Do I have a free pass?

[yourson]

So, my girlfriend has told me twice that she finds it hot when she thinks of me with other people and has said twice that she wants me to go out, hook up and sleep with other people. As long as its not emotional and I tell her about it she Saudi should do it.

Thing is the first time she said it she was super horn. The second time she was drunk. While she was drunk and I mentioned she should tell me while sober she said, "I already told you while sober."

So it seems like I have a free pass. Only thing is I don't know if I should mention it one day while hanging out for sober, nonhorny permission and if so, I don't know how to approach it. Or should I just go for it and hook up?

 

[Disturbance]

Discuss it with your girlfriend. Only she knows what she meant.

 

[yourson]

How do I bring it up? Text doesn't seem appropriate and I don't want an awkward conversation where I bring it up out of nowhere.

 

[netgayone]

sounds like a trap to me.

 

[Rolyo85]

The more interesting questions are:

1. Why are you interested in hooking up to begin with?
2. Why are you asking this on a gay forum?

 

[KaraBulut]

How do I bring it up? Text doesn't seem appropriate and I don't want an awkward conversation where I bring it up out of nowhere.

There's a difference between talking about a fantasy and actually experiencing the fantasy. Being practical, part of the excitement of a fantasy is that it is an ideal and reality can seldom equal a fantasy.

That is the situation here. Your girlfriend is turned on by a fantasy about you having sex with other people. That does not mean that you have a free pass nor does it mean that she will necessarily be turned on if you have sex with someone other than her. In fantasies, people don't get jealous and insecure; in reality, they do.

How do you bring it up? She was telling you her fantasy. Tell her your fantasies and talk about whether her fantasy about you having sex with another person is something that she is really okay with you doing. Maybe the compromise for you as a couple is that you invite someone to play with the two of you which allows your girlfriend to both watch and join in if she wants.

 

[TX-Beau]

Somewhere in those hazy memories of my miss-spent youth, I seem to remember having to work this one out. Here's what I found. If they want you to go out and fuck other people - and NOT watch, they don't mean it or they want out. If they want to fuck other people WITH you, they mean it or they want out.

Even IF they mean it, they may very well balk if it ever actually happens - it's very different to imagine a strange penis in your boyfriend's ass, than it is to actually see one making penetration.

So, there you have it. Now, what is up with your post? This is a GF? Who wants you to go out and fuck WHOM, and who is the Saudi she wants to do it?

If you aren't comfortable with it why are you even considering it? Are you really in here looking for permission to go fuck some guys because deep down that's what YOU really want to do? Are you looking for permission to leave your relationship? DO you secretly think she's a freak? DO you secretly think YOU might be a freak? You've left out a bunch of context, so what's up? Inquiring minds what to know!

 

[eastofeden]

Next time you have sex...tell her about how it was when you had sex with this other person..blow by blow. If this is her fantasy...fantasize...pretend it is real.

Pay attention

You will have your answer

 

[altlover85]

Who wants you to go out and fuck WHOM, and who is the Saudi she wants to do it?

I think Saudi might have been autocorrect for "said I", but I'm not sure.

As far as this situation goes, I would probably just talk to her about it and go from there.

 

[Seasoned]

There are no free passes.