take a joke...know that they can laugh at themselves. When in doubt...don't do it.

A compliment goes much further than an insult (even a joking one) in building any relationship (friendship or romance or professional or in business). Honey attracts more bees.

For the next time when you want someone to reply back to you (after they ignored you for a few days), pay them a compliment: "I missed talking to you. Every time we talk, I learn something from you." NOT "Do you need some dandruff shampoo for all that flakiness you're giving off? haha "

 

[Seasoned]

Calling you a piece of shit for making a joke using a reference he made shows where he's at. Sometimes these early misfires are just ways to avoid an awful lot of later grief. Even if he thought you rude there's no excuse for the "piece of shit"comment. He must be one hurtin' dude.

 

[jensu846]

ya, he might have been offended even tho you were joking. I said to a new guy online once that I would love to suck on his fat cock. Thinking he would be flattered. But he was instantly mad saying "don't call my dick fat & nothing on me is fat" I was like hmm, ok. what I thought was a compliment turned ugly real quick. You just never know how things come across online with new guys I guess.

 

[yhtang]

He hasn't responded since.

I haven't had many crushes, and I know this wasn't anything serious but it still really made me feel upset about the whole situation. Did I say anything wrong?

I am inclined to think you dodged the bullet.

You sound witty and intelligent to me; he seems to have a chip on his shoulder. You might be be better off looking for someone else.

Meeting people and creating relationships is not easy, which is why we have the proverbial frog and the prince etc. story. I read you said you have not had many crushes, perhaps you have had, or will one day have to, turn down someone because the vibes are wrong. Today, you were on the receiving end. You will live, you will choose and try out another, you will kiss frogs, and perhaps one day you will find your prince.

Don't beat yourself up over it; it is not your fault. Blame it on the stars if you need to, but do carry on. It is his loss. Heck, if I live closer and am a lot younger, I would be tempted to strike up a conversation with you with the ulterior motive of getting to know you better. (Or should it be Biblically? )

 

[HornyHenry]

He showed HIS true colors so it's no great loss to be rid of him. You held on longer than the "flakes" he whined about but the reason the "flakes" dumped him was most likely the same reason he treated you so shitty.

 

[tarallucci]

I experienced this as well. I knew this guy through a website and we had long chats. We met twice and he was nice and friendly. We were talking like friends after six months and maybe more, we were joking about each other. Until one day he wanted more than friendship from me, and I told him that he was a cute guy but not really my type. He also knew this because I told him all along and he was ok with it.
So, he basically freaked out saying that I offended him and never wanted to talk to me again. I even said I was sorry but he didn't care.

It's people, you can't always expect everything goes well, especially over the internet with this dating madness. I think you did nothing wrong. Let him go his own way. You will find nicer people.

 

[Cormac135]

You had a lucky escape, he's a tool.

 

[Hot4Ajay]

Really, thank you everyone for all the responses I feel much better now about the whole situation. And I guess I'm glad this happened before it got serious.

Thanks again everyone!

 

[sixthson]

Some things, like humor, don't always translate well over text.

 

[TX-Beau]

Which is why you get off your machines and go meet these people.