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Did U Come Out Or Were U Outed?

HighParkLover

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Not sure if there is already a thread on this and if so then I apologize but I am curious if you came out on your own or were you outed by someone?


In my own personal case I was outted sorta..... I was engaged to this girl ( yes in the closet denying who I was ) anyhow one night I decided to go to the clubs with friends and while there I met this guy in the washroom ( this was a so-called straight club) anyhow we chatted for abit and I dont remember why but we exchanged phone numbers.

Anyhow the next weekend my fiancee at the time had to go out of town for a convention so I drove her to the airport and I left , when I got home I decided to call this guy I met the week before to see if he wanted to go for a drink or two, he said sure and asked me if I wanted him to pick me up so I said sure why not. Anyhow he picked me up and asked if it was o.k if we checked out this new club downtown... I agreed and we started to head there.

Now I was 22 when all this was happening , I was ignorant to the gay community and had no idea where in the city of Toronto it even was. Anyhow once we arrived at this club called Colby's and we entered I immediately knew we were not in kansas anymore...lol , In other words I was put into the environment of my dreams.... Hot guys everywhere , drinking and dancing with each other it was awesome. I am not sure how he knew I was gay but was glad we ended up where we did.

After dancing and drinking most of the night away we decided it was time for us to head home... he pulled up infront of my place and we were chatting and I invited him in for the night knowing my fiancee would be out of town for the weekend and all and the last time I had a gay fling was like 4 years before this incident so yeah I was horned up like a crazy fool wanting cock.

He came in and we had another drink or two and before long we were in bed with each other, about a hour passed and then all of a sudden my apartment door opened up and my dad and my fiancee were standing there in shock not to mention I was paranoid and the guy I was with didnt know what the hell was going on as he didnt know I was engaged either.... to a woman to boot.

My fiancee took off out the house at 4 am in the morning running down the road screaming , I jumped up , threw on a pair of shorts and went after her. My dad walked over to the fridge grabbed two beers gave my friend one and sat on the edge of the bed and drank his.

Anyhow My fiancee and I broke up of course but have stayed friends , The guy I was caught in bed with we dated for 4 years and my dad told the family about what happened... luckily not one person in my family nor any of my friends turned thier backs on me. I had great support from them all.

If you are wondering why my fiancee was with my dad its because her flight was cancelled, she left her set of keys at our apartment so she took a taxi from the airport to my parents house and my dad decided to drive her over as he had a extra set of keys to our place for emergencies....

Thats my coming out / outed story.
 
Wow, what an amazing story.

It seems like the opening of a movie or TV show. I'm not saying it didn't happen, but it's a great story

I am glad that it worked out in a good way - except, of course, for the girl...sorry for her.
 
Augustburns2 said:
Wow, what an amazing story.

It seems like the opening of a movie or TV show. I'm not saying it didn't happen, but it's a great story

I am glad that it worked out in a good way - except, of course, for the girl...sorry for her.
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Belive me every word I said is truth , my life has been one huge movie it seems...lol. When I have some more time later tonight I will include how my present partner of 15 years was outted and it was because of me but way less drama.... actually its kinda funny.
 
I hope you learned your lesson. Once you get him in the door you don't waste time on a couple of drinks before getting down to business... but I like your dad sitting on the bed drinking a beer with your trick while all this drama is going on, lol...
 
I wish I had a dad like yours... He was cool sitting in the bed with that guy. And the guy was also very calm to stay there with him and another beer.
 
Both.

I came out to my friends and classmates by reading a letter writing assignment to a crush I had when I was on vacation the summer before.

My parents found out earlier because my aunt and uncle found residule porn on their computer and called my parents in a firestorm of panic and whatnot at 2am.

The fam isn't so hot about it, but it's been there long enough that no one is hysterical anymore, not that things are good either.

Friends and classmates, cousins and sister were all cool with it.
 
WOW drama... LOL

I came out to one of my best friendswhen i was 17... my other best friend when i was 18... then all my other friends a month later... 4 months later when i was 19 my mom found my porn... 2 weeks later I started dating a guy and he spent the night a couple weeks later, my sisters figured it out when I came out of my room with a giant (and I mean giant) hickey on my neck. My dad found out I was gay 2 almost a year and a half ago when my folks were away for the weekend and my bf at the time had split up with me and my sister's bf and I got into a huge fight and I ended up having a breakdown and calling my mom at the cottage but my dad answered and heard me crying and yeah my mom told him everything...


everyone was really cool about it.. other than my sisters... they didn't talk to me for 3 months... it was like being on vacation... they've since been really cool
 
A bit of both: as I came out to friends and family the word quickly spread. At first it bothered me however, in retrospect, it was probably easier
 
Well my boyfriends/partners coming out story was way different from mine but kinda funny.

We were actually at a local Kmart shopping for some new bath towels and things for around the house. We have been together for about a year at this time and I still have never met anyone in his family , even when they would visit I would go out and he would tell them he lived alone.... yeah it bothered me but I also knew he would come out when he was ready if ever...lol

Anyhow we were walking down a aisle and he says to me holy shit theres my sister , before I could say or do anything he took off in the opposite direction. Anyhow I continued down the aisle pretending nothing was up and as I was approaching his sister she said to me was the guy you were with named John? I said yeah why? She said thats my brother and why was he running away from me? I said I dont know. Anyhow I introduced myself as Tom a friend of Johns and she then said just a friend? I then said what do you mean? She said to me I know he is gay and if your his boyfriend he should at least tell me.

Anyhow we ended up looking for John and we found him and he ended up telling her the truth but he told her not to tell anyone and she said she wouldnt. The next morning the phone rang off the hook with his brothers , sisters and mom calling to find out if it were true and whats up.

He has 4 brothers and 5 sisters and they all embraced me into the family and never once gave him a hassle. His mother took a few months to understand and try to get use to her son being gay but now the funny thing is I am closer with his mom than he is.
 
Vermilion I really hope things get better with your parents and hopefully with a little time they will understand.

Remember you must make yourself happy before you can make anyone else happy and I wish you the best mate.
 
Archibalder try contacting them back. I hope things go well for you but congrats on living your life for you and not anyone else. Best of luck Mate!
 
I just started telling people. Best friends, mom, coworkers, etc. My extended family and dad are the only ones who don't know, and I'm not in a hurry to tell them. I couldn't care less if my dad ever finds out. My family will probably find out when I bring my future partner to a family function.
 
I came out when I was 20, I decided enough was enough, I was not going to live my life pretending to be someone I wasn't. It's my life, for Gods sake, and anyone who had a problem with my sexuality was their problem not mine.
I never regretted it for one single second.
 
HighParkLover said:
BrandonSBCA how were you outted? I am curious but if you dont want to tell thats cool mate!
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Don't be curious :p After all nobody would want to tell the story of when a pissed off ex-girlfriend put a huge billboard in front of their house saying theyre gay :p
 
Hey tizzy i was born curious but like I said if he doesnt want to tell thats cool but it wont change my curios ways...lol :)
 
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