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Did seeing a Psychologist ever help anyone here? Or am I wasting money?

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I started seeing a therapist to talk about my problems (lonely, can't find someone, feel like I don't have a future, I'll be alone forever, mistakes I've made.....that kind of stuff).

The sessions are costing me a fortune and I was wondering what you all thought about your psychology sessions. Did it really help you solve your personal problems? Did you feel that it might have been a waste?
 
I have more or less the same problems and I honestly think it would be a waste of time and money to see a psychologist :lol:

I'm not saying the job is useless. Maybe I'm not too desperate to seek professional help but I am able to cope by myself. I think that the first reaction has to start from yourself...
 
A mature friend, with sufficient life experience under his belt, might well be much more help, and all for the price of a cup of coffee.
 
I wouldn't be alive today if it wasn't for my therapist.....

She was a wise woman...and she gave me the tools I needed to help myself...and I use them 'til this day...
 
Don't need a therapist/psychologist unless you have a serious mental issues.

Everyone is a psychologist on here, or anywhere.
 
My therapist helped me change perspective on a lot of things, but you may need a doctor who can prescribe.
 
I went to a therapist back in the '90's, he was the best thing for me at that point. I had tried a few others but we didn't connect.
I was really depressed, he helped me through it. He was the first person that I came out to.

Don't be afraid to shop around if you feel that you are not making progress with the therapist that you now have.
 
Are you seeing a psychologist or a psychotherapist, ie psychiatrist?

The issues you are describing don't sound like a psychologist would be able to necessarily help unless you are looking for behaviour modification techniques.

Psychotherapists have been crucial for many people...but what your therapist should be doing is helping you develop coping strategies and pro-active responses that will lead to self-empowerment.

Right off the bat, if you don't think you are getting value out of your therapy sessions, tell your therapist.
 
Nope. I am the best therapist and advisor to myself. However, a discussion on some topics with the relatives or good friends is very usefull, too.
 
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It helped me a lot when I was 19-20 years old.
My psycologist died two years ago and I often think of him, I'd like to ask him for advice again.
 
Waste of time and money.
Find a hobby that helps you socialize and make friends, play sports, go to the gym, whatever rocks your boat.
 
HornyJock said:
Waste of time and money.
Find a hobby that helps you socialize and make friends, play sports, go to the gym, whatever rocks your boat.
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Correct. New hobbies and positive activities in general are crucial when the one feels stuck in life. Meetings with new people, being open minded and willing to change may be the key features in a creation process of a brighter future. No psychologist will do your job.
 
Sometimes a counselor is helpful because he gives us possible answers. Just as often, a counselor is helpful because she may enable us to unlock the doors to the rooms within us where we have already put back the answers that seem to elude us.

And, sadly, sometimes a counselor is helpful because the wrong advise given forces us to look until we find what we know to be the truth.

In your case, you seem to be struggling under the weight of the costs. Don't think of it as counseling versus no counseling. Think of it as paid counseling versus unpaid. Find some alternatives. Use the differences to help you see the wisdom of the truth which will be visible in the mosaic of words.
 
As long as your therapist is supportive and not judgemental, they have the training to get you to talk about what you need to talk about. They also know how to help you sort through the minutia to find where your problems lie. He doesn't necessarily have to find a solution to them. Often times, simply talking about them can make you feel better about you and your future.

Don't let other people's encounters with psychologists sway your thinking. Every case is unique.

By the way, psychologists deal with behaviour. Psychiatrists deal with mental issues. You picked the right one to talk to.
 
I used a psychologist 3 times in my life:

1) I was 20 y/o and had just come out to my mom. She was in disbelief and suggested I see a shrink to get definition. He solved that one early, without prejudice, and we spent the next year talking about the lousy relationship with my dad. He was a big help.

2) I was married in 1975 and had a son 3 years later. 8 years later, without warning, she picked up and took my son with her 2100 miles away. Eventually the divorce was final and I got custudy of my then 4 year old son. My shrink at that time was immensely helpful for me to come to terms with the divorce and my ex's alcoholism. A success.

3) 6 years later I suddenly nosedived into deep depression. I saw another shrink who stabilized me with counsel and a short regimen of antidepressants. Again, success.

In some cases with some people, it works very well. With others, not so much.
 
Natello4 said:
Correct. New hobbies and positive activities in general are crucial when the one feels stuck in life. Meetings with new people, being open minded and willing to change may be the key features in a creation process of a brighter future. No psychologist will do your job.
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I disagree. I was getting this kind of advice often and couldn't do it. In some cases you really need professional help to talk about your problems and solve them.
 
My psychiatrist does little to nothing to help me. He just gives me whatever drugs I ask for - most likely because he thinks I'm so hopeless and almost beyond help that there's nothing to do for me besides drug me.
 
If you don't think he is helping, he is not. Save your money or look for a better one.
 
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