Discovering Bisexuality

[HartfordGuy]

Nothing really. It is a very personal process. I am gay and have a bisexual friend. I found out after the fact he was. He confessed that he wanted to try it out himself with no encouragement from me. This way he could make his own decisions.

 

[uofaguy7]

at first i didnt really think much of it, but after a little while I thought the idea was cool, of liking both, being a bit more unique. my first bf and first male sexual partner was gay so it gave me more perspective on it

what do u mean prematurely?

 

[Xpione]

I like to fuck girls since i was little. I act 50% feminine prior to puberty. When I fall in love with my best friend, I deny the fact that I am gay because. When I didn't know I am bisexual until I discover that word

 

[neoachilles]

For me, it was a little confusing. It was right around sixth or seventh grade. Now I had just started to notice girls--in fact, I went a little girl-crazy. I was your typical hormone-filled preteen. Then one day I'm messing around with a friend in my backyard, and BAM! I did my best to cover the sudden erection, and, luckily, he didn't notice. I thought it was a fluke--you know, my body responding to physical contact. The true depth of the situation didn't sink in until I found myself having fantasies about guys almost as frequently as my fanasies involving girls.

I was freaked out, but thank God, I had an awesome friend (a guy of all things), who helped me see that what I felt was okay. It simply added to the person I was. He told me to follow my gut and I would be alright.

That's my advice to you. Trust yourself. If you feel as if you want to explore your feelings and your sexuality, go for it. what's the worst that could happen? Love and sexuality aren't black and white: there are a million shades of gray. Find which one best suits you.

 

[kayman23]

I had discovered my bisexuality around puberty. I had known about my attraction to guys since preschool, and I thought that I was gay. However, when I hit puberty, I began to realize that I had an attraction to girls also. At first I was confused, as to I didn't understand what was happening, but then around age 13 I accepted.

 

[SilverRRCloud]

Hmmm. I did not discover much. I started messing around with other guys at the age of 12 and gee, was I making a progress...

Some 5-6 years later, with my interest clearly focused on guys, I made friends with a very cute girl, who was sharing most of my school schedule with me. She was very cool and apparently, she found me attractive. I was gay alright, but hey, I saw an opportunity and I absolutely loved it.

Pretty soon, I started putting my moves on few selected girls, and I was pretty successful. One little love affair followed the other.

I never stopped messing around with the dudes at all. I never promised anything to anyone and 'good time was had by all'... This went on and off for some good 10 years.

Much to my thrill, none of my BFs ever thought I was cheating on him, if I went with a girl. Whatever.

Eventually, my career was picking up and the time I had on my hands for my hm, extracuricular entertainment was getting short. Girls started making firmer demands on me and wanted a meaningful relationship, that would lead to marriage, kids, the white picket fence. In other words, to my ultimate nightmare.

I again refocused on my male friends and have stayed with them ever since.

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I really never thought much about my 'bisexuality'. The opportunities for sex presented themselves in one way or the other. I took them.

SC

 

[AngelFromAbove]

I've never met a bisexual guy who was effeminate. Is it possible?

Anything's possible.

 

[Matthew-]

When you discovered that you were a bisexual, what was your first line of thought?

"Oh no, I just finished telling everyone I am gay, now I will have to start again..."